I must admit, it never ceases to amaze me how so many people still sleep in the same bed as their partner. It seems very outdated, and if there is another choice (spare bedroom/sofa bed,) why on earth put yourself through the discomfort/torture of sleeping with your partner? Many years ago, people who were very poor/living in squalor used to do it to keep warm, and because of lack of space. It doesn't seem necessary now for most people. If you don't have a spare bedroom, a sofa bed doesn't cost much. Why put yourself through it?
It's pretty uncomfortable at the best of times, even if they don't snore. Quilt hogging, dog breath in your face in the middle of the night, kicking and nudging and hogging the bed, coughing, throat clearing, sneezing, grunting, and of course, the most horrendous thing of all the sleeping 'habits...' snoring.
FFS go and sleep in another room. Unless you are in a bedsit, there HAS to be somewhere to go. When me and DH met, he didn't snore, but within 8-10 years of moving in together, he started to snore (maybe by his mid 30's...)
We didn't have a spare room, we got a sofabed, and took it in turns to sleep on it. Several years later, we moved into a bigger house, so we all had a bedroom each. I am aware that's not a possibility for everyone, but tbh, quite often, a 3 bed house will not cost much more than a 2, and a 4 bed will not cost much more than a 3.
I just cannot fathom why, in 2019, couples feel the need to sleep in the same bed, or even the same bedroom. It seems very outdated. As I said, there is very little positive about sharing a 6 ft, x 4 ft space with another fully grown adult. It doesn't mean you don't shag if you don't share a bed FGS. It's one of last taboos, and it needs to stop.
I have not shared a bed (or bedroom) with DH for 10 years now, and would never share again. Even when we go on holiday, I book an extra bedroom. It makes the holiday cost about a fifth more, (so £900 instead of £750 for example,) but it's worth every extra penny. I had a few long-weekend trips with DH (sharing the same room,) circa 2008/9, and they were ruined by his snoring. So when we came to book a week away in Italy (coach trip,) in 2011, I told the travel agent we wanted to book it with separate bedrooms. I think it raised it from £700 in total, to £865. Well worth it to be able to sleep. Why should my holiday abroad be ruined for the sake of less than a couple of hundred quid?
I know some women in the older generation (older relatives and neighbours, say 70+,) who have always shared a bed with their husband, and they have complained for YEARS about his awful snoring. Yet, despite having at least one spare room (many of them have 2 or 3 spare rooms,) they refuse to go into another bedroom. 'What will people say?' and 'what will the neighbours think?' and 'Only people with problems in their marriage have separate rooms, it's not right , it's not normal yada yada.'
Fuck that. Getting no sleep is 'not normal.' And unfortunately, many chronic snorers do fuck-all about it, as it's not them being affected.
Like many posters on here, I felt murderous, and wanted to smother my husband with a pillow when his snoring was keeping me awake night after night. I was constantly exhausted, and fatigued, and I had to go to work, and was making myself ill.
Hell will freeze over before I share a bedroom with him again, after 10 years of having my own bedroom. As i said, it's a silly old tradition/custom that should have died out years ago. There really is no need to share a bed with your spouse. In fact, I can't fathom why anyone would want to. I can't think of one single positive thing about it.
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You are being very selfish. Sort yourself out, and stop being so negative about losing weight. If you wanted to, you could. As I said, people who DO snore, don't give a crap about it, because it's not THEIR sleep being affected.