To ask if your partner or sibling comes first?

[Seabrook15]

I know this depends on circumstances and relationships, but in general, I am wondering what the majority answers! I am in a bit of a situation that although I don't have to "pick" between the 2, it also kind of is. Just wondering, if asked that question, what you'd answer?

Partner

Partner

Spouse. Which IMO is as it should be in a relationship you've made a lifetime commitment to.

It depends what you mean by partner though - on/ off boyfriend of 10 months standing or the adult with whom you form a household, probably share finances, possibly are raising children with, and have been with for years and years?

Partner for me too

Definitely my partner. We have made vows together and don't take them lightly.

Partner.

My DP comes before everyone else in my life except for my DC, and even then I would put him first in some circumstances.

You chose your partner; you share DNA with your sibling. without having had any choice in the matter, although with any luck you have a close, affectionate relationship.
But as blueskiesovertheforest says, it may depend how longstanding the partnership is, and how close the sibling links have remained once you are adults.

Surely it depends on the situation, why should you have to ‘pick’ one or the other? If my DH decided he didn’t like my sibling & asked me to go NC with him I wouldn’t agree to that, but it wouldn’t be ‘picking’ one over the other . Can you give an idea of what the situation is?

My DH before my sibling.

Whoever is in the right if something serious. General spat I would stay out of it and in private tell them both it's important to me that they resolve it.

That’s tough for me as I’m very close to my siblings. Thankfully I’ve never had to chose between them but it would depend what it is.

Husband. No doubt. He’s earned my love and care. My brother never has.

Depends on who is being unreasonable. Generally speaking, partner. If partner has done something outrageous or you relationship is on the rocks anyway, then sibling.

Sibling relationship is the longest you will have in your whole life.

It very much depends on the situation & the seriousness of it.

Husband

Spouse.

Why?

It massively depends on the situation.

Depends on situation. But for most situations, partner would come first and would expect my sibling to think the same.

Husband but I love my sisters.

Depends on the situation, who needs me the most at that time, although I would expect either one to understand and support me in my decision.

It depends on the context and consequences really.

Whoever isn’t forcing me to pick. Hugely depends on the situation, bu5 wouldn’t automatically be partner.

Husband

Depends entirely on the situation ans which sibling to be honest

My baby brother comes first. I raised him pretty much as my own when my mum went on a complete rampage and lost her mind. So he's like my own kid and very much like an older brother to my children rather than an uncle, even though my mum sorted herself out and we have a brilliant relationship with her now.

The other 2 brothers who are closer in age to me and I'd pick my partner.