He vlogged our date!

[AlsoAlan]

Hi will try not to make it an essay! NC for this.

So my friend set me up with a guy she knows from her hobby group, chatted a bit online etc and he seemed nice enough so agreed to meet up with him last night. He had previously spoken a lot about how he is really into social media which I'm not really into - we spoke on WhatsaApp but he keeps asking for my Snapchat, Insta etc, he is very into YouTube and kept asking me to subscribe to his channel and watch his top vid which is a Yes Lads reaction video which has around 7000 likes.

So I arrive last night and he is literally filming as I walk in and asks if I'm excited to meet him, how I'm feeling etc. I kind of laugh it off but then am getting increasingly annoyed as he keeps asking for us to take a selfie, messing around that weird dog ear filter thing and the whole time I am trying to chat to him his phone keeps relentlessly pinging. He also wanted to play this weird "20 questions about you" game but said he wouldn't put it online if I dont want it.

So I get home and within literally 5 minutes of him dropping me off he texts me to say "the video" is up on his profile and can I please like and share it??? I go to his profile and he has actually put together a 20 minute video of our date!! You can't really see my face but you can hear me, he says my name several times and my car reg plate is clearly visible at the end. Even worse is that it already has several hundred likes from his "followers" who have shared it to their own Insta accounts etc. He even gave it a title like"xxcVideoGuyWithNoName GOES ON A DATE"!! And he filmed the whole 20 questions thing by hiding his phone behind a menu!

So I guess my AIBU is a. AIBU to be weirded out by this? and b. Is this focus on social media the new norm for dating now??

[SunshineCake]

The world has gone mad .

[TinselAndKnickers]

Fuck off!!! As if

What did you reply??

[GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]

Weird intrusive and downright rude. What a bellend.

As everyone else has suggested, tell him very clearly that you did not give your permission for him to do that (not that he even asked) and that you need to him to take it down NOW.

[BloodsportForAll]

Get it removed. And consider pressing charges if he doesn't.

[HowlsMovingBungalow]

He sounds a catch...

[Lovemusic33]

Why did you allow him to video you? I would have walked out straight away. And anyone who thinks it’s ok to add puppy dog features to a photo is just plain weird and chav. If someone pointed a camera/phone at me as I entered a date I would have turned around and left.

[northerngirl2012]

What a twat, lucky escape in a way!

[Calloway]

Weirdo, saddo, and all the other ending in o words.

Can you imagine if you'd shagged him?

'Hi guys! Hope you're all well. I'm just about to have sex with Sarah here. We're going to start with a little oral sex. Please click like and subscribe and leave your thoughts in the comments if there's anything in particular you'd like to see us do.'

[Thingsdogetbetter]

The man's a deluded YouTube nutjob. 7000 likes. He's boasting about 7000 likes! Lol. There are toddlers who get more than that in a day!

Demand he removes video or you'll contact YouTube and his pathetic little channel will be banned.

[Blueowls]

There are no words...

[PirateWeasel]

So he's just lost himself a second date

What an infantile creep.

[HomeEdRocks18]

Tell him to delete it all and if he doesn't report him to the police

[Squigglesworth]

The stuff of nightmares. The fact that he lied to you about recording/sharing the 20-questions is detestable, but honestly, he sounds insane even without that.

I'd be interrogating asking my friend about why she set me up with him, too. Did she really not know he was so strange, or was this some sort of joke?

[CalmDownPacino]

Bad idea. He'll go viral, or at least get a lot of hits. There's no such thing as bad publicity

A sceptical person would suspect that this is the entire purpose of this thread.

[MamaLovesMango]

What a fucking sad act!!

[girlwithadragontattoo]

Hi guys! Hope you're all well. I'm just about to have sex with Sarah here. We're going to start with a little oral sex. Please click like and subscribe and leave your thoughts in the comments if there's anything in particular you'd like to see us do



Can you imagine! I think every date would be the same, every intimate thing would be shared. It sounds like he was interviewing you, does he give his watchers the chance to choose if you have a next date and the location! What an idiot

[Ellenborough]

Can you comment on the video on youtube? Tell him publicly that he's not getting a second date and why.

[VenusOfWillendorf]

If someone was literally filming me as I walked in, I'd be literally turning around and walking straight back out.

[Foxyscarf]

Are you seriously telling me that all this really happened and instead of doing anything constructive about it you've gone straight to mumsnet? I call bullshit

[SheSellSeaShells]

whaaaaaaat!!! he is a weirdo! - I'd be worried what else he likes to secretly film. Gawd, you'd never be able to relax with him, he sounds very immature and attention seeking...

[WhentheRabbitsWentWild]

Wow

You are so so sooooo NBU .

[ThanksItHasPockets]

I would message, telling him that you did not consent to be filmed or recorded, that you are reporting him to YouTube, and that you are consulting a lawyer (whether or not you actually do is of course for you to decide). Hopefully that will kick his arse into taking it down.

[notwokeup]

YANBU at all! Creepy, inappropriate, possibly illegal, just plain weird.

[Lovemusic33]

I call ball shit, either that or OP is really stupid staying at a date where she was being filmed, why would anyone allow it to happen? I know I wouldn’t.

[SirGawain]

Add a comment that it was a horrible date, (it was), and it's the last date he'll go on with you! He's just a creep.