To ask if you love your DP or DC more?

[MamaDane]

Sorry if this question offends in any way or if it's painfully obvious.

Thing is, I'm pregnant (FTM) and in a relationship with the love of my life.

And I keep wondering how it would be possible to love my kids more than my partner.

I see my partner as my soulmate and the kids with eventually move out and have their own lives, where again it will just be the two of us, growing old together.

Anyone still with their DP and love them more?

Or still with DP and love their child/-ren the most?

DC hands down. I'd die for them, I would for him. That's not to say I don't love him to bits, I do, but it's not the same as the love you have for your children.

DC.

I've known him longer than DH

That should be wouldn't for him.

The dog

(Half kidding)

DC.

@LaurieFairyCake

DC 100% love my OH but if I could choose between one or the other the cd would win hands down

I love them all equally.

My husband is the love of my life and my best friend in the whole world but I'd throw him under a bus to save my kids.

It’s a different kind of love, but in my experience a far stronger feeling, I have been in love, with DP and others before, but the love I have for my son is unchallenged overwhelming almost, I highly doubt there are many on here who would admit to loving their DP more than their children, and if they do then they’re lying as I said, completely different love

I love DH and DC's in totally different ways.

DH is very much my best friend and we expect to grow old together. The DC are something of a shared project for us

But both of us would prioritise the DC before each other in certain situations. If there was a fire I would expect him to save the kids before me (and we betide him if he didn't!!).

It's different. Can't put it into words. I've been married for 23 years and he's still my soul mate and best friend but my DC are my DC and if it came to it I would put them first. I think he feels the same.

Once that baby is in your arms you’ll wonder how you could ever have questioned the depth of the love you feel for your child. It’s hard to explain but that child is part of you. It’s like a piece of your heart and soul is in that little body and it’s a love like no other. That’s how it is for me anyway.

DC- no comparison.

DH is amazing and everything, but the love for a child you’ve grown and cared for since they were a newborn is completely different.

The difference is that my love for dh is conditional.

DC without a doubt, they come before everybody else.

DC

What mereybloominchristmas said

No contest.

Husband beats all other men

Dc beat all other humans. Full stop.

Definitely child more than husband. It’s a far stronger, deeper love. It’s almost like when you first fall in love with your partner, the kind of love that makes you feel like you can’t live without them - except with children that intense feeling never fades away.

You’ll see

DC unquestionably.

DH claims to love me more, but I think it’s highly unlikely and I also judge him slightly for it. Poor DH 😉

DC. No competition. Strange that anyone would ask.

Agree it's totally different. Almost feral. You have chosen to fall in love with your partner- circumstances led you to meet them and fall in love and be together. The second that child is your arms you'd throw yourself under a bus for them without question in a way that cannot really be put into words. It's spectacular.

For sure my DS I would give my life for him without a moments hesitation I know no matter what DS done I will always love him, as much as I love DP I just couldn’t say I will always feel like that no matter what!

Also, if it ever was a 'DH or DC' kind of situation, your partner would WANT you to choose the kids too, that's how strong a parents love is.

DC.
Which is how it should be. I’d expect my husband to save the kids in a fire before me.
It’s iust how you feel about your children.
My DH feels the same.
Don’t worry about it - it’s a lovely and terrifying feeling all at once!