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Daughter kicked off bus aibu

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user1471461798 · 16/01/2019 19:59

Just wondered what everyone’s thoughts on this was? 17 year old daughter dropped off at the bus stop at 6.44 this morning, she had lost her lanyard with her bus pass on, so was going into college to get a temporary pass, we knew it was at home somewhere. Got on, sat down, the bus driver then asked to see everyone’s pass.. Doesn’t do this every day- specific bus only for her college.( 1st stop in the morning, last stop at night). obviously she didn’t have it, explained and he told her to get off the bus, she asked if she could just go to college and get a temporary pass. ( I know this is true as her friend told her mother the same ).

She then had to walk over a mile in the dark and rain, We had all left for work. also she has a broken arm, so had to carry bags as well. We have asked for an explanation from both the bus company and college, no reply from coach, but college have said the driver was correct!
I feel the coach company had a duty of care to make sure she was safe. What is everyone’s thoughts please?
Maybe a while getting back to everyone, going to the cinema now😊

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Rinoachicken · 16/01/2019 20:01

If you knew she didn’t have her pass you (and she) should have made sure she had money to pay the fare instead, sorry

JasperKarat · 16/01/2019 20:01

They have a duty of care to not let any random person get on a bus for students, without her pass she could've been anyone. She needs to be more careful with her things and maybe someone didn't dropped her off this morning given she has a broken arm

lastqueenofscotland · 16/01/2019 20:02

Ditto PP. also she’s 17 not 11...

whatsthepointthen · 16/01/2019 20:02

Yeh i think yabu, a mile isnt exactly far and as for it “being dark” it wasnt 3am so cant get worked up it was the morning.

Corcra · 16/01/2019 20:03

I would absolutely loose it with them. On a basic human level, the driver did the wrong thing.

Orchidflower1 · 16/01/2019 20:03

Was it a bus provided by the college or a regular bus?

ENormaSnob · 16/01/2019 20:03

Yabu

kitkatsky · 16/01/2019 20:04

YABU, sorry, but like a PP said you could've made sure she had cash in case it was an issue. The driver and college's response was correct. Over a mile means less than 2 miles. Even my DD7 walks that far carrying stuff daily without complaint. If she's in college she's at least 10 years older

LIZS · 16/01/2019 20:05

A mile is not far, her friend could have taken the bag. It might seem overly strict but they have certain expectations by that age. Don't do what one local parent did and go to local press about similar, it was excruciating and a non story.

MartaHallard · 16/01/2019 20:05

I feel the coach company had a duty of care to make sure she was safe.

She's nearly an adult and presumably knows her way home. What's the worst that could have happened to her, other than getting a bit wet?

ltk · 16/01/2019 20:06

Can you pay a fare on this bus, or do you need a pass?

ladybee28 · 16/01/2019 20:06

Lose stuff = deal with consequences, no?

the coach company had a duty of care to make sure she was safe

How was she unsafe?

user1471461798 · 16/01/2019 20:06

You can’t pay, special bus, she knows the bus driver, there is only 4 people getting on the bus, she isn’t asked to show her pass every day, wasn’t asked yesterday, when she had it. My thoughts are, take her and then when she gets to college, get a temporary pass and show the driver. College is rural, if you got on the coach, you would only be going to that college.

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cheesywotnots · 16/01/2019 20:06

Why didn't she have the money for the fare if she didnt have her pass.

ooodile · 16/01/2019 20:07

She should have had bus fare to get to college; and she's 17. If she has a problem with the driver/bus company, let her sort it out. Does she know how to use a telephone? She should make her own complaint if she thinks it warrants one.

PinkGin24 · 16/01/2019 20:07

YABU

ltk · 16/01/2019 20:07

A mile is not far, but there needs to be a way to take the bus once without a pass, in order to arrange a new pass. Things do get lost or stolen.

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 16/01/2019 20:07

YABU. You knew she didn’t have the pass and you knew they occasionally check for passes. You (and she) decided to ignore the possible ramifications and it came back to bite you in the bum.

ltk · 16/01/2019 20:08

YANBU.

ZogTheOrangeDragon · 16/01/2019 20:08

I think she should have had money to pay as she didn’t have her pass with her or you should have taken her to college.

Hopefully this will be a lesson about not losing things.

ooodile · 16/01/2019 20:08

If she couldn't use cash, she should have explained to the driver her situation when she got on, or maybe called the company ahead to ask their advice.

dalmatianmad · 16/01/2019 20:08

Couldn't you have dropped her off before work?

Namechangedforthis79 · 16/01/2019 20:08

Bloody hell she's almost an adult, why are you fighting her battles for her?

OneChildOneNewBaby · 16/01/2019 20:08

You should have taken her to college if you both knew she didn't have her pass.
17 she should be paying full fare without a valid pass. YABU, driver did their job.

GoGoGadgetGin · 16/01/2019 20:08

If it was only a mile to college could whoever dropped her not just have taken her? Especially if it was known she didn't have her card?

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