To be fed up of how my DP wears clothes

[Foxandthehound]

I can hear how much of a twat I sound in the title, but bear with me.

He is a size 8 shoe, he does have wide feet but definitely not unusually wide. He has to wear size 12 shoes apparently, it's obvious these shoes are far too big for him. He doesnt tie his shoes, instead he tucks them in his shoes. His feet are always slipping out and they even often fall off his feet completely. He tucks his jogging bottoms into his shoes.

He's a tracksuit guy, won't ever see him in trousers or a pair of jeans. This alone doesn't bother me, it's the fact he says he has to buy them 2 sizes bigger or he won't wear them. They HANG off him. It's clear they are far too big. He also apparently can't sit down without having to pull his trousers down under his bum so he's only sitting on his boxer shorts. He does this in public and he gets quite a bit of stares.

I have bought him clothes his actual size, and he just donates them to charity or exchange them for a bigger size.

Am I being too picky/controlling and an utter twat, or am I not the only one that can see the problem with this? I haven't gone on and on to him because a) I can't force him to wear clothing true to his size and b) I do think I sound quite controlling .

I agree with all longest lurker's posts. OP, you sound as though you have a good relationship with a man you love. I agree these quirks need sorting for your daughter's sake, if nothing else. However, there are ways and ways to do this and this internet bashing of someone who may be thoroughly decent and kind, just because of their non conformity in one area of life, is pretty unpleasant. Good luck coming to some reasonable compromises without breaking up a relationship you clearly value.

My nephew has his shoes really loose like this and he has sensory processing issues. He'd also never wear jeans and favours tracksuit bottoms. He wouldn't think twice about pulling them down in public if he was uncomfortable. In the other hand he is 10, not a grown man and he has other needs which make these issues more likely.

Does he like to take his clothes off as soon as he gets home?

If it's not sensory then it's just odd lol

OP do you have friends? What do your friends and family say when he does it? In your op you said he does it In public, and gets stared at, not just he does it at home.

Do your friends and your family not comment?