To believe babies don't start STTN at 9 months?!

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my baby is 9 months old and has never slept through the night. The best sleep was at about 3 months, when he did some 6 hours stretches. After he turned 4 months that went back to two hours between wake ups and has been the same ever since. He is fine to go to sleep, has a very consistent bedtime, he just wakes up a million times a night with no improvement.

People seem to either say that their baby started sleeping through the night at a much younger age (3/4 months) or that they didn't sleep through until they were much older (18 months). There doesn't seem to be a middle ground!! My husband keeps saying our baby will sleep through soon.... Am I being unreasonable to just give up any hope of him ever sleeping through the night??!!

He sleeps in with us, as when he wakes up I just feed him and he (usually) then goes back to sleep. I'm feeling broken after so long without a decent stretch of sleep

Neither of mine slept through a single night until they were 2 and could only be relied upon to sleep through every night when they started school

My little boy was almost a year when he started properly sleeping through the night. I always put it down to the fact that he was eating more solid food, and so didn’t need to feed through the night. At 9 months he was still waking up every night, although usually only once or twice.

My bf DD started sleeping from 7-7 at 10 months old, completely out of the blue. Before that she would waken every 2/3 hours. We didn't really try anything different, it just happened. She's now 15 months and sleeps a solid 13 hours every night, I definitely don't take it for granted as I'm aware it may change again in a heartbeat!

As has been pointed out already, people have different definitions of sleeping through - some parents seem to think midnight-6am = sleeping through - so I'd take it with a pinch of salt.

A fair few of my friends dcs seemed to suddenly improve around 12 months. Mine were 18 months and 2.5 years and both times had to resort to a bit of sleep training. Sleep regressions, teething, feeding and illnesses get them into habits that are difficult to break ime. The newborn period between about 6 weeks and 4 months was the best time for sleep actually - just feed and they go back to sleep for another 4 hours, nothing to worry about. It’s when you can’t use milk to settle them and have to get out of bed that it becomes more of a problem!!

Depends on the baby. DS slept through from 2 months, even before that I'd wake him to feed him and he would barely wake up, I'd have to keep moving him to get him to actually eat rather than doze straight back off. DD was nearly 8 years old before she slept though, even at 10 its 50/50 as to if she will each night (although she doesn't come and wake me unless she actually needs something)

As far as I can remember my much younger siblings all started seeping through at about 10 months.

Mine didn't sleep through the night until she was 2.5 years old. She was breastfed, we coslept, the lot.

She now sleeps in her own bed in her room from 7pm to 8am every single night. It's bliss.

You'll get there, I promise.

My first baby started sleeping through the night at 10 weeks.
I know I was very very lucky because the 2nd one didn't!!

DD was EBF and up several times a night until we moved her to her own room at 7 months. Literally up every two hours in our room on Thursday night, and slept 12 hours in her own room on Friday. Since then (nearly 10 months old now), she typically sleeps through 5 nights out of 7 I'd say. Obviously we were extremely lucky, but might be worth a try for a few nights. Easy enough to bring him back in if it doesn't work and you're finding yourself spending walking back and forth all night long.

Except when ill, our DC slept through the night from the night we came home from hospital. However, that buggered up their feeding and my milk supply, so be careful what you wish for.

My heart goes out, though, to women who are staggering through the day on almost no sleep.

I don't think there is a pattern. DD1 slept through 10 - 7.30 from 10 weeks. DD2 needed feeding at 11.30 and 2.30 until she was 11 months. Both fully breastfed. I'd class them both as very good sleepers though. Multiple night wakings only happened when they weren't well.

My DD slept through from 5.5 months. Gave her a dream feed at about 11.30 the slept through till 6. Had another bottle then and then slept until 10ish. She did this till about 14 months. Had a 2.5 hour nap during the afternoon too. She has always liked her sleep. Now aged 14.5 she will sleep until lunch time if left undisturbed.

My DS started sleeping through at 8 weeks. What is my secret? Nothing we were bloody bloody lucky

DS1 slept through the night at 8 or 9 months. May not be related but this was the time I switched from breastfeeding to formula. I started off after 6/7 months giving him a bottle before bed, but he was still waking once in the night for a breastfeed, then I switched all of his day time feeds to bottle, but still breastfeeding if he woke in the night, and he soon stopped waking.

DS2 is only 10 weeks but is already a worse sleeper than DS1 ever was. I’m tempted to try a bottle of formula before bed for him but have it in my head that I won’t give him any until after 6 months even though his sleep is absolutely killing me. And formula may not be the answer anyway, could be complete coincidence with DS1.

Both of mine did 10-6 at 7 months then 7-6 at 10 months. EBF.

Mine slept through from six weeks but they were formula fed and in a strict routine which is not at all in vogue now but was really common when mine were babies.

