He vlogged our date!
AlsoAlan · 08/04/2019 14:06
Hi will try not to make it an essay! NC for this.
So my friend set me up with a guy she knows from her hobby group, chatted a bit online etc and he seemed nice enough so agreed to meet up with him last night. He had previously spoken a lot about how he is really into social media which I'm not really into - we spoke on WhatsaApp but he keeps asking for my Snapchat, Insta etc, he is very into YouTube and kept asking me to subscribe to his channel and watch his top vid which is a Yes Lads reaction video which has around 7000 likes.
So I arrive last night and he is literally filming as I walk in and asks if I'm excited to meet him, how I'm feeling etc. I kind of laugh it off but then am getting increasingly annoyed as he keeps asking for us to take a selfie, messing around that weird dog ear filter thing and the whole time I am trying to chat to him his phone keeps relentlessly pinging. He also wanted to play this weird "20 questions about you" game but said he wouldn't put it online if I dont want it.
So I get home and within literally 5 minutes of him dropping me off he texts me to say "the video" is up on his profile and can I please like and share it??? I go to his profile and he has actually put together a 20 minute video of our date!! You can't really see my face but you can hear me, he says my name several times and my car reg plate is clearly visible at the end. Even worse is that it already has several hundred likes from his "followers" who have shared it to their own Insta accounts etc. He even gave it a title like"xxcVideoGuyWithNoName GOES ON A DATE"!! And he filmed the whole 20 questions thing by hiding his phone behind a menu!
So I guess my AIBU is a. AIBU to be weirded out by this? and b. Is this focus on social media the new norm for dating now??
Ohhellothereladyface · 10/04/2019 08:59
Sorry was skim reading
Thanks for clarification!
CoraPirbright · 10/04/2019 08:59
Have you checked this am? Has the arse wipe taken it down?
I also like a pp’s suggestion of threatening to contact his work. Surely if he is involved with SM professionally, this will not look good?
Tilikum · 10/04/2019 09:27
He works in social media? I'd also contact his bosses and tell them he was bringing their company into disrepute by filming women without their consent. This isn't an approach I'd usually advocate but he needs a big wake up call now. Being embarrassed at work might make him think about his total lack of ethics.
Please do this. Go scorched earth on him.
bubblegumunicorn · 10/04/2019 11:21
Wow! I vlog and I would never think about filming someone with out their permission! It's rude and a lot of people don't want to be on camera! by the sounds of it hes fairly big to get hundreds of likes that quick! I have a feeling hes in a small youtuber group I'm in as I saw a complete arse do something like this recently I didn't watch the video but he seamed full of him self!
RoisinXena · 10/04/2019 18:11
This is not normal behaviour. He is showing psychopathic tendencies - "are you excited to meet me?" Seriously deluded
mummabubs · 11/04/2019 20:42
Have you reported it to YouTube by now OP? I'm guessing you haven't had a reply to your message to him? X
joe900 · 13/04/2019 17:22
The world of younger people never stops amazing me, this chaps actions seem quite extraordinary!
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