To go back to this house?

[trapped2019]

We're trying to move house.

I hate where I live.

We've sold ours and found somewhere that we thought was perfect.

Got survey done, arranged removals, almost got to exchange etc. Then we went back for another viewing to measure up.

The vendor was starting to remove fixtures and fittings, things were broken and dirty.

We pulled out.

Since then, we have found nothing else. Nothing.

The vendor of that house put it back on the market and sold it last week.

Would it be even worth our time going back to them?

We could complete in a week and I know the vendor has already bought his new place so is paying two mortgages. He could move much more quickly with us than with his new buyers. Would that count?

I can't sleep for worrying about this. I'm in tears at thought of being trapped in our current home.

Help!

@trapped2019 for the umpteenth time has the price been reduced?

So, are you going to go back to him and offer more money then? I am guessing that is the only way he will agree to sell to you. Fair enough, but then you are shafting yourself, aren't you?

Your marriage doesn't sound particularly happy so it might be worth shifting your house and renting for a few years anyway, just in case it does all go wrong and you end up splitting.

I don't think you've been shafted and whilst you come across as emotionally erratic, you're past the point where you can do anything about that house. What do you want us to say? Go ahead and try gazzumping and I'm six months you'll be back about how you really have been shafted by the dodgy seller. It's a shame you didn't rationally renegotiate a reduction at the time, but as I said, the moments gone.

Renting is not dead money as pp have said. If your renting you won't be paying a mortgage so not using up savings and two sets of moving costs will be minimal compared to all the others expenses of moving house, which you'll still only be paying once. And you'll be in the stronger position when you do come do buy.

OP, I think you need to get some sleep and then maybe read through your posts. You're not really making any sense.

I think you’ve had a lucky escape with this house, you already know there are issues with the kitchen floor, what other things might come to Light when you’re heavily pregnant with neither the energy or the funds to put it right.

Go apologise to DH you do sound like you’ve been hard work recently, apologise to your vendors say you still intend to move but your house fell through and you’re waiting until something suitable comes along, it’s then up to them whether they want to wait, , Things will pick up when the weather improves the market is always slow in January.

You pulled out. His new buyers didn't shaft you. He has no moral duty to you either.

I'm no expert, but I'm sure you can't get a mortgage on a house with no kitchen.

What about your buyers op? If you stay in your house you will be shafting them.

Oh dear.
You do sound rather, um, mercurial, and as if you assume things should just fall into place around you. Are you very used to having your own way? The fact that you seem to be taking it as a dreadful catastrophe that things aren't going your way would suggest so.

I'd say this level of drama around it all is actually only possible because you have choices here. You can't be all oh-I-won't-hear-of-renting-it's-dead-money-and-only-proles-do-it-not-proper-people if needs must (or, see above, if you're not used to things falling into place around you). I'd also like to respectfully suggest that someone with six figures in the bank doesn't - can't - really know the meaning of being 'utterly fucked'. Not in the way you mean here.

Sometimes being an adult means modifying your actions, even if they conflict with your long-held beliefs (dead money blah blah), to get the best long-term outcome (and again I'd suggest that getting a worse deal on a house with a structurally unsound floor and full of dog shit - I'd never buy a house that had been full of dog shit - is not that best outcome). In the kindest possible way, you both need to grow up.

You can ask, but I would be very surprised if the seller pulled out of his sale for you, you've already pulled out once.

The kitchen is odd, but you had legal recourse there, they can't sell it without the kitchen, and the floor would need to be repaired, so you should have got your solicitor involved as they would be required to make it good, which I'm assuming they have done and hence it's sold again. Either way it's done now.

No one has shafted you though, if you're shafted you did it to yourself.

What a load of old bunkum.

Haha good luck OP, may you find the house you deserve.

I read 6 figures as 5 figures. Bloody hell op you are in an extremely privileged position stop the frame for a bit and the feeling sorry for yourself. Team up with your dh (you don’t sound like you are working together on this at all). I would sell and rent in your preferred area (if this is sensibly affordable) and keep looking.

Exactly, yearinyearout. And the op has a 6 figure sum saved up too.

Drama not frame

Hmm I’d be keen to move out if I lived under a bridge too.

If this is true then you need to calm down op. Moving house is unbelievably stressful and you’re not anywhere near yet.

So you didn't want that house 'back' until someone else 'had' it?
If you wanted it that much you'd have acted before now/not pulled out in the first place.

If you're that desperate to move and haven't found anything else I'd suggest that your expectations are unrealistic and you need to adjust what you're looking for.

I'm not making this up either! Why would I do that?

I wish I was. I'm trapped in a shit house.

I've been up all night stressing about it and now DS is up so forgive the brief replies.

You're not trapped with six figures saved up in the bank!!!!!

Why are you trapped? You say you have sold.

I'm not making this up either! Why would I do that?

Because any attention is better than no attention?

Our solicitor was utterly useless- had to point out who she was acting for at one point. If she's been able to offer some advice or guidance I might not have ended up down this hole.

Btw, if people think I'm a troll go and report the thread. MN can then look at my several years of posting history and tell you I'm not.

OP - renting with a 6 month contract, having sold a house (and your mortgage offer ready) makes you a cash buyer. You become an attractive prospect to estate agents and sellers. We've done it and secured our house of choice over all the others who wanted it because we had nothing to sell.