To be mortified at how my mum behaved

[tbear2O19]

Mum takes me shopping once a month as currently I can't drive.
So not to drip feed, yes I do use online deliveries and sometimes swing by the supermarket myself but with 3 young ones it can be handy and luxurious to go alone!

Anyway we went to the self service check out that has the big conveyer belt thing. One item needed assistance, then she started packing. Putting her bags down on the weight bit (where you put your shopping after it's scanned, these bags hadn't been scanned)

So by the time the assistant has cleared the item, we need further help as the bags have made it require help iyswim. I said to my mum "you're going to need to unpack all that as it doesn't recognise the bags" she simply said "oh well fucking forget it. What the fuck what a fucking waste of time"
And.... left

I have no money to pay for her items, I did offer to put the items back but the assistant said no it's ok. I am mortified, I'm still red!! And to make it worse she just drove home, didn't even wait for me.
So had to walk home with 6 bags of shopping.

I'm just mortified!

[SamanthaJayne4]

OP this sounds like something my DM would have done, but without the swearing! She was always unpredictable. I am short tempered myself but would never drive off and leave someone. Horrible behaviour.

[MrsChanandlerBongg]

OH did this once 🙄 he was ID’d for non alcoholic beer and didn’t have his ID - he’s 28 and was buying non alcoholic beer. I had a few snacks (I was a week off my due date, so of course I had snacks) and he just walked out after telling the cashier to F off when he wouldn’t let him buy the beer... I was mortified!! Especially because I work in a shop and if someone told me to F off, it would piss me off big time.

[vintanner]

Your mum sounds like she's got something serious on her mind as this seems like unusual behavior from her.
I hope she contacts you with an apology, but if not, the next time she turns up expecting you to go shopping, I would politely decline.

[Mascarponeandwine]

Exhsuatedmuch my mother too. She’s been dead 10 years, I look back and it completely baffles me what it was all about. It’s now a great relief to not have to do the endless apologising for some perceived wrong in order for her to stop giving me the looks and the silent treatment.

[Acis]

You're drip feeding like crazy.

No, she isn't.

[tbear2O19]

Apologies I didn't think it was drip feeding, I was replying to somebody who said I was harsh to say "I'm grateful for the crumbs my mum throws"
And then replying to somebody else who said wait for her to apologise.
If that's the case I won't be speaking to her hell will freeze over before she apologises!

[Latkes]

My Mum once suddenly started acting weird ( or more weird than usual) very angry, emotional etc. Turned out it was because she was about to have a massive stroke. . Does your Mum seem physically well in herself ? Maybe a blood test would be a good idea.
Although if she’s just got the sack, that might be enough to make her feel upset.and angry. Or even the menopause. I know from personal experience how crap and moody that can make you feel.
But in any case, I think I’d get a cab to the supermarket in future to save myself the stress lol 😂

[GabsAlot]

its not clear she has mh issues agt all she just sounds nasty

[mummyof3kids]

Ask your brother if she has acted at all weird whilst with him. Or if she has friends you know ask them how she has been lately. My ex MIL had a form of dementia at a similar age and behaviour like this were the first signs. Illness and infection can cause odd behaviour. She may just have been acting a dick, but it sounds like she was afraid - hence the running away from till and no contact afterwards. I always err on side of giving people the benefit of doubt until I know what has caused a certain behaviour.

[Holyshitbags]

Op
Did you speak to your mum again?