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New guy didn't tell me this

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Dramallamaaaa · 23/03/2019 19:33

Okay this might sound like a non issue but it's affecting me right now and I just need quick replies.

I have social anxiety, quite bad. Meeting new people is a struggle.

Been dating new guy for 3 weeks, he's aware of social anxiety. When dating people it takes a lot to meet family and friends.

Meeting new guy tonight at the pub, he meets me at the station we get to the pub and his friend is there. Its so awkward, can't remember the last time I felt that awkward also there was no warning, it took 2 hours to travel to him and I'm staying for the night, just thought we were going for a low ley drink, had no idea. Also more people are due to turn up. He's wondering why I'm so quiet. I'm in the toilets crying which I know is so pathetic, please just talk me out of feeling this way and go back out there

OP posts:
Flaverings · 24/03/2019 10:00

I'm glad you talked and he listened.

Did he explain why he'd arranged to see a friend? 5 dates in I think most people would want it to be just the two of you. Perhaps he wanted to 'show you off'?

sagradafamiliar · 24/03/2019 10:04

Well yeah Eliza its the boyfriend she's dating, not the friend she doesn't know. There have been some really shitty shaming attempts like yours on this thread.

HarrysOwl · 24/03/2019 10:24

Well done OP, you handled it really well! Smile

RaffertyFair · 24/03/2019 10:33

Great update! Well done OP. It sounds like the new boyfriend wants to understand and support.

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