This annoys me - house guest

[kamillaw]

We have family staying one has moved all my scented candles and switched off my lovely plug in thingy. It's annoyed me no end. AiBU

Do they have allergies? DB is asthmatic and has a few allergies, scented candles, plug ins etc really trigger a flare up meaning his sinuses swell, he needs to use his asthma pump and his eyes are red and itchy. If this is the case they should've told you and asked you to move them, but they might have a genuine reason

Put candles back and switch thing back on.

Unless your HG has come out in hives or is struggling to breathe, YANBU.

Have you said anything?

I do this. I hate overpowering smells.

Is this in the room you’ve put them up in or a shared living space?
If the former and they put them back when they go home I see no issue. They can be overpowering and make people feel quite sick.
If the latter it’s odd.

YABU they give me headaches and I have no allergies it's just a super strong fake smell. Dont be so inhospitable.

Also my DM has that ambipur threevolution plug in, its a nightmare with my Athsma

Probably allergies - we can't have them in our house for that reason.

They’re a migraine trigger for me. I go to my dad’s place and hide all his spray things away

YABVVVU.

Scented candles and plug in air fresheners release toxic chemicals into the air and a lot of people are very sensitive to them particularly if they have allergies or a chronic health condition.

I used to use them. I wouldn't now I know about he health risks but they also make me feel very unwell (headache, nausea, dizziness) since I developed autoimmune disease.

Lots of them give me migraines, even though I use them at home (different scents, ones that I don't react to) so I might discreetly do this in a room I was staying in and put them back when leaving.

YABU plugins are vile.

If they are horrid artificial ones then I don't blame them. It is too much for some people.

Sorry op but I can't bear artificial scents.

UABU. They give me headaches so I would do the same, especially in a bedroom

I have no allergies. Well, didn't.
I spent 3 months suffering with flu like stuff. It was horrible!
Then my plug in refresher run out. I was back to healthy in 4 days🤨

Scented candles and plug in air fresheners release toxic chemicals into the air and a lot of people are very sensitive to them particularly if they have allergies or a chronic health condition.

Perhaps they could go to a hotel ?

What ages? It's a bit weird but not something to stress about.

Plug ins and scented candles make me feel really ill (headache and nausea), I would do the same as your guest and discreetly move them and turn them off. I wouldn't say anything as wouldn't want to make a fuss or offend you.

Can’t bear plug-ins. MIL uses them and the dc reak when they’ve been visiting. I have to wash their hair to get the smell out. Horrible.

I would struggle with them too, I would just respect they might be sensitive to the chemicals or to the smells?

You don't just switch stuff off like that in someone else house, though. You explain how it's affecting you and ask politely if they could be switched off while you're there. If you have manners, that is.

They give me hideous headaches, a swollen & itchy throat and I throw up.

Depends on the situation whether I just remove them or ask them to. Family & friends usually remember to do it before I arrive. If someone hasn’t or they’ve forgotten the one behind the sofa or whatever there’s soon a hunt for the offending item.

Why do you prefer they suffer?

You don't just switch stuff off like that in someone else house, though

Why not? Surely a considerate wouldn’t be bothered.

It's still really rude to just blow them out or turn them off. The least they should do is ask and explain why.