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DP gave my Easter Egg & phone to his DS

225 replies

ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 19:24

Just writing this seems petty but I’m just pissed off.
Due a huge change in financial circumstances I’ve recently gone back to work. I needed immediate payment & advertised for cleaning work. Within a few days I had a full diary. As many of you know it’s long hard work but to be honest I really enjoy it. I’ve been with the same clients/customers for about 6-8 weeks.
DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along) . Right now £50 a day is a bigger opportunity to me !
Last week a client left me a lovely (expensive) egg. I was absolutely chuffed as it was the first ever gift/thank you I’d ever received (worked in construction for 25 years previously) .
3 months ago DP upgraded his phone & gave me his old phone (2 more newer model than my current model). I transferred everything across & it’s much better than my old one. 3 days ago his youngest (14) DS lost his phone .
We found an old phone of DPs but the screen is cracked badly & a very old model. DP doesn’t want his DS to have this phone so i had to return the phone he’d given me & I will have to have the cracked phone.
I’m reasonable- I’ve got the phone- I cannot download my everyday apps I need because it won’t upgrade to the new software . It’s a phone- I’ll manage.
Where is my Easter Egg though ? He gave it to his DS as his present.
I’m a bit fuming

OP posts:
InceyWinceyette · 23/04/2019 19:58

Your employer who gave you the egg shoes more appreciation of you than he does.

Pebbles16 · 23/04/2019 19:58

your post makes me so sad. You are doing great.

Ruru8thestars · 23/04/2019 19:59

Leave this arsehole

Wheresmyvagina · 23/04/2019 20:00

Why do you keep him around? Horrible man

Samind · 23/04/2019 20:00

Yeah, I'd be fuming too.

Mintandthyme · 23/04/2019 20:01

How long have you been with him?

whyohwhyowhydididoit · 23/04/2019 20:01

How long have you been together?

FuzzyLilac · 23/04/2019 20:01

Do you even realise what a happy successful life you could have without this arse dragging you down?

I can only echo all of the other posters but FOR GODS SAKE WOMEN LEAVE THIS DEADBEAT!!!

VenusClapTrap · 23/04/2019 20:02

Funnily enough I ended a relationship over an Easter egg (or lack of it) many years ago. It was a small, simple moment that made the scales fall from my eyes, and I left the selfish pillock. I hope you do the same.

I’d like to send you an Easter Egg, if you pm me your address Smile

Iamnobirdandnonetensnaresme · 23/04/2019 20:02

He won't take a job in case something better comes along. In the mean time he can't be paying maintenance for his son, but can afford the latest phone?
You are working you nuts off and he's using the car to visit mates.
He sounds immature,
What future do you see with this man?

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 23/04/2019 20:02

So, have you asked him where your egg is?
What did he say?

ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 20:03

We met when I was at a vulnerable stage in my life.
He picked me up but now I feel he picked me up to the stage he wanted to & now I’m picking myself up & actually bloody being proactive he doesn’t like it.
I feels bloody marvellous to be out there & doing something ANYTHING.
I come home & he’s still posting on LinkedIn- looking for the perfect job but I’m in the here & now .
Food/bills/petrol have to be paid for & im bloody proud of my earnings

OP posts:
Nameisthegame · 23/04/2019 20:03

Every update is worse! He is a awful financially abusive guy! When me or my ex weren’t working we put every effort into making sure the person working could succeed. You deserve better xxx

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/04/2019 20:04

You sound awesome but you’re letting yourself down by staying with someone who is treating you like this Flowers

NoParticularPattern · 23/04/2019 20:04

I mean what does he actually bring to the table? Because it seems to me like you’d be massively better off (financially, emotionally and chocolate-y) if you didn’t have to deal with this absolute waste of skin on a daily basis. Does he have any redeeming features at all (and believe me, they’d have to be absolutely fucking brilliant ones the way I’m seeing it right now.....)

KittensinaBlender · 23/04/2019 20:04

Cocklodging Shit Lord. Bin him - it’ll be one of the most advantageous cleaning jobs you ever do.

keepforgettingmyusername · 23/04/2019 20:04

Get rid!! He doesn't appreciate you, he's happy to see you slogging away day after day while he sits on his fat lazy arse AND he gives away your stuff! LTB!!!!

HalfBearOtherHalfCat · 23/04/2019 20:05

Sounds like he is a shit who doesn't want you feeling happy, appreciated or successful. So what's the point of him?

If I were you I would be trying to get myself to a place where I could move on without this crappy man infesting my life.

TheTrollFairy · 23/04/2019 20:06

So what does he contribute if he has no incomings, no job and gives your stuff away? How does he put petrol in his car to see his son?
Have you been together long?
Did you at least pull him up on the egg?

He doesn’t sound like a keep OP

wotsittoyou · 23/04/2019 20:06

Woah! Not petty at all! He's treating you horribly. You deserve much better.

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2019 20:06

Your employer who gave you the egg shoes more appreciation of you than he does.

Yes indeed.

From your OP:

DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along)

A bigger opportunity has already come along for him hasn't it? It's you.

What exactly does this cocklodger contribute to the household costs?

You deserve better than some feckless man using you to fund his idleness

incogneto · 23/04/2019 20:07

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NumbersStation · 23/04/2019 20:07

You deserve so very much more Sad

Leave him and find yourself someone who appreciates you and loves you Flowers

IvanaPee · 23/04/2019 20:08

What the fucking fuck are you doing with this prick?

Nameisthegame · 23/04/2019 20:08

You should be proud! Your working hard and seeing results