To go back to this house?

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We're trying to move house.

I hate where I live.

We've sold ours and found somewhere that we thought was perfect.

Got survey done, arranged removals, almost got to exchange etc. Then we went back for another viewing to measure up.

The vendor was starting to remove fixtures and fittings, things were broken and dirty.

We pulled out.

Since then, we have found nothing else. Nothing.

The vendor of that house put it back on the market and sold it last week.

Would it be even worth our time going back to them?

We could complete in a week and I know the vendor has already bought his new place so is paying two mortgages. He could move much more quickly with us than with his new buyers. Would that count?

I can't sleep for worrying about this. I'm in tears at thought of being trapped in our current home.

Help!

I think the OP might want to watch 'I, Daniel Blake', and take a long hard look in the mirror.

Renting is the way out and it will allow you ti proceed on the sale of your house.

If you have a 6 figure salary and huge savings I can't see the issue with this if you hate where you are so much and find it strange that you are so miserable there that you'd rather stay over paying rent for 6 months or so.

Nothing stopping you going back but I expect the vendor to tell you absolutely no.

And here we have proof that you don’t need to be intelligent to be able to accumulate lots of money.

Both you and your DH are complete idiots.

dram queen. You are not trapped with six figure savings.

drama , even

Why don't you rent until you find another brilliant house to buy.

For gods sake @HomeEdRocks18 don't anger it! 😉

I agree with HomeEd and am quite surprised no one else has suggested renting.

mtschook I also wanted to suggest renting but seeing as none else had through this whole thread I held back. Thought it must be one of my crazy off the wall ideas

So...... How much dog shit was there?

Shitloads.

It's a long thread and many pp's HAVE suggested renting, which seems to be the best option. Alot of pp's also seem to miss the point that the husband refuses to rent, so OP is stuck on that score. Her husband doesn't seem to be doing much to help at all, which must have exasperated the situation. It's taken him 5 years to agree to move. So what's her solution?

Enjoying this thread because OP is such an idiot . @EngagedAgain I think OP has been so petulant and rude that pp are just baiting her now....

Why doesn't your DH want to move? It seems you are not in agreement in general which is the main issue here.

With your salary and savings 10k rent is nothing. If your home will be hard to sell due to location etc as you’ve said how bad it is, then why risk losing the buyers you have? Rent for 6 months and something will come up in that time for you to buy. You said having to pay council tax etc- you would in a home you bought so that’s no different. You are putting hurdles in the way of yourself.

I don’t understand it. She’s got this attitude like renting is beneath her but she lives on a drug estate???

@EngagedAgain - I do realise that the OP's dh is the problem, when it comes to renting - but I also think that plenty of people on here have tried to offer arguments that the OP might use, to convince her dh to change his mind about renting.

I do feel sorry for her - it must be dreadful to feel so stuck - living somewhere she is unhappy and doesn't feel safe, but with one obvious and sensible route out completely shut off by her husband.

I don’t think it’s just the ops husband, who is the one so reluctant to rent. I made the point many pages back that the op doesn’t need her husband to even agree to renting a property and that he can just be a named adult occupant. Her response, which completely missed the point was that she wasn’t intending on getting a divorce. Something I certainly didn’t suggest. She’s also yabbered on about it being a waste of money.

At this stage the completion documents are likely all signed and op just needs to give the green light on the sale. I therefore don’t think her husband is the only barrier to renting. My take is if the op were that unhappy she could just push through the sale.

But as has been pointed out she’s not the sharpest tool in the box.

Maybe this is just a bit of made up drama to have us all frothing.

Have you found anything yet OP, because the buyers of your house on crack head street will pull out on you if you don’t pack the drama in and get looking.

Good god, just reading your posts is exhausting OP. And I'm still confused.

I am a bit about the 'collapsed floor' (unless you mean you could actually see the joists) and dog shit, especially as it took only a week to re-sell the house. It can't possibly have been that bad. And certainly not bad enough for you to abandon THE ONLY house on THE ONLY estate where you're prepared to live.

I think this boils down to money.
You don't want to spend a penny on decorating the new place (utterly unrealistic).
You hired a cheap (inexperienced) solicitor.
Ditto surveyor (if the 'collapse' is real).
You refuse to spend anything on rent even if it puts you in a prime position when the next house comes up.

Your priorities are all wrong if all you want to do is hold on to your cash. Then you will stay in crackhead alley. Fine, your choice. But not the fault of your vendor.