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DP gave my Easter Egg & phone to his DS

225 replies

ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 19:24

Just writing this seems petty but I’m just pissed off.
Due a huge change in financial circumstances I’ve recently gone back to work. I needed immediate payment & advertised for cleaning work. Within a few days I had a full diary. As many of you know it’s long hard work but to be honest I really enjoy it. I’ve been with the same clients/customers for about 6-8 weeks.
DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along) . Right now £50 a day is a bigger opportunity to me !
Last week a client left me a lovely (expensive) egg. I was absolutely chuffed as it was the first ever gift/thank you I’d ever received (worked in construction for 25 years previously) .
3 months ago DP upgraded his phone & gave me his old phone (2 more newer model than my current model). I transferred everything across & it’s much better than my old one. 3 days ago his youngest (14) DS lost his phone .
We found an old phone of DPs but the screen is cracked badly & a very old model. DP doesn’t want his DS to have this phone so i had to return the phone he’d given me & I will have to have the cracked phone.
I’m reasonable- I’ve got the phone- I cannot download my everyday apps I need because it won’t upgrade to the new software . It’s a phone- I’ll manage.
Where is my Easter Egg though ? He gave it to his DS as his present.
I’m a bit fuming

OP posts:
IncrediblySadToo · 23/04/2019 21:43

It sounds like you’re ready to take the leap...we are all here behind you!

If you were my neighbour, you’d be more than welcome to stay while we were away and for longer if you wanted to start looking for a new place to rent.

How long have you been with this twat?

Make sure you get all your stuff and if he has money/something that can be sold, that too. You’ve sold your car to pay bills and god knows can what else while he sits on his arse, get whatever you can to set yourself up again.

I’m roughly your age...it’s the new 30. 😉. You’ve got this.

SilverySurfer · 23/04/2019 21:45

You're a strong, successful, hard-working woman who doesn't need this cocklodger in your life. I was given a large easter egg, wish I could send it to you. Good luck LTB - you will be a thousand times happier without him.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 23/04/2019 21:46

How long have you been together?

clippityclop · 23/04/2019 21:47

You sound lovely and deserve so much better. Have you confronted him yet?

Thegoodthere · 23/04/2019 21:47

Well done, op, you can do it. Everyone is behind you x

MyHomey · 23/04/2019 21:49

Leave leave leave leave

Time40 · 23/04/2019 21:55

Just writing this seems petty but I’m just pissed off

No. No, it's not petty. I think you know that now.

You sound absolutely lovely, OP. You sound really strong and positive, and I think you could have the makings of a great new cleaning business.

This partner of yours, in contrast, sounds vile. He's a total waste of space. For the love of God, get rid of him. LTB!!! Now!

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 23/04/2019 21:57

Gobsmaked reading this.
Please tell him to leave and then buy yourself the biggest egg you can find- if there’s any left!
What a horrible bitter person he is.
You deserve so much better FlowersFlowers

Armadillostoes · 23/04/2019 21:58

Honestly OP, your age is nothing! You have so much energy and (in all probability) so many years. You have decades to live a wonderful, fun life without this cruel, mean excuse for a partner.

Mummyoflittledragon · 23/04/2019 22:02

Time to be rid of dead weight. Horrid man.

Original poster
ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 22:07

Thank you all.
Just finished cooking dinner. I love cooking .
Tonight i cooked & probably realised this would be one of the last times. It’s a relief.
I have no certainty about what lays ahead & the one certainty I have is that it will be difficult.
But
Big girls pants
It feels like a crossroads
I’m choosing the - it’ll be shit for a while. Pot noddles will be your friend. Can I work more hours.
I’m choosing- my decisions

OP posts:
DesertSky · 23/04/2019 22:09

Take it as a lesson learnt - life is all a learning curve. You have no big ties to this man so you stand tall and wave adios! Well done you for getting out there and working hard. Now concentrate on you. You don’t need to invest any more time or money into this man who has no respect or appreciation for you. Good luck OP you CAN do this!

DistanceCall · 23/04/2019 22:14

You're doing the right thing, OP. Be strong.

We're all ceering for you on here!

MotherOfDragonite · 23/04/2019 22:15

You are brave and fabulous! I have just read this whole thread and it sounds as if you have realised how strong and capable you are -- and how unappreciated you have been. Here's to that changing!

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 23/04/2019 22:15

I don't know if this helps at all, but I'm in a very similar situation (with an added 4 kids!) and today I was feeling very lost and helpless. You've really inspired me and I'm going to be much more proactive now, and find a way out for us. Thank you, OP.

lauryloo · 23/04/2019 22:23

Rooting for you OP - you've got this

3dogs2cats · 23/04/2019 22:24

If I were you, I’d get him out, but if you don’t feel confident to do that, look for a live in housekeeper job. Be choosy. 48 is young. You will be fine. Sending you best wishes

Floralhousecoat · 23/04/2019 22:31

Since you don't have kids, if you need extra income to help you ltb, you could offer house sitting/pet sitting services to your clients. And you could take on an employee or 2!!

Fly high, op. You sound like a good person and good things will happen for you.

trendingorange · 23/04/2019 22:32

And his good points are? ....

TheInebriati · 23/04/2019 22:33

ItsAllTitsUp49 Doing it is scary and stressful, its hard for a few months as you get on your feet, then gets easier. Flowers

Petalflowers · 23/04/2019 22:34

I read the first page and have jumped to the last.

I was astounded that he upgraded his phone, despite not working, and gave youregg away.

Haven’t read the inbetween updates, but I gather you have decided a bright new shiney, chocolate-filled future without him. Wishing you all the best.

SnapesGreasyHair · 23/04/2019 22:36

@ItsAllTitsUp49 - what is your next step ?

quizqueen · 23/04/2019 22:37

Find something of his own he really likes and just give it away. Only then will he understand what he has done.

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 · 23/04/2019 22:46

Your age doesn't matter.
You've already proved that you can pull yourself up by your bootstraps - it's bloody amazing that you've created your own business out of nowhere.
You don't need this cocklodger. Partners are supposed to be the ones who encourage and support you, not resent your success and try their best to bring you down. Removing him from your life will only add joy to it Smile

ByeClaire · 23/04/2019 22:46

Him giving his son the egg without asking you is nasty. It’s a deliberate attempt to dismiss and belittle both you and your lovely client (for appreciating you). I’d be really upset if I gave a thoughtful and expensive gift to someone who worked in my home and they were thrilled, but someone jealous and emotionally abusive gave it away in order to deprive you of joy.

As for the phone - you haven’t answered this W by others by why couldn’t you revert back to your original, older modem phone? Not that you should have to give up the new one.

Can’t wait to hear that you’ve kicked him out or left him and found your own place Flowers

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