I've realised today that I've raised boys who will be terrible partners

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They kind, funny and caring. They know how to cook and clean the bathroom. They couldnt identify pink or blue jobs. Theyre looking like they might actually hace decent careers. They've seem both their mother and father be the primary homemaker/child carer at various times because of differing work and study commitments. They've (mostly!) seen a marriage built around mutual care and respect.

But, they have never been shown that it's a requirement for a man to push the boat out for Valentine's Day. I didn't realise how important some women think that is or how upset they get when it doesn't happen. I had no idea it was even celebrated within a marriage , let alone taken so seriously.

They're going to be very disappointing spouses

Yes, you’re a better person than everyone who decides to celebrate Valentine’s Day

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Youve just described my two

I didnt even think!! Sorry to future spouses

I can see its not going well as ds1 isnt very romantic at all, doesnt see the point in most displays of financial love his boyfriend on the other hand loves a bit of romance and is destined to be disappointed

This is needlessly bitchy. Events like Valentine’s Day are important to some people. That doesn’t make them foolish or worthy of snide comments.

Gold medals for you and your amazing sons

It's not the celebrating of Valentine's Day, it's the way it's all on the man shoulders.

It's fine. Their future spouses will just do what my ex colleague does and use their credit card to order flowers for themselves delivered to work and book a table at a restaurant for them to take her to.

Some people do, some people don’t, both are fine. You’re not better than anyone.

Just double checking the OP to see where she said she is better than everyone else

Nope

Not seeing it

I know best they should probably just declare life long celibacy, you've not done a good job at all....who needs a equal relationship that is full of mutual respect and care when clearly some disposable tat is the indicators of proper love....

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I'm sure their future spouses would much rather they had a partner who can clean a bog, put on a wash or change a nappy than buy a piece of cardboard.

You are a bit smug, aren't you?

I don't give a crap about valentines day. I care very much about the things in your first paragraph

Not all women care about lovey dovey gestures. That my partner is kind, thoughtful, gentle and does his share of the house and relationship work is much more important to me

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When dh and i did it i bought him presents and the same back

I didnt leave it up to him and then get disappointed

You dont know peoples individual circumstances. Often it's about more than valentine's, the day is just another thing that hammers home how little of a shit their partners give about them.

You have raised terrible partners if you are raising boys who leap to judgements and have no compassion.

My DH has never got me anything for Valentine's Day nor I him. However, my DS took his GF out for a meal last year and is doing the same tomorrow. He will no doubt also be getting her flowers. So there is hope for your DSs yet!

Is it all on the man’s shoulders? I didn’t realise...

Shit I’ve wasted €15 on a card and a box of chocolates

may

Dd is eating the ones she bought