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I've realised today that I've raised boys who will be terrible partners

217 replies

Bestseller · 13/02/2019 21:27

They kind, funny and caring. They know how to cook and clean the bathroom. They couldnt identify pink or blue jobs. Theyre looking like they might actually hace decent careers. They've seem both their mother and father be the primary homemaker/child carer at various times because of differing work and study commitments. They've (mostly!) seen a marriage built around mutual care and respect.

But, they have never been shown that it's a requirement for a man to push the boat out for Valentine's Day. I didn't realise how important some women think that is or how upset they get when it doesn't happen. I had no idea it was even celebrated within a marriage , let alone taken so seriously.

They're going to be very disappointing spouses

OP posts:
fezzesarecool · 13/02/2019 21:39

I don’t think the spouses will be disappointed with your boys but I don’t think they enjoy being around their mil very much Hmm

Vulpine · 13/02/2019 21:40

Oh and all mums think their sons are 'kind funny and caring' - surely they can't all be?

CloudPop · 13/02/2019 21:42

Bugger I've just remembered I didn't buy a valentines card. Ordered a valentine's meal for 2 from Ocado which is in the fridge so forgot the card. Hopefully not a deal breaker.

FiveRedBricks · 13/02/2019 21:42

Bets OP is a man?

dryingout · 13/02/2019 21:44

Why is it all on the mans shoulders? Shame on you

MayFayner · 13/02/2019 21:44

rufus

By pure luck I happened to choose my own favourite ones, maybe I can salvage this somehow 😂

BartonHollow · 13/02/2019 21:44

Cringing inside out at you OP

Agree with a PP this is a male poster

NameChanger22 · 13/02/2019 21:46

Weird kind of boasty thread.

FlirtyRomanticToast · 13/02/2019 21:46

@fezzesarecool Grin

Bussells · 13/02/2019 21:46

Smugness and goadyness galore in the OP followed by a sweeping generalisation. Lovely.

LuckyAmy1986 · 13/02/2019 21:47

I don’t think it’s a male poster! It’s a smug twat though!! They sooooo don’t care about Valentine’s Day ... that they made a thread about it. Must be on your mind just a bit love!

ShouldHaveListenedInBiology · 13/02/2019 21:47

I’d be more concerned that they’ve had a lack of compassion and empathy modelled to them. That would make them pretty shit partners.

user1473878824 · 13/02/2019 21:47

God this is such a cringe thread. I bet OP is a man too.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 13/02/2019 21:47

That is a happy coincidence may Grin

Houseonahill · 13/02/2019 21:48

But at least any future partners will have such a lovely MIL

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 13/02/2019 21:48

may

Plus i always see these types of threads as being a bit lighthearted

Epic fail on my part i see

Mrskeats · 13/02/2019 21:48

Smug and goady. Double word score.
Why bother posting?

SerenDippitty · 13/02/2019 21:50
Hmm

We celebrate Valentine’s day. We have no children or surviving parents so Mother’s/Father’s Day means nothing to us.

Sparklingbrook · 13/02/2019 21:51

DH and I have never done Valentine's Day however DS1 (late teens) is doing the whole Valentine's thing for his girlfriend. Meal out, gifts etc.

So it turns out they can actually decide for themselves if they want to do it. Shock

SpanishTiles · 13/02/2019 21:51

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NCKitten · 13/02/2019 21:53

Hear hear

I find Valentine's Day as it is currently "celebrated" a complete load of commercial nonsense and I don't understand people are sucked into it. But that's me. I know a lot of my life choices would be seen as very killjoy by many. We're all different, I found this post quite funny. I suspect that, like me, the OP keeps these views to herself irl, as she probably realises she's in a minority.

Shoxfordian · 13/02/2019 21:54

Yeah you're not looking great op
Do you think its in some way admirable to ignore a day that some people like to celebrate? Even if you don't care about it, doesn't mean its stupid or silly to want to do something

GileadWivesAreFashionIcons · 13/02/2019 21:54

Spanish has it. What a wanky post OP.

Ericthesnake · 13/02/2019 21:57

I read it as 'couldn't identify a blow job' and was wondering what sort of deviance a pink job was'

Fun police are out again I see.

emzw12 · 13/02/2019 21:57

Give me a man who can cook, clean, decorate over a present buyer any day! Any decent woman will see that!