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AIBU?

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To be raging my birthday cake was cut?

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Phuquocdreams · 05/05/2019 09:14

Had a big birthday party last night, I was brought an absolutely beautiful cake. After blowing out candles etc, everyone was stuffed so we didn’t cut it and sent it home. Arrived down this morning to find a huge slice out of it! We’re having a celebratory lunch with my kids today and I just assumed we would do the old candles thing with the beautiful untouched cake for their benefit. Is it just me or do you not cut a cake without the birthday girl there? I am ENRAGED, but I can’t really be with them because they were baby sitting for me....so I’m raging on here instead. AIBU???

OP posts:

WithAllIntenseAndPurposes · 06/05/2019 23:25

Why would you take a great big fancy pants cake to a piss up party? Just for a photo
Op?
People really are vacuous these days.
Also I want cake
Thanks

Onecutefox · 06/05/2019 23:55

Cake was shared with all and sundry at noon today with a cup of tea. Rage over, I confirm it was a very nice cake!

Macandcheese05 · 07/05/2019 00:29

@Knickerthief Someone stole a tier of my wedding cake.

this just cant be dropped and ran. how the fuck do you steal a tier of a cake? did they put it in their bag or was it premeditated and they brought tupperware?! how did you find out who it was? did you ever approach them about it. the mind boggles at what some people find acceptable.

@Lweji YANBU means the opposite of what you seem to think it does.

genuinely wish you hadnt told them this .

Teacher22 · 07/05/2019 05:43

This illustrates a truth about life:- there are those who value cake enough to have one made and expect to have peaceful enjoyment of it and those who see another’s untouched celebratory cake with ‘do not touch’ written all over it and who help themselves.

Currently in society these latter CFs are the ones who are being pandered to in every way.And no, it is not all right.

Lesson:- hide the cake and thwart the CFs.

floribunda18 · 07/05/2019 05:53

I think it's not on to take the first slice of someone else's cake without their express permission and I wouldn't do it myself.

They are greedy, rude and lack self-control. Was there literally nothing else they could have eaten? I mean, you'd just make yourself a sandwich wouldn't you if you were hungry?

What sort of mindset tells you to start eating someone else's birthday cake? Are they My Naughty Little Sister and Bad Harry?

youarenotkiddingme · 07/05/2019 06:25

Although raging was probably an overreaction!

I actually don't think YABU to have been annoyed!

If they'd taken a huge slice after started - fair enough! But you just don't open and cut a cake and eat it before the birthday person has cut it or said you can!

Sissyjd · 07/05/2019 09:37

Lol its a bit cheeky but no need to be enraged about it..No theg dhoukdnt if cut it vut its a CAKE!! all.a bit childish tbh. You enjoyed your birthday...get over it, cake will be eaten and enjoyed n gone in a dew days anyway.

Alsohuman · 07/05/2019 10:13

@Floribunda, you do understand that the people who cut the cake were the people who actually paid for it?

Lweji · 07/05/2019 11:04

there are those who value cake enough to have one made and expect to have peaceful enjoyment of it and those who see another’s untouched celebratory cake with ‘do not touch’ written all over it and who help themselves.

What about those who value cakes to have one made for someone else and see the cake was left uneaten?

I can see the AIBU thread: "We've paid a cake for X for her birthday dinner and she sent it back home untouched. AWBU to be enraged by this and eat the cake ourselves?"
Answers: ungrateful cow, etc.

GreenTulips · 07/05/2019 12:29

I can see the AIBU thread: "We've paid a cake for X for her birthday dinner and she sent it back home untouched. AWBU to be enraged by this and eat the cake ourselves except you missed ..... so they could enjoy the cake with their children?

Lweji · 07/05/2019 12:47

except you missed ..... so they could enjoy the cake with their children?

I didn't.
As I didn't miss this bit: Cake sent home in taxi, together with some presents (blame my dh...)

Tthe people who paid for the cake probably didn't know about her plans.
Whatever, the plans, though, it was a cake they gave the OP and it wasn't even cut. Most people would find it odd and some might even find it a snub.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 07/05/2019 12:52

I bet your guests from the previous night were a bit that you were given a big fancy cake and didn't send everyone home with a slice...

AryaStarkWolf · 07/05/2019 12:53

Oh that is cheeky

caringcarer · 07/05/2019 16:10

That is nothing, my wedding sponge got cut, given out to guests and eaten and I did not even get a crumb. We had three tier wedding cake and a sponge for children and bride. I went to the loo and struggled with huge dress on and took ages and when I got back caterers had offered all guest a choice between wedding cake and sponge despite being told the sponge cake was just for children and bride only. I cried.

Alsohuman · 07/05/2019 16:27

It would have taken a lot more than not getting a slice of sponge cake to make me cry on my wedding day, like the groom not turning up, perhaps.

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Phuquocdreams · 07/05/2019 17:32

I cannot believe this thread is still going I got over my rage about 5 minutes after I posted. I think what I’ve learnt from the whole episode is always to cut a cake at a party, and that mumsnetters really really love a thread about cake!

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SaraSidle13 · 07/05/2019 17:54

I've got such a craving for birthday cake now.

Gth1234 · 07/05/2019 17:56

@phuqocdreams

but that's it. It would rankle at the time … and you then you calm down and realise it's not the end of the world.

floribunda18 · 07/05/2019 20:15

@Floribunda, you do understand that the people who cut the cake were the people who actually paid for it?

So if you pay for something it gives you absolute rights over it? I bet you take the wine you brought home from a dinner party.

Quintella · 07/05/2019 20:19

All resolved, that's nice.

But nah, I wouldn't have cared a jot if someone had taken a slice of cake after the whole candles and 'happy birthday to yoooooou' shebang had been played out.

The weird bit was not offering the cake around, that seems stingy.

Butchyrestingface · 07/05/2019 20:23

I cannot believe this thread is still going grin I got over my rage about 5 minutes after I posted.

Must be time for your next birthday by now!

ShowMeTheKittens · 08/05/2019 08:39

Don't be such a meany. It was your family. They paid for it!

cheercaptain · 08/05/2019 08:47

This is why I never cut an uncut cake (unless its mine of course)...no matter how much it calls out to me. OP I hope you feel better now. I am glad I wasn't at your party or I would be on here "raging" about how I never got a piece of the birthday cake.

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