DH wants our son to have his name spelt the Scandinavian way, AIBU to say no?

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We have agreed on a name we like, but there is the common spelling in the UK and then alternative spellings for other cultures. There is a spelling that is common in Scandinavia and DH would like that spelling (originally for there) but I think it will just cause an issue. Baby will have a british surname as DH took mine (does not like his father) and so that's our family name and because of this he would like it to reflect his heritage. I'm still not convinced that is better for our son who will have to spell it out. AIBU?

I'd go with your husbands wishes on this, it's a nice sentiment and doesn't seem to make too much if a difference.

Loads of people can’t spell common English names eg Michael, so go with the unusual spelling and remember that most people are thick as bricks

I think YABU. I'm Scandi, our DC has a name that exists both in English and in my native language. DC has roots in both countries and this is one of the few ways DC can keep my roots and still living in the UK. It wasn't even negotiable for me - I've given up (for now and the foreseeable future) to live in my home country, then DC can have the name spelt the Scandi way.

Normally it's just a couple of letters difference anyway and people learn. Yes, we've seen the name spelt incorrectly several times but it's never bothered me (maybe because I think here are many other things far more important to get annoyed over in life, like Brexit).

I’d go with your husbands idea for the spelling. If you both like the name and it sounds the same regardless of spelling I don’t see the issue with using a spelling that nods to his herritage. Even in the country I’m from and where my last name is fairly common, I still need to spell it out because most names have an alternative spelling. If that’s the only reason you don’t want it (incase they have to tell people how to spell it repeatedly) then it seems a bit petty.