To believe babies don't start STTN at 9 months?!

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my baby is 9 months old and has never slept through the night. The best sleep was at about 3 months, when he did some 6 hours stretches. After he turned 4 months that went back to two hours between wake ups and has been the same ever since. He is fine to go to sleep, has a very consistent bedtime, he just wakes up a million times a night with no improvement.

People seem to either say that their baby started sleeping through the night at a much younger age (3/4 months) or that they didn't sleep through until they were much older (18 months). There doesn't seem to be a middle ground!! My husband keeps saying our baby will sleep through soon.... Am I being unreasonable to just give up any hope of him ever sleeping through the night??!!

He sleeps in with us, as when he wakes up I just feed him and he (usually) then goes back to sleep. I'm feeling broken after so long without a decent stretch of sleep

DD was about 10 months old iirc. It will happen eventually, but each baby has its own pace.

Hang in there OP, it will get easier I promise!

Both my DC were reliably sleeping through the night by around 4/4 and a half months. Both breastfed, and then weaned around 4 months (because that's what we did back in those days).

Sorry!

One of mine slep through e ery night from 4 months. The other was about 10 months (twins)

@wtfisalanbrazil did you change anything or did it happen naturally?

He has some health issues so I have been advised not to night wean him if he still wakes up for it

I started to get regular 7 hour nights at 8 weeks for one and a little longer for the other. Mine are both great sleepers even now. However my sisters DS rooms nearly 2 years to do this.

Same pattern as mine. I think breastfed babies take longer to sleep through. Mine did around a year

My first started sleeping through after he learnt to walk at 12mo. Reliably by 13mo.

My second has been a better sleeper in general and is now at 10mo sleeping through 8-6ish unless she has a cold. Unfortunately she has had colds for most of the last 2 months! But we get a few nights in between each one.

I would move him to his own room if you can. I always said I would keep my babies in my room till they slept through the night. ( made it easier for BF).
DS1 slept through at 6 months, DD1 at 5 months. At 10 months DD2 was still waking two or three times a night. I decided to move her in on her own. Within two nights she was sleeping through. She was a very light sleeper and we were disturbing her at night.

Ah it's the night feeds that are the problem then but nothing you can do if he has to ha them for health reasons 🙏

I’ve always found it a bit stop start; at 8 months DD slept through the night for a couple of weeks then stopped until 10 months then about 14 months started waking at 5am and went through an “enjoyable” stage straight from that to waking in the night again. Slightly settled down now but I’ve given up on the idea of her “starting to sleep through” as I never know when it’ll change again

Mine slept through the night once at the age of 3 months. Then woke every 45 minutes on a bad night/every 2 hours on a good night for far longer than I care to remember. He finally started reliably sleeping through at 20 months.

Then we moved house at 22 months and fucked everything up and he didn't sleep through until 2.5 but you don't want to know about that.

Hang in there - it is exhausting but it does get better.

Oh, and PP is right: sleep progression is rarely linear and it often seems like one step forward, two steps back.

My two breastfed DC slept through early, 6 weeks for the first and 8 weeks for the second.

If you have to offer milk back to sleep he will understandably wake for it, must be very tough for you with his health issues.

at least a couple of people have mentioned 10 months, a year..... Gives me a tiny bit of hope haha.

DC1 was 5 when he slept through and DC2 was 6.

Years.

During the day I can remind myself it's worth it if he needs the calories, this time won't last forever etc Etc. But when it's 3am and I feel like crying from tiredness it's a bit harder to stay positive!! My OH takes over whenever he can but without boobs there's not a lot he can do.

@dontpickthemilkspots that is a Horror Story I do not want to hear

DD went from 2 bottles per night to 1 at around 4 months when she started on solids, as you did at that age back then. She was sleeping through from about 6 months.

DS was 3 months old when he started sleeping for 6 hours a night (the best Christmas present I could have asked for).
By 6 months he was doing 8 hours a night.
He was breastfed and very small and underweight for his age, but he was very active so I think he wore himself out well in the day.

My eldest reliably slept through at about 8/9 months, and we were very jammy with our youngest sleeping through by 9 weeks.
Little did we know that was just to give us the energy to deal with the absolute ball of energy he was during the day!

It’s important to remember that sleeping through the night can mean different things to different people.
One of mine slept through from (being woken for) an 11pm formula feed until 7am from 11 weeks old. She could reliably find her own thumb from 11 weeks and was a thumb sucker so was very successful at self-soothing. The other one was ebf and started to sleep through from 7pm to 7am ish at about 10 months.
Hang in there.

I should add that we did an 11pm dream feed with both of them-bottle of expressed BM. I don’t know if this might be an option for you?

Depends dd who i choose to ff slept through from 3-4 months. We had a little blip at 8 months for two weeks but touch wood now 2 and a half cant remember when she didnt sleep through. Im probably temping fate here and be up all night tonight!!!!!! I do know alot that have slept through from 4 months but also alot that havent including my sisters whos still up aged 6. Nothing you are doing right or wrong just lucky. I bet my next wont sleep through!!!! I do agree its the ff ones that sleep through eariler in my group.

Both my dds slept around 12 hours a night around 6 months old - I think by the time they were having 3 meals a day. Once they were having 3 meals a day plus milk, I wouldn't have offered milk at night time- I think that was the advice at the time. It was said, I think by hv/books I read/friends that they no longer would need any food through the night. My own real life experience was that I didn't know anyone whose baby didn't sleep through the night by 6 months latest; it was only when I came on mn about a year later I discovered that all babies didn't sleep through by then.

It depends how you define STTN, for me it would be from midnight to 5am and I was very lucky that my first did this from a very young age but were awake and feeding all evening though.