DP gave my Easter Egg & phone to his DS

[ItsAllTitsUp49]

Just writing this seems petty but I’m just pissed off.
Due a huge change in financial circumstances I’ve recently gone back to work. I needed immediate payment & advertised for cleaning work. Within a few days I had a full diary. As many of you know it’s long hard work but to be honest I really enjoy it. I’ve been with the same clients/customers for about 6-8 weeks.
DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along) . Right now £50 a day is a bigger opportunity to me !
Last week a client left me a lovely (expensive) egg. I was absolutely chuffed as it was the first ever gift/thank you I’d ever received (worked in construction for 25 years previously) .
3 months ago DP upgraded his phone & gave me his old phone (2 more newer model than my current model). I transferred everything across & it’s much better than my old one. 3 days ago his youngest (14) DS lost his phone .
We found an old phone of DPs but the screen is cracked badly & a very old model. DP doesn’t want his DS to have this phone so i had to return the phone he’d given me & I will have to have the cracked phone.
I’m reasonable- I’ve got the phone- I cannot download my everyday apps I need because it won’t upgrade to the new software . It’s a phone- I’ll manage.
Where is my Easter Egg though ? He gave it to his DS as his present.
I’m a bit fuming

He stole your Easter egg without even asking. He can bloody replace it!

He took back gift of a phone that you use for work that pays the bills..

He used your money from sale of your car, but won't let you use his/your now shared car for work when you need it.

He doesn't work and you do.

He is royally taking the piss.

First wage, buy yourself a new phone, same model, it's an essential for your business (if you are self employed it's a business expense) Then buy or rent a car. Leave the bills for his car for him as it's clearly not a shared car.

And tap your fingers asking when he will contribute and if it's not soon, then work out if you can get a lodger instead of him. He might prefer living alone paying his own bills!! 😡

Omg...and you're with him because..?

Use this thread as your way of figuring out what you want to do with your relationship.

Do you want to be with him anymore?

*deductable business expense

That’s the thing - my age -I’m 48.
I had a great life unfortunately my husband & I divorced under difficult circumstances.
I tell myself (& believe) age doesn’t matter.
Working is my first step onto the long & worthwhile path ahead.
Thing is - I used to be afraid. That I couldn’t do it but the last few months have proved I can.
The next step is a much needed one - to be brave on my own. I’m scared shitless - not to be on my own but just to take that step.
The egg & phone are really just a catalyst but I’m worthy

Oh my god. I’ve never ever said it but LTB!!

He is just doing nothing and treating you like crap. Why does he get a new phone if he’s not working ? Why has he got a car ? Who’s where the debts you sold yours to pay off ?

He's told you your pecking order. You who provide housing and subsidize him, and need a phone for your work are less than his 14 yo son who broke his phone and could wait for a replacement. And probably eats your food too.

He can go and live in his fucking car then. When is the tenancy agreement up? I'd have hit the fucking roof over the egg. Lazy unemployed cunt couldn't even buy his kid an Easter egg. The phone, nah, he'd have not got that back.

DS loses phone, DS gets cheap basic paygo until he saves up enough to contribute to a new fancy phone/contract and get the rest as birthday Christmas money.

What a bastard.

You are more than worthy

This guy is an illogical wanker. An adult (you) NEEDS a reliable phone, especially when you’re running your own cleaning business. A 14 year old does not NEED the best phone in the house; he could take the one with the cracked screen. So the ONLY reasons for DP to take the phone from you and give it to his DS are to screw you over and/or intentionally try to make you fail. As for the Easter egg, that’s just pathetic behavior on his part; what a selfish man-child throwing a strop. I’m so sorry, OP, but I think a previous poster is absolutely correct: the employer who gave you the Easter egg values you more than your “D”P does. Bin him and find someone who does appreciate you.

He is a selfish knob. The 14 year old just doesn't need a better phone than you, an adult! Then giving away your gift is cheeky and greedy. If he wants his son to have an egg HE buys one.

Up, up and away :-)

Separate yourself from him financially ASAP-he is adding nothing but negativity and misery to your life

Sounds like the sort of shit my worst abusive ex would have done.

Note I say EX

I'm glad you're waking up to who he really is: happy for you to do back-breaking work and carry him while he pretends to look for a job, and making you sell your car to pay bills while keeping his, and giving away your things to his kids so he can look like a great dad. While you work your ass off. And while you walk when he abandons you essentially.

Tell him to get to fuck.

I’m not a hugger one bit (this is my space, and this is your space), but I want to hug you so badly right now. I remember when my girls were little, I wanted to hug my strength into them, and tgats what I want to do to you.

Hes a loser, and a controlling bastard. He hates that you’ve taken back control. Hes pathetic, and wants to be in charge.

You’ve done an amazing thing, setting up your own company when you needed money, and I’ve got so much admiration for you. Please don’t think of yourself as ‘just a cleaner’. I see you as a skilled tradesperson, like a plumber, or plasterer. From what you’re saying, your job has given you back some confidence, which is great. He won’t like that, because it emphasises what a waste of space he is, but that’s not your problem.

I don’t think i’ve ever said LTB before, and to be honest it annoys me when people say that for stupid reasons like someones husband’s come home late, or doesn’t text them 20 times a day, but you’ll be so much better off without him.

Sending you hugs, and strength, and if you PM me your paypal, i’d love to send you money for chocolate. I’m so sorry this has happened to you, but as you’ve already proved - you’re a fighter.

You sound ace.
He sounds like a complete twat.
Hope you’re shot of him very soon.

You certainly are worthy OP

I wish you were in my life. You sound amazing. Your partner is a dickhead and everyone is right, you are worth ten of him and he needs to go. Tomorrow if possible.

Thank you all for the amazing offers of eggs.
I’m very grateful & I’m complete chocoholic!
Please pay it forward on my behalf, a coffee or a cup of tea 🙏.
Sometimes you need to chat to see your blind spots & I have tonight.

What a complete prick - I'd be SEETHING about both!!!! How dare he give away something belonging to YOU!! As for giving a teenager who has already lost 1 phone a better phone than YOU?? Seriously??

Your cleaning business could be your new start. My old cleaner started cleaning to save up money to get away from her alcoholic husband. She did it. Her grown up kids were so pleased. She then carried on using the money from cleaning to treat her grandkids. I hope you can take a similar path.

Well done you

He needs to sign that car over to you, consider it his contribution to the bills. You need it to work, he can borrow it from you to go see DS.
But to be honest i think your life would be easier without him and that the longer you are with him, the more he will spoil things from you and drag you down.