To believe babies don't start STTN at 9 months?!

[Fieau]

my baby is 9 months old and has never slept through the night. The best sleep was at about 3 months, when he did some 6 hours stretches. After he turned 4 months that went back to two hours between wake ups and has been the same ever since. He is fine to go to sleep, has a very consistent bedtime, he just wakes up a million times a night with no improvement.

People seem to either say that their baby started sleeping through the night at a much younger age (3/4 months) or that they didn't sleep through until they were much older (18 months). There doesn't seem to be a middle ground!! My husband keeps saying our baby will sleep through soon.... Am I being unreasonable to just give up any hope of him ever sleeping through the night??!!

He sleeps in with us, as when he wakes up I just feed him and he (usually) then goes back to sleep. I'm feeling broken after so long without a decent stretch of sleep

Every baby is different. My two were sleeping through the night at 8wks because my mother in law figured out I didn’t have enough layers on them (summer babies in Australia). I reckon it was just luck on my side.

There is no difference in how bottle and bf babies sleep overall

Not true. As a wealth of studies have shown!

expectingscience.com/2014/09/09/lets-face-it-formula-fed-babies-sleep-better-from-their-parents-perspective/

Most likely, as a PP poster has suggested, it is because FF parents respond to crying a bit differently. You have to feed a set number of bottles and you can't keep handing out bottles lest you cause overfeeding. So you have no choice other than to get the baby back to bed some other way, and the baby is likely to develop a "suck to sleep" association.

My LB is 9.5 months too.
He first slept through the night at about 7.5m but since then he has slept through maybe 10 times (7pm-6/7am). I can’t work out why he sleeps through on those nights and not others, it’s almost random.

Before that he wasn’t a good sleeper, he would wake every 1-2 hours every night until 6-7 months. We weaned off the dummy at about 5.5 months which I think helped as he’d wake up needing it replaced. I think being in his own room also helped. He does still wake up for a feed most nights, I don’t think he necessarily needs it as he eats well in the day but I can’t quite bring myself to not offer him the boob in case he is genuinely hungry, esp as it’s only once a night.
I do feel your pain as it feels like we are always being asked if he’s sleeping through and that he shouldn’t still be feeding in the night, but you just have to do what’s right for you and your little one. They’re all different but he will get there. And if it helps to reassure you, I read recently that 10-12 months is when a lot of babies start sleeping longer so hopefully it’s not too far away for us both 🙂