Normally babies have no need for night nutrition from around 8 months. What is the condition that means different in your case? As long as your baby sleeps in your bed, a night feed will continue. Entirely your choice but could be feeding well after aged two. I would not expect a baby to sleep through before 4 months but some do. You have reached an age when it is up to you to decide how you want it to go from now on. Noy=thing will change unless you do

DD was 7 months. She was waking every 2-3 hours from just before 5 months until then. The first night she went in her own room she did 7-11 then back to sleep until 7. Then next night she slept though 7-7. She's 18 months now and does 11-12 hours.

I was reluctant to put her in her own room as I thought I'd be up and down all night. But I'm glad I gave it a go now! I think we were waking her up before, coming up to bed and then moving around and DPs snoring.

We were really lucky. Both DSs slept for decent stretches after a couple of months - 12-6am and then shifted to about 10-6 at about 4/5 months. I went back to work when DS1 was 4.5 months old and at that point he would go down before 10, sometimes as early as 8 or 9 and wake about 6. I'd feed him and put him back down and go to work and he'd go straight back for another hour or two until Dh got up with him about 7 or 8. DH worked late shifts and I did earlies to limit the amount of time he was with the childminder. DS2 arrived when DS1 was 13 months and by that time DH had given up full time work to stay at home as he earned less than childcare cost. DS2 would do a similar routine when I went back to work at 5.5 months. When DS2 was born DS1 would sleep 7-7 unless he wasn't well.

Have you tried the wonder weeks app. Babies generally have a few regressions, at 4 months, 6 months, I cannot remember after that.

My first was a terrible sleeper, even in his own room. Still only naps for short periods, but now once he's asleep at night he generally stays asleep. He's now 2. I ended up having to go through a sleep consultant by 6 months as I couldnt handle it anymore. It may be something worth considering, even just for the advice.

I'd been against the cry it out method until I was so sleep deprived that it was getting rediculous, bit each to their own, some people will agree, some won't. It worked for our son, but the first few days of sleep training were hard. Being my first, looking back I should've got assistance sooner.

My 2nd at 7 months is still in our room, an excellent sleeper, however he has epilepsy and is on medications, and the side effects can be tiredness, so I do wonder how good a sleeper he would be if not on medications. He had been in his own room, but moved back with us due to his epilepsy, much to hubby's annoyance, more because he gets up at 4am and is afraid he'll wake him

Every child is different. I ended up having to take our first out of our room at 1 month old. Both he and his dad snore, I couldn't handle it. He now sleeps with white noise in his room, which helps him to sleep.

Things to consider.

1. Is your room dark, this can affect quality of sleep for bub if room is too bright. I have blackout blind against the window with suction cups to block out light.

1. How noisy/quiet is it. My babies tend to wake more at night without white noise, as the area we live in is noisy during the day, but quiet at night.

1. How hot/cold is it, this can affect sleep.

1. Method of how bub goes to sleep, are they rocked, patted or just left to it.

1. Do they need to cuddle up to something when they sleep.

My 1st never needed any comfort toy, but my 2nd from day 1 needed to hold something and have a dummy/pacifer. He now cuddles up to his bunny to go to sleep, but each child is different.

No judgements here, it sometimes take trial and error to work out what will work for you. You may need to try a variety of methods until you can find what works.

Mine slept with one wake up from a couple of months and right through from 6 months. Now nearly 4 and she’s woken up in the night a handful of times, less than once a month for sure.

DS slept amazing for a newborn for the first 5 weeks. 2/3 night feeds and then straight back down. After that he was up and down constantly. We went through weeks at a time of hourly wake ups. Randomly at 6 months he slept 7.30-5am, had a feed then back to sleep. After this we had a mixture of really good chuncks of 8+ hours, and then periods of being up for hours in the night. It was really up and down. At 11 months he first slept all night 7-6.30. He was then reliably sleeping all night at 12 months. He’s almost 21 months now and I can count the amount of times I’ve had to go to him in the night. He was EBF

They can do. My two girls slept through most nights from 8 weeks. But my two son's woke until they were around 18 months.

My baby slept through from a month old

My boy was breastfed he was about 2 when he started sleeping through.

My daughter was bottle fed and is 4 now and she sleeps through maybe 75% of the time? First full night was probably around 3.5 years old. She doesn’t seem to need much sleep at all!

Other mother like to cock their head to one side and tell me how sorry they feel about me so I’m assuming it’s fairly abnormal but tbh once I stopped stressing myself about it it became a milllion times easier to deal with. I’ve got a spot on dp aswell

Both of mine started sleeping through at 4 weeks, 9pmish to 5amish.
Neither of my sister’s did until they were around 3.
The reason you might think it’s impossible is that British mothers don’t often talk about easy labours, babies that sleep through and feed easily, lest they be torn apart by the mothers driven to insanity by their babies that don’t.
I certainly didn’t with my sister!