To ask if you love your DP or DC more?

[MamaDane]

Sorry if this question offends in any way or if it's painfully obvious.

Thing is, I'm pregnant (FTM) and in a relationship with the love of my life.

And I keep wondering how it would be possible to love my kids more than my partner.

I see my partner as my soulmate and the kids with eventually move out and have their own lives, where again it will just be the two of us, growing old together.

Anyone still with their DP and love them more?

Or still with DP and love their child/-ren the most?

I love my DS. I experienced the all consuming protectiveness, the feeling like piece of my heart is locked in him and if anything happened to him I wouldn't be able to survive...The strength of this love is scary sometimes in it's intensity.

I love my husband too. Maybe not in this all consuming way but in a more conscious, mature way. I chose him to be my life companion and he is an amazing person. DS wouldn't exist if not for DH and I can see parts of DH in DS. I wouldn't want to be without DH and I don't think I would be ever able to move on..

I can't choose betwern those two feelings. I think both are my top priority.

I don’t think it’s negative to be in a relationship with a partner who loves his children more than you, but it does seem to me harmful to be a child whose parents love eachother more than you.
I don’t know if this changes if your dc are adults, haven’t got there yet.

Watcher I'm so sorry. A decade ago I worked with a man who had lost his adult son. It was about 15 years before we met, and despite a daughter, grandchildren etc etc, he was pretty broken. I still think of him every September.

I would always put my children 1st, even though I've spent large parts of their lives wishing someone else was looking after them, but yes I'd die for them. I did love them unconditionally for a very long time. Duty, yes, love, not really. Now I do.

*I DIDN'T love them

@FuzzyShadowChatter @qumquat such interesting posts, thank you so much for sharing.