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What rites of passage did you miss and will never get to do?

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Tiswotis · 19/03/2019 22:46

I did not:

Have a teenage romance
Go to graduation
Pass driving test

and will never:

Have a dad walk me down the aisle
Have a mum excited with me on my wedding day

and probably won't:

Have a child of my own

I like my life, but sometimes wish I had some of the above.

How about you?

OP posts:
Original poster
Tiswotis · 19/03/2019 22:48

Posted in aibu for traffic. Sometimes it seems like everyone has an ideal life hitting goal after goal, and it can be isolating. Curious to see is anyone else in a similar boat.

OP posts:
OwlinaTree · 19/03/2019 22:49

Never went on a club 18-30 holiday, or any type of girls holiday when young.

RJnomore1 · 19/03/2019 22:49

Oh gosh so many

I wouldn’t know where to start tbh

supersop60 · 19/03/2019 22:50

Never had a wedding. I have a DP (nearly 20 yrs)

supersop60 · 19/03/2019 22:51

Oh yes - have never been on holiday with a group of friends, but I don't really care

Seren85 · 19/03/2019 22:52

Never lived on my own or in a flat/house share. I stayed at home for University to save money, moved in with ex, back home then moved in with my now DH.

Hiddenaspie1973 · 19/03/2019 22:53

Loads!
Girlie holiday abroad
College
University
A wedding day

RedHatsDoNotSuitMe · 19/03/2019 22:53

never been to Uni
never had a year out or done any major travelling.

motortroll · 19/03/2019 22:54

Camp America. I wish I'd have the confidence to do something like that.

I had a shit time at uni overall so I don't feel like it was amazing for me.

Purplestorm83 · 19/03/2019 22:54

Never been on a girls’ holiday
Never had a hen do

Just don’t have very many female friends

Fr3d · 19/03/2019 22:55

Never really travelled alone but I want to try it some day (safely of course).

donajimena · 19/03/2019 22:56

I've never been a bride or even bridesmaid.
I'm in uni now but I do sometimes envy the footloose and fancyfree living in halls and doing the whole 'experience'.
I haven't bought a house.

animaginativeusername · 19/03/2019 22:57

Never been in love, travelled, lived alone or house shared. I can't drive or actually will learn.

beansonbread · 19/03/2019 22:57

I have never been on a girls holiday or an 18-30 type one (would hate to anyways).

I didn't go to my high school prom and really feel like I missed out now even though it was about 16 years ago!

ConfCall · 19/03/2019 23:00

Never did the week-in-Ibiza thing as a young adult. Travelled with friends, but have never done a beach+clubbing holiday. This is odd because I loved hot weather and clubbing!

Drogosnextwife · 19/03/2019 23:00

I didn't go on a teenage holiday abroad, or a holiday anywhere with just friends, go to prom or graduate from anywhere, have a teenage boyfriend ( I was 20 before I had a proper relationship, had a baby at 18 though 😂)

I will probably never do any better career wise than right now (it's not the best), have a daughter (silly thing to be upset about really).

I will never get to say a proper goodbye to any of my grandparents but I can't say there is anything I will never do.

Sorry about your mum and dad OP, whatever the reasons for them not being there and I hope you get a child of your own.

Fr3d · 19/03/2019 23:00

Never been a bridesmaid

Cosyjimjamsforautumn · 19/03/2019 23:04

Never been a bridesmaid either. Mind you from what i read on here about bridezillas, part of me is quite glad that i was never asked Grin

LancashireTea · 19/03/2019 23:07

Didn't do the club 18-30 thing either. Didn't drive till I was 28. Was in long term relationships from 17.

Also didn't do the drinking in the park on a school night thing, but I grew up in the cold north and I'm not a fan of being outside, freezing.

dartitus · 19/03/2019 23:10

Went on a booze filled holiday, went t total at 19 anyway so can’t really class that as missing out.
Wish I wasn’t such a little shit at school and was allowed to go to prom.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 19/03/2019 23:14

I did not
Have a teenage romance
Go to my graduation (did graduate though)
Get married (been shacked up with DH for nearly 3 years)

We are kind of planning to get married now (tax reasons) and I suddenly have a big pang that I won’t be a gorgeous young bride setting out on life’s journey, I will be a frumpy, faintly ridiculous, middle aged woman. I will also be totally outshone by my two stunningly beautiful 20 something daughters as self appointed bridesmaids and that rankles more than I thought it would.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 19/03/2019 23:16

God, 30 not 3 years. And obviously DP not DH; I keep forgetting.

HopeClearwater · 19/03/2019 23:16

Not sure that all of the above necessarily count as a rite of passage. 18-30 booze holiday? Don’t think so.

OrigamiZoo · 19/03/2019 23:18

Never had a teenage romance
Never been in love and it be reciprocated
Won't be getting married and even if I did no mum or Dad to walk me down the aisle
Never went travelling
No big girl's holidays
.

What rites of passage did you miss and will never get to do?
Monkeybusiness2 · 19/03/2019 23:19

I missed my graduation ceremony.