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DP gave my Easter Egg & phone to his DS

225 replies

ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 19:24

Just writing this seems petty but I’m just pissed off.
Due a huge change in financial circumstances I’ve recently gone back to work. I needed immediate payment & advertised for cleaning work. Within a few days I had a full diary. As many of you know it’s long hard work but to be honest I really enjoy it. I’ve been with the same clients/customers for about 6-8 weeks.
DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along) . Right now £50 a day is a bigger opportunity to me !
Last week a client left me a lovely (expensive) egg. I was absolutely chuffed as it was the first ever gift/thank you I’d ever received (worked in construction for 25 years previously) .
3 months ago DP upgraded his phone & gave me his old phone (2 more newer model than my current model). I transferred everything across & it’s much better than my old one. 3 days ago his youngest (14) DS lost his phone .
We found an old phone of DPs but the screen is cracked badly & a very old model. DP doesn’t want his DS to have this phone so i had to return the phone he’d given me & I will have to have the cracked phone.
I’m reasonable- I’ve got the phone- I cannot download my everyday apps I need because it won’t upgrade to the new software . It’s a phone- I’ll manage.
Where is my Easter Egg though ? He gave it to his DS as his present.
I’m a bit fuming

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FrancisCrawford · 23/04/2019 19:50

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Soubriquet · 23/04/2019 19:50

He obviously resents you

What happens next time he gives you something?

As soon as his son wants it, it’s snatched off you and given to him.

I would leave him to be honest

He’s proving he’s a selfish dick

lablablab · 23/04/2019 19:50

Last week I had a cleaning appointment which he knew about but went to see a friend. I walked 5 miles home after a 9 hour day cleaning because there was no buses. I tried hitching but had no luck

Whaaat?!! Why couldn't he pick you up? Why are you putting up with this shit?!

Alwaysgrey · 23/04/2019 19:51

Each update is worse than the last. He sounds vile. Why isn’t he doing contract work? My dh was made redundant and took whatever was going. He honestly sounds like a complete and utter self dick.

RightOnTheEdge · 23/04/2019 19:52

Oh OP I am outraged for you!

What an absolute pig. Please don't put up with this treatment. You have done brilliantly to get out there and start your own business.

You don't need him!

tessieandoz · 23/04/2019 19:52

Oh Dear. There is no respect in that . Be wary

Easterbunnyhashoppedoff · 23/04/2019 19:53

He hates that your option to ltb is getting more likely....

dreichuplands · 23/04/2019 19:53

OP really, this isn't about an egg. It is about valuing yourself properly and how you allow others to treat you.

Nanny0gg · 23/04/2019 19:53

Whose house is it? How financially entangled are you?

Please start putting your money away, get everything else sorted and either kick him out or LTB.

He has no respect or care for you.

He's a pig.

Sunsouthotdogbunsout · 23/04/2019 19:54

You deserve SO much better, the sheer disrespect of him taking your things and giving them away?! Fuck him off, and quickly. You don’t need that thieving waste of space.

RandomMess · 23/04/2019 19:54

How quickly can you separate as he is a millstone around your neck!

Sarahjconnor · 23/04/2019 19:56

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eddielizzard · 23/04/2019 19:56

Wow, what a prince. Better hang on to him!

SheSellSeaShells · 23/04/2019 19:56

he's holding you back - what a tit giving your gift away. How quickly can you leave him, do you have children together?

Erythronium · 23/04/2019 19:56

He stole your egg from you. He's a thief.

mbosnz · 23/04/2019 19:56

Oh honey. You are better than this. You deserve better than this.

You are a clever, resourceful, hardworking, kind, generous, loving person.

He. Is. Not.

Cranky17 · 23/04/2019 19:56

Op did you post about him before and him asking your dad to be a guarantor?

Whatdoyouknowwhenyouknownowt · 23/04/2019 19:56

Selling your car while he keeps his and doesn't work is not a small thing.

Is there any reason he can't do a bit of cleaning? Or at least taking you around?

Treat your job as a proper job, get the equipment you need and tell him to do one.

LTB.

bluebellforest · 23/04/2019 19:56

Fuck sake, just leave the cunt!

InceyWinceyette · 23/04/2019 19:57

OMG!
So as a result of you working your arse off earning money you also were given the egg.

Which he used to save himself money buying one for his Ds.

Your car pays the bills, including his bills, he keeps a car ....
.... and then this “ Last week I had a cleaning appointment which he knew about but went to see a friend. I walked 5 miles home after a 9 hour day cleaning because there was no buses. I tried hitching but had no luck”

He is monstrously selfish, inconsiderate, exploitative and entitled.

What happened to your old phone? Why couldn’t Dsd have that? Or you revert to that?

Seriously? He needs a proper talking to.

ShowMeTheKittens · 23/04/2019 19:57

Oh no! He sounds so horrid and uncaring. Poor you. Hugs x

WitchDancer · 23/04/2019 19:57

He seems very selfish in his actions. Has he got good points too?

regmover · 23/04/2019 19:57

That egg would be the tipping over point for me I think. (I once split with someone when he recorded over something I'd saved on a video tape. It was a final straw!). There's no joy in this relationship for you and it's clear that you're not a priority for DP. In fact he's using you. But I'd also find a way to liberate £20 or so of his and replace the egg to eat when he's gone and the locks are changed.

Crunchymum · 23/04/2019 19:58

So you are out cleaning all hours and he isn't working???

ShowMeTheKittens · 23/04/2019 19:58

PS. I have been totally taken advantage of in the past and now on a hair trigger for unsuitable behaviour.