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DP gave my Easter Egg & phone to his DS

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ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 19:24

Just writing this seems petty but I’m just pissed off.
Due a huge change in financial circumstances I’ve recently gone back to work. I needed immediate payment & advertised for cleaning work. Within a few days I had a full diary. As many of you know it’s long hard work but to be honest I really enjoy it. I’ve been with the same clients/customers for about 6-8 weeks.
DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along) . Right now £50 a day is a bigger opportunity to me !
Last week a client left me a lovely (expensive) egg. I was absolutely chuffed as it was the first ever gift/thank you I’d ever received (worked in construction for 25 years previously) .
3 months ago DP upgraded his phone & gave me his old phone (2 more newer model than my current model). I transferred everything across & it’s much better than my old one. 3 days ago his youngest (14) DS lost his phone .
We found an old phone of DPs but the screen is cracked badly & a very old model. DP doesn’t want his DS to have this phone so i had to return the phone he’d given me & I will have to have the cracked phone.
I’m reasonable- I’ve got the phone- I cannot download my everyday apps I need because it won’t upgrade to the new software . It’s a phone- I’ll manage.
Where is my Easter Egg though ? He gave it to his DS as his present.
I’m a bit fuming

OP posts:
SavageBeauty73 · 23/04/2019 20:08

That's awful!!

BumpIntheNite · 23/04/2019 20:09

Honestly OP, you sound lovely and so hard working - you are wasted with this prick.

PM me your address, I'll send you a MN LTB Easter Egg!!

iloveruby · 23/04/2019 20:09

What does he contribute to your life? How does he show that he loves and respects you?

From what you've said he is showing you no care or love and you deserve better.

icelollycraving · 23/04/2019 20:09

That chocolate egg was indeed a symbol. Eggs are new life, new beginnings. You are creating a new life and independence. He is waiting for something better. So should you, and I don’t mean the job. Flowers

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 23/04/2019 20:09

He's a cocklodging, lazy, emotional vampire twat. Get rid of him!

MorelloKisses · 23/04/2019 20:10

He’s not working but getting phone upgrades and to run a car...

You are working hit your stuff is being sold/ taken/ hand-me-downs.

Don’t you like yourself?

DantesInferno · 23/04/2019 20:10

you're amazing op, you're out there working, you're doing so well that your client bought you a present - they don't have to do that

Can you move out? you are worth so much more than him xxx

ContessaIsOnADietDammit · 23/04/2019 20:10

OP, he sounds utterly shitty. Please reconsider your life with this arsehole.

As an aside, our local ASDA is selling off Easter eggs at 50p if you'd like to replace your lost chocolate (not as nice I'm sure but you deserve a treat)!!

AdaColeman · 23/04/2019 20:12

He doesn't respect you at all, TitsUp he just sees you as a soft touch.
He'll go on taking advantage of you and your hard earned money for as long as you let him.

Run for the hills, and don't look back.

Babooshkar · 23/04/2019 20:13

Why are you with him? What does this relationship do for you?

Original poster
ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 20:15

Thank you all for the egg offers . Please treat yourself/DP/DC/DSC & family in general.
I think I’ve be completely shaken by this relationship I think I’m going mad.
Actually cleaning has almost saved my life. & this incident- sometimes it takes an incident to make you stand back & say ‘woah’
I’ve known it for a while.
Now I just need to put into action.
Joke not joke - my neighbours house is empty - I have a key. I have a sleeping bag & have considered it

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outpinked · 23/04/2019 20:16

Definitely LTB, what a vile selfish pig. None of this is petty, he treats you like shit and you deserve more. Well done for the job as well, next step is to leave him behind and you’ll feel amazing.

Ninkaninus · 23/04/2019 20:17
Flowers

You can do this!

JaneEyre07 · 23/04/2019 20:18

You're worth better, lovely.

And you know it.

Flowers
Armadillostoes · 23/04/2019 20:18

OP please listen to everyone and leave this sorry excuse for a human. But make sure that he is the one camping out somewhere, not you! You are brave and lovely and deserve a much better life.

Bringbackthestripes · 23/04/2019 20:19

DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along)

Because not working makes brilliant financial sense Hmm no wonder he didn’t want to pay for a new phone or egg for DS. He sounds awful op.

CoraPirbright · 23/04/2019 20:21

Hang on a bloody second....

Due a huge change in financial circumstances I’ve recently gone back to work. I needed immediate payment & advertised for cleaning work. Within a few days I had a full diary........DP has been looking for work (he relied on savings previously) but doesn’t want to take anything ‘ in case a bigger opportunity comes along)

And you’ve sold your car and he has bogged off out in the one car you do have when he knows you have a job???

You have far, far bigger problems than the egg and phone.

When did this prize last do any work? Unless he is independently wealthy, how on earth has he been relying on savings?

I dont often say LTB but this has red flags and fucking neon signs all over it. Please please tell me you aren’t tied to him via children/marriage/mortgage or whatever....

MeanMrMustardSeed · 23/04/2019 20:21

I know it’s not the point of this thread, but I’m mega impressed that you needed work, advertised your services and now work a full week. Good on you.

MeanMrMustardSeed · 23/04/2019 20:22

And LTB (obviously).

Sexykitten2005 · 23/04/2019 20:22

Yeah you need to LTB. He doesn’t appreciate you and it sounds to me like he’s trying to hold you down to the level he wants. Sort the practicalities, are you renting? Whose name? Who owns the car, pays tax insurance etc, where are your important documents, any shared finances, what in your house do you own etc etc: Text your neighbour and ask if they want a house sitter while the houses is empty.
You’ve made huge steps in your life, don’t let a cocklodger hold you back

Still18atheart · 23/04/2019 20:24

LTB you can do so much better. I really want to give you a unmumsnetty hug rn.

If you want to sleep next door so be it. Even if it’s just so you can give yourself something thinking space and figure out your next step. Because you need to leave this current situation/ bastard

qazxc · 23/04/2019 20:25

He isn't a partner. He isn't supporting you, working as a team with you. Instead he he is resentful and trying to sabotage your success.
I'd wager he doesn't like it because it gives you independence and a way of getting out of the relationship if you chose. He's trying to keep you in your "box" and control you.
Is this the kind of relationship you want to be in?

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ItsAllTitsUp49 · 23/04/2019 20:26

@MeanMrMustardSeed - I’m am massively proud of myself - massively. I’m turning away work on a daily basis. That has lit a fire in my belly. I’m good. I work so bloody hard & will continue to do so.
I can grow.
I will

OP posts:
Elllicam · 23/04/2019 20:27

Definitely LTB. He sounds like a selfish, lazy, drain on your existence who doesn’t even appreciate you.

cuppycakey · 23/04/2019 20:29

LTB

Not even joking