To ask if your partner or sibling comes first?

[Seabrook15]

I know this depends on circumstances and relationships, but in general, I am wondering what the majority answers! I am in a bit of a situation that although I don't have to "pick" between the 2, it also kind of is. Just wondering, if asked that question, what you'd answer?

[2birds1stone]

But my siblings stick by their partners too

[AnneOfCleanTables]

Depends on the situation - an abusive DH telling you to cut off your sibling? A sibling who you're not close to and who undermines your DH at every opportunity?
My DSIS was seriously ill last year. Her needs came before my DH's which he completely understood.

[countrygirl99]

It would depend on the situation. Probably my OH but if he had been sleeping with my SIL it would be my sibling.

[CountessVonBoobs]

Massively depends on the situation and the need. But assuming that neither is massively U and the need is roughly equal, partner. I love my siblings but we've all formed our lives in partnerships and I would expect all of us to look first to those partnerships.

[S1naidSucks]

It depends on the circumstances. With my family, I would always pick my husband. However if I had a decent family and he had harmed them in any way, such as inflicting violence, robbery, rape, sexual assault, or was sleazy towards her, he could fuck off.

[S1naidSucks]

If it was an affair, they could both fuck off, as I couldn’t look at one, without thinking about the other and what they’d done. I have self respect and wouldn’t stand for that.

[JazzersMaw]

Definitely partner first - though I suspect I tend to put adult offspring before their father. Oops, he hasn’t complained much so far.

[OhMyfoodness]

Partner

[TidyDancer]

It really depends on the circumstances. If it was a choice of who to go to a gig with, I would choose my sister. If it was going away for the weekend, it would be DP. It's really impossible to say unless you give a bit more info (if you can).

[startalovetrain]

Depends on the situation but I'd normally go for sibling (or whoever isn't making me pick!!)

I am an identical twin and we are so very close. I don't think anyone could ever replicate that bond, even though I've been with DP for 9 years.

[FrangipaniBlue]

I don't have any siblings but I know DH would choose me over his siblings, and in the past has because one in particular has a habit of being a dick!

[tilder]

Partner.

Only the dc take priority over him.

[Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername]

Nust completely misread the title and thought it said partner or children. ...wtf !!! I was very when PPs replied with partner 😂

[OhTheRoses]

Loving husband of 28 years but I have no siblings.
He would say loving wife and partner before we were married but his siblings are very difficult.

[Gooseygoosey12345]

Depends on the situation. I love my sister dearly but I also chose to spend my life with my husband so I couldn't choose unless I had more info on the circumstances

[Grumpelstilskin]

Partner!

[RogersVideo]

Husband, but my DH is lovely and caring.

If he was a shit I'd choose my sisters!

[BackforGood]

Completely depends on the situation
I can't envisage either of my siblings, nor my dh putting me in a situation where I would be expected to 'choose'

If they disagreed, I'd judge the situation based on the facts of the situation rather than the person who thought one thing or the other.

[Crunchymum]

DP. I've been in a horrible situation where I essentially had to choose.

Years ago, we lent some money to my sibling and they went back on the repayment agreements and now my DP and sibling don't speak. Sibling was 100% in the wrong and we have a cordial but very distant relationship now.

Had my DP been in the wrong then of course my answer would be very different but he was nothing but fair and honest when my sibling decided to stop paying us back what was owed, told lies (we were getting him to pay interest when we weren't, we'd given the money as a gift then wanted it paid back all at once) and generally tried to divide my family. Only mistake was my DP trusting my sibling!!

[LL83]

I expect both of them to behave even if they disagree. Sister would tell me dh said something daft and dh would tell me if sister did but neither of them would be likely to publicly disagree unless very serious.

More often than not it's me moaning to dh or sister about the other and them telling me iabu

[AcrossthePond55]

It would completely depend on the circumstances. I would side with my DH in an 'equal' situation, but if my DH was being an arse or being cruel, I'd side with the other party no matter who it was.

I don't believe in 'my spouse, right or wrong'.

[Blueemeraldagain]

It would depend. If my DP and one of my brothers had a falling out then I would “side” with whoever I thought was right if it was important or opt out completely if I thought it was petty or foolish.

If both needed my help I would help whoever I thought needed help more. My youngest brother is on the autistic spectrum so I imagine he would “win” in most of these situations.

[BlueSlipperSocks]

I can't answer this question. Depends on the circumstances, and which sibling.

[Worlds0kayestmum]

My partner