To be raging my birthday cake was cut?

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Had a big birthday party last night, I was brought an absolutely beautiful cake. After blowing out candles etc, everyone was stuffed so we didn’t cut it and sent it home. Arrived down this morning to find a huge slice out of it! We’re having a celebratory lunch with my kids today and I just assumed we would do the old candles thing with the beautiful untouched cake for their benefit. Is it just me or do you not cut a cake without the birthday girl there? I am ENRAGED, but I can’t really be with them because they were baby sitting for me....so I’m raging on here instead. AIBU???

I'd be v disappointed that my kids lost the pleasure of the whole thing and the opportunity to do the candle thing too. If it were MIL babysitting thoughh, I'd've felt lucky enough she wasn't gate-crashing my party so would have paid in a couple of slices for that.

Rude to help yourself to someone else's cake without asking even if you are related.

Is that you Miss Havisham?

Cakes are for cutting. It was cheeky but, you know, it’s time to get over it.

Why weren't they at your party then if they were more beloved than the in laws??

You should call the police

I'm an adult, and make a wish on the first cut of cake (I don't know how widespread this is; in my family we have a wish on candles and on first cut)

I'd be pretty damn disappointed.

You had already done the candle thing though

Actually I felt sorry for you but you seem to be a bit too princessy for me,bit too me me me.

If I get the scenario right. Birthday party. Family and kids there. You did happy birthday. No one wanted cake. Darling family members go home with your kids and the cake. Their mum paid for the cake. They are cake. Get over it. In our family I would still bring it out with candles and we would all laugh - at me trying to pass off the cake a second time and also because my family would know how annoyed I'd be at them cutting it. Lol. So I feel your pain. But...

I'd be disappointed if I were a party guest and had seen your beautiful cake and then not been allowed a slice to have later in the party or take home :(

You sent it home? You didn't take it home with you?

So the person that paid for it, or knew the person that paid for it, was at your house when your cake arrived uncut. It must have seemed very odd that you didn't cut the cake at the party.

I'm not surprised they had some, if probably seemed like you didn't appreciate it!

I feel your pain tbh. Under those circumstances I'd have wanted to bring what was now my lovely cake out at some point today to cut and offer.

Years ago a special similar thing with our names on was given to dh and me to celebrate something. I wasn't well enough to have it and I came down in the morning and dh and fil had had ALL of it. I couldn't believe it. Dh said "Oh, you weren't here so we took a view". I still can't believe it now!

I also think YABU to not give the guests some cake to take home. I'd have been disappointed.

I wouldn't be annoyed about the cake being eaten. Thats what it is there for and you had already done the candle thing.

When you say that you sent the cake home-whilst you stayed at the party venue?

My wedding cake was ate at the venue the night of the wedding, after cutting it. Came down to pick it up early afternoon and apparently the staff had thought it was left over! My dh and I hadn't even tasted it.

Same here Mask (although I think it conflicts a bit with adult in some opinions) so we blow and cut simultaneously. You send the cake home with guests surely?

You were a CF for not cutting it last night at the party- of course people wanted cake, I assume that you offered reluctantly or they were trying to be polite. You cut it an offer- don't assume they are stuffed.

People who take cakes to a party and then take them home just appear cheap and miserable.

It was more of a boozy friends party last night. The celebrations are continuing over the weekend with family (and into another weekend with family - yes, that’s definitely princessy but it’s turning into a bit of a family tradition at this stage to have multiple celebrations for significant birthdays). I actually thought the cake would be more appreciated by sober family at the lunch than boozed up friends. Well I guess they did appreciate it, just in my absence

I’d be fuming! It’s your cake!! What a bloody cheek, I’m annoyed for you OP.

Definitely we should have cut the cake at the party.

Of course you always cut the cake.
Even full up guests will eat a small slice.
And nobody will want to be the single voice saying they want a slice.
Just cut it and offer it around. Worst case they'll take it home.

Also, the sugar would probably have helped with any hangovers.

I'm an adult, and make a wish on the first cut of cake

You do know that you can make wishes at anytime, right? And wishes are all bollocks anyway

Blowing out candles twice? To put on facebook or instagram? You sound like very hard work.

Pop out and buy another cake if you need to blow out more candles. Or just put some candles in your dessert?

Why didn't you cut the cake at the party? That's what it was there for. Even if you didn't want a slice other people might have done (and clearly did as they want ahead and cut it as you hadn't).
Am I right in thinking the person who ate it actually bought the cake for you for the party? If that's the case I can't really see how you can be cross with them. They might actually be rather annoyed that they bought you the cake and you even didn't even bother to cut and serve it at the party. They may well feel you didn't appreciate it.

Also, did you not have a cake for the family today?
But you did for boozy friends?
Why?