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AIBU to think my OH is a complete twat?!

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Fatandpregnant · 23/04/2019 21:21

So I’m 6 months pregnant and we all know insecurities come with being pregnant. None the less my “classroom clown” OH still loves to make comments on other women on the telly and whatnot... it’s half said in jest but it’s often enough that I just roll my eyes and tell him he’s annoying. His most used phrase is “I’d fold it” to pretty much anything with a pulse. Don’t get me wrong we have quite a jokey relationship and don’t take too much to heart. But today he has waaaay overstepped the mark.

I messaged him on Instagram showing him a celebrities story as they were doing a really cool giraffe feeding thing with their kids saying “wow isn’t this amazing, id love to do this”. His response was “do you wanna know what I wanna do”... I said “no, safari?”

Then the next thing to come through was a photo of a girl off the telly on a trashy show in her underwear. He’d mentioned she “was a bit of him” last night.

AIBU to think it was so unnecessary, disrespectful, insensitive and down right rude. I am livid. And I told him so. Did I get an apology? No. Instead I was called a boring c**t for not finding his joke funny.

I’ve been on and off in tears all day since.

Please tell me I’m not overreacting or being hormonal?

OP posts:
NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 23/04/2019 21:24

Awww, I think you're probably a teeny bit hormonal to be honest.

I'd have laughed my head off.

Is he usually a joker?

GirlcalledJack · 23/04/2019 21:26

I don’t think it’s particularly funny tbh.

As for laughing my head off HmmConfused

Maybe I’m just not a cool wife 🙄

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Fatandpregnant · 23/04/2019 21:26

He is and if it was in context I’d have laughed. Don’t get me wrong if I reacted to every comment he made I’d be crying every night!! This was just so off the mark and had no relevance whatsoever to what I was talking about. And just really pissed me off to be honest!

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WhenISnappedAndFarted · 23/04/2019 21:26

Has he always come out with things like this?

Shrewbie · 23/04/2019 21:27

Re your old post email mum's net to take it down xxx

AutumnCrow · 23/04/2019 21:28

Why put this on AIBU? You know you're going to get the opposite of sympathy. FWIW I think he sounds incredibly boring.

Original poster
Fatandpregnant · 23/04/2019 21:28

Maybe he’ll make a comment if we’re watching telly together but not just randomly sending me pictures of half naked girls saying he wants to “do them”. He knows I’m insecure at the moment because I’m carrying his baby!

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Youseethethingis · 23/04/2019 21:28

He’s a complete twatbadger, OP, it’s not your hormones. Firstly, his “jokes” are shite, dim witted and disrespectful. Secondly, and more significantly to me, he was beyond the pale to call you that. If you upset your pregnant, vulnerable partner (I’m 6 months pregnant too, so I feel you) you bloody well apologise nicely and try not to do it again! You DO NOT compound it by throwing around horrible laddish insults.
Is the twatbadgerness a new fun thing or has he always been like this?

pallisers · 23/04/2019 21:28

Christ he sounds tedious. It must be like beng married to a 13 year old who has just discovered his penis. Right down to calling you a boring cunt when you don't laugh along with him. Good luck OP.

legalseagull · 23/04/2019 21:28

Weird. Sexist.

Original poster
Fatandpregnant · 23/04/2019 21:29

Autumn crow... not quite sure what you mean by your comment so you can just scroll on by

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WhenISnappedAndFarted · 23/04/2019 21:30

I wouldn't be happy either OP, YANBU.

If he'd done this stuff before and you laughed along with it then maybe you could put it down to hormones. This isn't the case.

All relationships are different and some would be okay with it. I wouldn't be, you aren't and you have every right to tell him that. It doesn't make you boring.

How would he feel if you did that to him?

Pumperthepumper · 23/04/2019 21:30

This thread is going to fill up with ‘it’s just a joke! Are you always so serious?! I’d have laughed SO MUCH, that’s just so hilarious to be six months pregnant and have to listen to your partner telling you about other women he want to fuck - and then sending you pictures of these women too! My sides are literally splitting, what a king among men!’

He’s a dickhead. He’s not funny, and I’d take a guess that he uses his shit sense of humour to keep you in your place. And I say that as someone who doesn’t know what ‘I’d fold it’ means.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 23/04/2019 21:31

What does "I'd fold it" mean?

thelastgoldeneagle · 23/04/2019 21:33

He called you a cunt for not find8ng his pathetic ‘joke’ funny? Wow.

He’s not funny. Sounds like an immature twat.

What does ‘I’d fold it’ even mean?!

AryaStarkWolf · 23/04/2019 21:33

Presumably "it" is the woman? Nice

acomingin · 23/04/2019 21:35

He sounds like a bit of a loser. Dirty old man in the making.

CryptoFascist · 23/04/2019 21:35

So much wrong here. It sounds like you're completely beaten, down that you accept this crap and try to laugh along with it.
Why does he think it's ok to talk to you like you're one of his laddish mates?

Namechange2857 · 23/04/2019 21:35

What a dick. I’d be livid too, so disrespectful.

Namechange2857 · 23/04/2019 21:36

You should start doing the same back to him, see how he likes it!

Pk37 · 23/04/2019 21:37

He sounds like a prick . End of story

MsLucyHoneychurch · 23/04/2019 21:38

He talks about women in a really distasteful way.

FoxSake · 23/04/2019 21:38

He called you a Cunt? LTB, he’s not funny he’s an obnoxious, insensitive, chauvinistic pig.

Veterinari · 23/04/2019 21:38

He sounds like a boring mysogynistic arsehole

Veterinari · 23/04/2019 21:39

*Misogynistic

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