To be raging my birthday cake was cut?

[Phuquocdreams]

Had a big birthday party last night, I was brought an absolutely beautiful cake. After blowing out candles etc, everyone was stuffed so we didn’t cut it and sent it home. Arrived down this morning to find a huge slice out of it! We’re having a celebratory lunch with my kids today and I just assumed we would do the old candles thing with the beautiful untouched cake for their benefit. Is it just me or do you not cut a cake without the birthday girl there? I am ENRAGED, but I can’t really be with them because they were baby sitting for me....so I’m raging on here instead. AIBU???

Honestly you sound like a princess. You had your party last night. Just have some cake for breakfast and chill.

Who were the “family members”?

My bet would be MIL and SIL

I suspect IABU but it’s helping to get it all out here on a page I’ve learnt a hard lesson to always cut a cake at a party. It was so pretty, once no one really wanted it, i just thought I could have another go with it today!

It’s cheeky but raging it a bit OTT.

I'd be a bit disappointed, but fgs, you're not a kid. Get over yourself.

Gosh, I'd never do that and cake is my favourite food. Very cheeky.

Oh some one wanted their moneys worth!

Meh. It's a cake! Not your heart and soul!

Weird and greedy to take it home without offering your guests a piece.

You’ve done the whole singing thing with candles though so they probably thought it was ok.

I personally wouldn’t cut it without asking but I probably wouldn’t get too worked up about it especially as they are babysitting for you.

Come on, the family members are in laws, aren't they???

Or dad and step mum???

It’s a cake, it’s meant to be eaten. You did the candle thing already. Someone obviously had the munchies and fancied a slice 🤣

Erm I think it’s a bit odd to do the whole cake thing twice with the same cake. It’s strange not to cut it after the first time and share it or send it home. Maybe the person who bought it for you really wanted to try it and didn’t think it was an issue given that you’d find your candles. I can see why you’re annoyed but yabu I think

To be honest if people were doing me a favour and babysitting instead of being invited to my birthday party I wouldn’t begrudge them a bit of cake.

Of course it's rude! It's your birthday cake!

At the very least they could have asked before digging in. Birthday cake isn't like the last cup of water in the desert, it's an optional treat so of course they should have waited!

can we see a pic of said cake ?

Wow that was so mean of them! But you're right you can't rage outwardly

It's a bit mean that it wasn't cut and shared out among the guests at the party to be honest. I know you say no one wanted any but you could have given them a piece to take home. I probably would have offered whoever was babysitting a slice to take home with them too. "Raging" seems like a bit of an overreaction.

I imagine they thought you've brought it hom for them.
I think yabu

YABU for not sending your party guests home with a slice of birthday cake (missing the point of the thread) 🤣

Did you at least offer a slice to them? Very rude if you didn't.

It is rude! Wasn’t theirs to cut. Who would seriously cut a proper birthday scale up without asking?

@ChrisPrattsFace You’ve already done the candles thing, so not sure why you would do it for their benefit.
Wouldn’t bother me if I’m honest. I would have had it for breakfast

We normally have to relight the candles several times for my neice and nephew.

No much more beloved than in-laws! They would have been getting some of the cake later anyway. Feeling guilty about my early morning grumpiness now. I would show you a pic but it would be a bit outing!

I feel bad for them that they were stuck babysitting while the rest of you had a big party!