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To be raging my birthday cake was cut?

248 replies

Phuquocdreams · 05/05/2019 09:14

Had a big birthday party last night, I was brought an absolutely beautiful cake. After blowing out candles etc, everyone was stuffed so we didn’t cut it and sent it home. Arrived down this morning to find a huge slice out of it! We’re having a celebratory lunch with my kids today and I just assumed we would do the old candles thing with the beautiful untouched cake for their benefit. Is it just me or do you not cut a cake without the birthday girl there? I am ENRAGED, but I can’t really be with them because they were baby sitting for me....so I’m raging on here instead. AIBU???

OP posts:
Babykoala1 · 05/05/2019 10:09

If once you the candles were done and you said "does anyone want a slice?" I'd assume the offer still would stand later on 😬

category12 · 05/05/2019 10:09

Cake Here you go.

Never mind, OP, worse things happen at sea.

Onecutefox · 05/05/2019 10:11

Also I couldn’t have sent the cake home with the guests - this wasn’t a kids party, there weren’t party bags
Napkins?
And I thought it would be nice to have with all the family today including my kids and the babysitters
So secretly, you wanted that cake to be cut at home. WinkGrin

What's the cake like? I feel like having a slice as well. Haven't had the breakfast yetGrin

Holidayshopping · 05/05/2019 10:11

Wasn’t there a post last week about a party where they did the candles for a beautiful cake which then wasn’t cut but was bundled off home intact to be used at a family party. Wasn’t there much outrage?!

Maybe the babysitters thought you were sending it back for them to have some?

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 05/05/2019 10:14

might have helped myself to a slice if it had been already cut, but I wouldnt cut someone elses lovely unspoiled cake.

No option but to hunt them down and punish them OP. No other reasonable way to deal with cake defilers.

LellyMcKelly · 05/05/2019 10:21

Did they know the candles had already been blown out? If so, it wouldn’t be unreasonable of them to assume it was open season on the cake. I wouldn’t do it personally, but I could see why someone might have.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 05/05/2019 10:22

I would have found it rude that the cake wasn't cut at the party for guests to enjoy after being made to watch an adult blow out candles. However most adults I know don't have birthday parties anymore.

I certainly wouldn't have relit the candles again the following day so wouldn't have minded it actually being eaten.

Orangeballon · 05/05/2019 10:22

You should have cut it at the party and allowed people to choose whether they wanted a slice or not, this was ver greedy of you to take the cake home without cutting it. Shame on you!

RedForShort · 05/05/2019 10:23

Very disappointed by all posters so far. Very. Missed opportunity:

OP, you can't have cake and not have people eat it

PinaColadaPlease · 05/05/2019 10:24

I think it’s rude to cut someone else’s cake but as long as I liked the person that had eaten a slice it wouldn’t bother me too much.

After a night out it would have been cut when I got home or the next morning for breakfast, it would never still be intact by lunchtime!

LagunaBubbles · 05/05/2019 10:26

Who are the babysitters?

Onecutefox · 05/05/2019 10:27

Holidayshopping, I have also experienced a few kids birthday parties where the parents of the birthday person would take the cake home and leave the guests with muffins. I find it all just a bad taste.

thiscannotbenormal · 05/05/2019 10:28

I would never cut an uncut cake but probably would sneak a bit off the side from one that already was.

DogHairEverywhere · 05/05/2019 10:30

I think it's rude, but i wouldn't be raging. I'd still do the candles and things with the kids, just explain someone took a slice and carry on.

Onecutefox · 05/05/2019 10:30

I think if I wanted my cake to be intact I would have left a note.

cheesenpickles · 05/05/2019 10:30

I would still do candies and singing anyway with a big slice taken out. That'll make them feel awkward af. I'd be annoyed too but it feel vaguely akin to the type of rage my toddler had when I don't cut her toast correctly. Not really necessary but irksome nonetheless.

luckylavender · 05/05/2019 10:30

Not an issue. You've done the cake thing.

thiscannotbenormal · 05/05/2019 10:31

I actually think it's weird for someone to just cut another person's uncut birthday cake. Surely this would suggest it wasn't cut for a reason.

Onecutefox · 05/05/2019 10:33

cheesenpickles, eye for an eye?

FancyAPint · 05/05/2019 10:43

Maybe it was the taxi driver!

Schuyler · 05/05/2019 10:44

I also really want to know who the babysitters are!

RedForShort · 05/05/2019 10:44

Or the DH with the munchies after cheap cocktails!!

TrickyD · 05/05/2019 10:48

If the cake arrived unaccompanied in a taxi, with no explanations about your plans for its consumption the next day, perhaps the babysitters thought it was meant as a nice treat for them.

EdWinchester · 05/05/2019 10:49

Meh. It’s a slice of cake.

Just eat the rest and save your rage for something less silly.

ElloBrian · 05/05/2019 10:49

It’s clearly the grandparents!

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