To go back to this house?

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We're trying to move house.

I hate where I live.

We've sold ours and found somewhere that we thought was perfect.

Got survey done, arranged removals, almost got to exchange etc. Then we went back for another viewing to measure up.

The vendor was starting to remove fixtures and fittings, things were broken and dirty.

We pulled out.

Since then, we have found nothing else. Nothing.

The vendor of that house put it back on the market and sold it last week.

Would it be even worth our time going back to them?

We could complete in a week and I know the vendor has already bought his new place so is paying two mortgages. He could move much more quickly with us than with his new buyers. Would that count?

I can't sleep for worrying about this. I'm in tears at thought of being trapped in our current home.

Help!

I am not sure I would trust you if I was the seller, you could let seller down again and he could/would lose the buyer he has now. But you could always try and see what he says.

You really can't do that. You've already let them down once and that would be a really shitty thing to do to the new buyers. You chose to pull out, you need to find somewhere else.

That would be awfully cruel to the buyers.

I know I overreacted but i didn't know what else to do.

I hate living here. Main road, shit schools, smack heads fighting outside. Yet I have a good income and six figure savings...

Which buyers?

Cruel to our buyers? Obviously we're going to have to let them down now.

No his new buyers.

Even if I was desperate I'd be telling you to jog on to be fair!

You say the house is already sold so you would be trying to take it from the new agreed buyers?

I wouldn't even respond to any offer you put in. You can't mess people around like that.

The new buyers for the house you're talking about, the ones he has sold it to.

I'm fucked then. Utterly fucked.

Everything depends on moving there. Decent school, TTC our second.

I want to curl into a ball or run away.

If you have so much savings why isn't renting in the new area until a house you actually want to live in comes up an option? Rather than last minute settling on something you don't really want.

Besides, it's only been sold a week!

Renting is dead money.

Why don't you go through with your sale, rent somewhere and carry on looking?

If everything depends on moving there why did you pull out in the first place?

I think you should leave the house you backed out on and look for a new one. Your instincts felt ultimately this wasn't for you, but you're feeling bad because you feel there may be no other alternative. There will be, with six figure savings I am sure you'll be more than okay finding somewhere else!

I agree with others, the seller has lost trust and faith that you will complete, plus another buyer wants the house too and it'll be bad on them.

But given how desperate you are to move, and the fact you’d presumably spent a lot of money on solicitors fees, surveys etc, the problems that made you pull out with nothing else to go to must have been very serious, and pretty unresolvable?

There's nothing trapped about your situation.. Rent until you find somewhere.

Because he was taking out the kitchen, the floor collapsed while we were there and it was covered in dog shit.

Was immaculate when he originally bought it

When we originally bought it, sorry.

There is nothing else. Nothing

So you did not spot the dog shit previously?

And my DH is barely speaking to me over the loss of that house.

So utterly fucked.

Everything depends on moving there. Decent school, TTC our second

Definitely getting the point that you hate where you live currently. But you wanting a better school isn't the fault of the new buyers to the house that you rejected. Why would that vendor change their mind? You made a decision and they found another buyer.

TTC your second is your private and emotional business when it comes to buying a house, the vendor just wants a reliable buyer and that comes down to committing money.