to not want traditional fairy tales used in DD's class

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P1 5yo DD's class are doing a range of activities around Fairyland being lost. I don't hear any chat from dd about anything challenging gender norms. For example, she tells me they are making a castle for sleeping beauty this week so the handsome Prince can come and wake her up. Obviously I've discussed the consent issue with her. This seemed to be new news...

AIBU in wanting a chat with her teacher to check on the truth and encouraging some challenge... or will I be "that parent"?

Could be worst. The could do the ORIGINAL fairytales

Consent about being woken up? Why is this new news if it’s so important to you? Surely you have already discussed this with her? She’s 5 years old for goodness sake!!!!

I think you’ll be ‘that parent’ can you not just read alternative versions at home?

You’ve discussed the consent issue with her - in relation to a bloody fairy tale??

If you're discussing sexual consent with your 5 year old, you're already that parent tbh.

And I'm as feminist as they come.

You will in fact be handed a large flashing sign with THAT PARENT written on it
Seriously, don't do it, just balance the school fairy tales with your own stories and conversation at home.

She's 5. Really can you just let her enjoy the stories and activities? Discuss them at home and talk about female leaders and heroes. Watch Frozen, Moana, Brave with her but yes tbh you would be 'that parent' if you went in with this.

You should home school op. That way you can veto and censor the curriculum as you choose fit.

I obviously assume at home you haven't watched any Disney.. didn't read fairy tales? You can continue that as you see fit.

Seriously? Get a grip. They are fairy tales.

You will be "That Parent" for the next ten school years. In fact they may give you the award outright.

It's an entirely appropriate context to raise the idea of consent (e.g. why does the Prince think it's ok to kiss someone who hasn't agreed to it). Its age appropriate and non threatening.

And helping your children understand about consent as early as possible to entrench the expectation is not a wacky idea.

The book "the paper bag princess" is a pretty good antidote to this. As is Frozen.

She is 5.
They are fairy tales.
You are discussing consent in fairy tales with a 5 yo.
YABU.

Pls have a word with yourself.

Does it hurt to be as woke as you are? i trust you don't do that santa claus nonsense either

You will be "that parent".

Will you ask school to ban tales of the old man that sneaks into your bedroom once a year, dressed in red, too OP?

This is one of the times I wonder what's happening with the world......

She is 5. You "discussed the consent issue with her"?? I am all for strong female role models etc, but fairy tales at 5 aren't setting her up for a life chained to a cooker barefoot and pregnant. Let yer enjoy the class activities, and maybe buy her a few books with more independent princesses etc. I recommend The Ordinary Princess.

YABU

Check on the truth with her teacher? What does that actually mean?

YABU

And yes you will be that parent.

I don’t even know where to start with this........

i trust you don't do that santa claus nonsense either

Maybe the letter to Santa includes formal consent to enter the premises.

Jesus. Yep. You are that parent. She is FIVE!!!

OP the prince kisses her because the only way to wake her up and break the curse is to kiss her. Ffs. It's not cos he fancies a shag is it?

I know I'd rather get a peck on the lips from a stranger than stay in a coma for twenty billion years.