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To think if this T shirt were the other way round, we’d never hear the end of it

193 replies

HermioneWeasley · 10/03/2019 09:35

Spotted by someone over 6 foot at a women’s day march.

If it said “kill all trans women” the wearer would (rightly) be arrested for inciting violence, but I have seen women defending their right to wear it because they were “driven to it”.

Like men are driven to kill women all the time.

To think if this T shirt were the other way round, we’d never hear the end of it
OP posts:
PrestonsFlowers · 10/03/2019 12:13

Or even, identifies as a woman?
Do you think that he may be a transwo man because he is wearing a t shirt with a slogan that calls for violence against women?

PrestonsFlowers · 10/03/2019 12:13

Too slow at typing

buzzbobbly · 10/03/2019 12:15

What a neat way to turn a thread about an objectively offensive slogan inciting violence against women into the "poor old tw, we must respect them and their all-important validating pronouns" debate.

For fuck's sake.

On IWD. This person chose to wear this t-shirt. They can fuck right off then fuck off forever more.

Guavaf1sh · 10/03/2019 12:16

I’m amazed that everyone knows what TERF is. I had to google it

sackrifice · 10/03/2019 12:17

I’m amazed that everyone knows what TERF is. I had to google it

It means 'woman who disagrees with you'.

Twerking9til5 · 10/03/2019 12:19

“even those who believe all transwomen are abusive, perverted, deviant men”

I do not know one single feminist woman who thinks this.

SnuggyBuggy · 10/03/2019 12:20

TERF is the new way of saying "burn the witch"

goodwinter · 10/03/2019 12:22

@ScienceItUsedToBeAThing I'm not who you were replying to but taking your offer of discussion in good faith, out of genuine curiosity, do you have any evidence to hand re: desire for physical transition (sex reassignment surgery? is that what it's called?) in the trans population?

McTufty · 10/03/2019 12:28

Nor do I twerking.

The t-shirt is disgusting and there is a real issue with double standards as to what can be said about the trans community, where it is a very low bar for it to be hate speech and even warrant police involvement, and what can be said about gender critical women, where anything goes.

Does anyone know where that photo is from? Is it UK?

BrinkPink · 10/03/2019 12:30

Terf literally means "Women who don't include people with male DNA and male biology i.e. physical males, in the category 'women' "

It is a derogatory term but quite descriptive, apart from the fact you don't really have to be a radical feminist to think the above. Suggesting that you must be a radical feminist if you think something perfectly factual and scientific is an attempt to marginalise that view into something lunatic-fringe-sounding.

Samcro · 10/03/2019 12:30

i don't think I will ever get my head round why men that hate women so much, want to "become" one.
so odd.

ScienceItUsedToBeAThing · 10/03/2019 12:33

I'm kind of busy today as the kids are home and I have homework for uni I am trying (and failing) to do but can I PM you later? I thought about starting an I'm a TERF ask me anything thread before so people wouldn't feel piled on if they only had to worry about one person responding.Wasn't sure if that would go down well or not.

ScienceItUsedToBeAThing · 10/03/2019 12:33

That was to @goodwinter

BrinkPink · 10/03/2019 12:34

I've known quite a few men who were desperate to do anything that I could do, better than me. Even when they really lacked the ability to do so and misunderstood what doing that thing actually involved.

I think that applies here. I've no doubt some people have genuinely painful dysmorphia and long to be the sex they are not, but the attitude of many men in that situation is extremely aggressive and about trying to take over what it means to be a woman, instead of asking nicely to join in as an honorary member. (So to speak)

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/03/2019 12:35

So we have a group of people claiming that they want to be women (indeed the they ARE women!) and yet have nothing but contempt for the female sex.

Why would they, or anyone, want to join a group that they despise?

As a PP has said -it's just some men can't stand it if things aren't all about them/

Sexnotgender · 10/03/2019 12:35

I think I read the photo is in South America but I might be wrong.

NottonightJosepheen · 10/03/2019 12:35

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/03/2019 12:37

Transwomen are not women, factually, biologically or in terms of experience. But (if they can manage to be civil about it too) I can respect that they would like to be a woman and might decide to live as one. I will call a transwomen she and by a female name as long as they respect me and my experience of being a woman and understand it is not the exact same thing. Because it's not.

Very well put, BrinkPink

ClaraMatilda · 10/03/2019 12:38

i don't think I will ever get my head round why men that hate women so much, want to "become" one.

I once came across a TW on Twitter who admitted to being an MRA. This person genuinely believed that women have a societal advantage over men, so why wouldn't they want to be a woman? (The pictures on the profile also screamed AGP, though...)

JaneJeffer · 10/03/2019 12:40

The shirt slogan isn’t ok at all, but can we please not do calling trans women he and referring to them as men?
How are we supposed to know if this person is a trans woman?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/03/2019 12:44

Most don't want to cut their penises off and have reassignment surgery. They believe sex is a feeling based on stereotypes and therefore accept a woman can have a female penis

I imagine that they are also convinced that the earth is flat and there are fairies at the bottom of their gardens- when it suits them to do so.

As Science says - it is a way to retain their own power, while effectively disenfranchising women.

Also - apology to Samcro - I hadn't read your post hen I posted my previous one and so said the same as you did.

EyesAreNeverClosing · 10/03/2019 12:52

Is it being derogatory to acknowledge the fact that transwomen are men?

Well you have been deleted for it so.....

HTH

PickledLimes · 10/03/2019 12:54

Fuck me. This place is getting worse. It's a fact. When did biology become so damned offensive?

PickledLimes · 10/03/2019 12:59

In other news giraffes are not horses. Frogs are not mammals and dogs are not wolves.

StealthPolarBear · 10/03/2019 13:00

And the sky is not green