To think I should be allowed to sleep!!

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In short. I snore, I can sometimes wake myself up. DP can't sleep if I'm asleep first. I can fall asleep very quickly, I've had broke sleep since DD was born and suffered from pregnancy insomnia so it's safe to say I can fall asleep easy as I am that f@#king tired.

I am now as usual waiting for DP to fall asleep. He normally comes to bed between 12-1am I try to get to bed by 10:30 so I can get a couple of hours before he wakes me up so he can come to bed. Tonight he has come to bed early coz he has a headache so I've not actually had any sleep yet.

TV is on to keep me up until he falls asleep

This is our main arguing topic. We've been together 6 years. If we argue it's about my snoring.

Sorry for the midnight rant but AIBU to just want to sleep!

My DH snores, I cannot stand it, it quite literally makes me feel murderously angry, along with drink slurping and noisy eating. We sleep in separate bedrooms and I still keep a fan on even in the dead of winter to drown out any noise that feeds through as I have to wake up for my infant sons so can't use earplugs anymore. It's hell enduring that noise for some people, I liken it to torture. I love my DH and we have a very fulfilling love life and relationship but I swear if I sleep in the same room as him I want to smother him lol.

I'm aware that there are many, often multi-factorial, causes for OSA.

Weight does appear to be a very common factor though and given a doctor who has actually examined OP suggested she try losing weight and OP has at least implied she is overweight it seems a sensible place for her to start, no?

There really does seem to be a lot of, recent, research suggesting weight loss as a treatment eg, from Sept. 2018 - www.atsjournals.org/doi/full/10.1164/rccm.201807-1326ST

I'm very happy to read anything to the contrary to have to hand.

No, it's not easy because poor sleep makes it harder to lose weight!

But not impossible.

A medical professional has advised op to lose weight to help with her snoring. It's a pity she won't at least try.

If the OP is overweight she could lose weight even with poor sleep. Some studies suggest lack of sleep may make it slightly more difficult. That's it.

Theres no point saying that some snoreers have tried everything. OP has tried some over the counter stuff, but nothing else. The medical advice was to lose weight. She doesnt seem interested in doing that.

Has the OP even come back?

Has the OP even come back?

No

There was an article on the Mailonline website yesterday about sleep apnoea and a new operation which cures the snoring. Have a look at that.

My DH snore when he has a drink at the weekends. Sometimes it is OK but, if I have hours of listening to it it, it is unbearable and makes me want to cry. So, perhaps having a real go at losing weight might save your relationship. Of course it is hard, but that does not mean you should not give it a go.

I watch my weight constantly and use the ‘substitution ‘ route. Swap high calorie options for lower ones. Also never having two largish
meals in a day is effective as is skipping a meal if you go overboard with a blowout.

@Helentad I've googled and found nothing and guidelines haven't changed so perhaps you could provide links?

Here is one going even further
www.sleepfoundation.org/articles/latest-treatments-obstructive-sleep-apnea

My DH snores, I cannot stand it, it quite literally makes me feel murderously angry, along with drink slurping and noisy eating. We sleep in separate bedrooms and I still keep a fan on even in the dead of winter to drown out any noise that feeds through as I have to wake up for my infant sons so can't use earplugs anymore. It's hell enduring that noise for some people, I liken it to torture. I love my DH and we have a very fulfilling love life and relationship but I swear if I sleep in the same room as him I want to smother him lol.

My thoughts exactly.

Honestly, if we didn't have separate bedrooms, I would have to divorce him. And if it were his within his control to improve the situation, I would have no mercy. No. Mercy.

I’m done answering now
www.menshealth.com/health/a19532060/sleep-apnea-could-be-killing-you/

That's treatments not causes and clearly says losing weight is known to help. So perhaps you could try again to back up your statement that being overweight isn't influential in osa. Walking and typing so can't quote you verbatim

Sleeping with a snorer sucks, but going to bed hours after the OP and expecting her to stay awake all that time waiting for him is a dick move.

Men's health magazine with a personal account. Wow, really on a par with NICE guidelines developed through systematic meta analysis and cochrane reviews of the best available evidence based research
No wonder you are done answering

Exh was a snorer . It was truly horrible lying there wanting to sleep listening to that noise.

However your H is being extremely unreasonable. If he needs to be in bed first then he should go to bed earlier, not expect you to wait up until he's really / wake you up. And it seems like he's waking you well before necessary. You can't keep an exhausted mother up for ages, that's torture.

Yes, you should seek help with snoring. However silicone earplugs are vg and he could try that too.

Not everyone can just go to bed earlier. Peoples body clocks are all different. That and then routines, mean some people cabt just go to bed at 10.

I am always in bed for 10pm. If someone said I had to stay up I couldn't.

My oh snores and after years of nudging, pushing, shouting,cussing asked him to get it sorted which he refused as it "wasn't a problem"! I moved into another room, no warning, no threat just moved. He never even asked me why (did ask our ac who suggested he ask me himself). I hear him occasionally across the hall but it's so much nicer having my own room, own bed etc. Now if I could just stop the dog snoring.....