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to ask at what age you stopped regularly hugging/cuddling your children?

142 replies

M3lon · 21/02/2019 14:51

I realise this is probably down to the child more than the parent...but I'm terrified I might be running out of hugging time with mine - so please reassure me that even teenagers need a hug sometimes!

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JacquesHammer · 21/02/2019 14:52

Not as yet, she's 12.

I still hug both my parents on a regular basis.

mummmy2017 · 21/02/2019 14:53

My DD is taller than me, and still wants hug.

Climbs on my lap to squash me, as thinks it is so funny....
Climbs into bed for a hug, and grabs all the bed.

They never grow out of hugs.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 21/02/2019 14:54

Not yet and the oldest is 13. I'm 37 and still hug my parents every time I see them. I assume I always will, and I'll never stop hugging the DC.

Arowana · 21/02/2019 14:54

My eldest still likes a good cuddle, he's 13.

FlagranceDirect · 21/02/2019 14:54

It falls off a bit when they're teenagers but comes back when they get over it

eatingtomuch · 21/02/2019 14:56

My 19 year old DS will still come for a hug. Usually as we are passing in the kitchen.

16 year old dd hugs me daily. We've always been a family that hugs.

Kaykay06 · 21/02/2019 14:56

Eh never
I have 4 boys
My 17 year old still gives me cuddles & me him tells me he loves me etc
So do my other 3, depends how affectionate you are as a family really but I hope my boys will always accept a hug from their mum

PurpleWithRed · 21/02/2019 14:57

Mine are 25 and 28 and still get hugged, probably more keen on it now themselves than they were as teenagers.

MotherOfDragonite · 21/02/2019 14:58

My mum's always trying to hug and cuddle me and I'm in my late 30s...

RustyBear · 21/02/2019 14:58

Not yet with DD and she was 29 on Sunday.
DS (31) still hugs hallo and goodbye.

IWantToBeBillie · 21/02/2019 14:58

I still cuddle mine and they don't seem to mind. I have stopped picking them up for a cuddle though, as they are both over 6 foot Smile

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 21/02/2019 14:59

Ds's 24+26 visited yesterday, still get hugs and a kiss!

BreakYourselfAgainstMyStones · 21/02/2019 15:00

My 17 year old is difficult to pin down nowadays a little more reluctant, but he still hihs me. 14 year old hasn't stopped yet.

I plan on squishing them with hugs until the day I die Grin

Buster72 · 21/02/2019 15:02

My 17 yr old is 6foot 2 and we hug and kiss hello /goodbye everyday.

Sometimes he just comes and sits next to me on the couch and I put my arm around him...

RomanyQueen1 · 21/02/2019 15:02

You are never too old for a cuddle.
My ds1 with his own home and family, bear hugs me whenever he sees me, which can be everyday for a week and then nothing for 3 weeks, or just whenever we meet up.
Ds2 just still at home, a cuddle as soon as he's in from work.
Dd 15 and a boarder, whenever she is at home or I go to meet her, throws her arms round me.
You are never too old for cuddles.

MillyMollyMandie · 21/02/2019 15:02

I didn’t stop and my eldest of 5 is now 40. They get hugs, back rubs, foot rubs, and we quite often hold hands if we’re sat next to each other.

You’re never too old to give or receive love by way of hugs.

Alsonification · 21/02/2019 15:03

Never! Eldest is almost 21 & youngest is 16 & we still hug.

YesQueen · 21/02/2019 15:04

I wish! My mum has never hugged or kissed me Sad

Tatapie · 21/02/2019 15:05

Mine are teens, not yet!

Mrskeats · 21/02/2019 15:05

Never. Mine are 22 and 20. Hug all the time.

blackteasplease · 21/02/2019 15:07

I still hug my Mum and I'm 40!
But j know what you mean. My dd is 10 and doesnt always want to be cuddled these days. But she sometimes really wants to be !

M3lon · 21/02/2019 15:08

HOORAY! This is fantastic news!

Mine was a really really slow starter on physical contact...she has sensory issues and even when she would consent to be hugged she always used to turn around and face outwards if you see what I mean...and then a couple of years ago she 'got' it and now we are very much making up for lost hugging time...

I suddenly got scared it would all go away again...but it looks like I have several more years of hugging to go!

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fussychica · 21/02/2019 15:09

DS was a sucker for family cuddles as a child which was the three of us hugging. He's 26 and much taller than us now but he still likes a hug when he comes home.

ShakeYourTailFeathers · 21/02/2019 15:09

I'm 42 and still love a good mum hug Grin

M3lon · 21/02/2019 15:10

yesQueen sorry to hear that. I think this is why I'm nervous...I have almost no memories of close physical contact with my parents...so I worry that non-hugging may be genetic...and that having battled for DD and I to be comfortable with it, it will be too short lived.

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