Daughter kicked off bus aibu

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Just wondered what everyone’s thoughts on this was? 17 year old daughter dropped off at the bus stop at 6.44 this morning, she had lost her lanyard with her bus pass on, so was going into college to get a temporary pass, we knew it was at home somewhere. Got on, sat down, the bus driver then asked to see everyone’s pass.. Doesn’t do this every day- specific bus only for her college.( 1st stop in the morning, last stop at night). obviously she didn’t have it, explained and he told her to get off the bus, she asked if she could just go to college and get a temporary pass. ( I know this is true as her friend told her mother the same ).

She then had to walk over a mile in the dark and rain, We had all left for work. also she has a broken arm, so had to carry bags as well. We have asked for an explanation from both the bus company and college, no reply from coach, but college have said the driver was correct!
I feel the coach company had a duty of care to make sure she was safe. What is everyone’s thoughts please?
Maybe a while getting back to everyone, going to the cinema now😊

YABU

Your daughter is 17 so she should be responsible and take money if she knows in advance that she had lost her pass.
Couldn’t she phone you to come back to pick her up as her parents. I wouldn’t expect the bus driver to have a duty of care for her.

She had to walk for over a mile in the dark, how did he know she got home? I didn’t answer my phone- driving until she had all ready walked half way. 6.45 in the morning is still dark. Drove away as she had been allowed on and when she sat down, he asked for passes.

YABU. Your daughter’s safety is not their concern. That’s her/your lookout. Lose stuff - face consequences.

YABU. Implementing inconvenience greatly reduces the number of passes that go missing as it causes students to look after them better. It's probably an intentional system designed to minimise loss by inconveniencing students and their parents for doing so.

Does she really need to be taken. A mile is what 10-15 minute walk. Hardly a big deal.

It’s an hour and a half to college, mile back to our house, I didn’t leave her until I knew she was on the bus.

By your logic, knowing the driver should get her on the bus anyway, so why would she then need to go to college to show him/her a temporary pass?

When you don't have what you need, there are consequences. Good lessons here for everyone involved, it sounds like.

And 'they don't check every day' doesn't mean 'it's not required' – same way as train travel isn't free as long as the barrier is open at the other end.

All she suffered was a bit of a walk in the rain. Nobody's favourite thing, but not the end of the world either.

Walking a mile at 17, even in the dark, is not so terrible. Pity her friend didnt think to take her bags though.

If the rule is pass to travel then trying to travel without one was not a good plan.

Mainly find it hilarious that keep pointing out she had to walk ONE MILE

ONE MILE. 😄 my ‘village’ is longer than that.

She's 17 for fuck sake, YABVU!

If it was a school bus then yes they had a duty of care but at college they’re technically adults and should make sure they have important passes/ documents.
Sorry but it’s part of growing up to be responsible for yourself and your things

This would be a good opportunity to teach your daughter the consequences of her actions instead of trying to blame someone else.
It’s unfortunate but I wouldn’t turn it into a witch hunt at the bus company.

Honestly people are so mean spirited.
YANBU OP - people can choose to be kind or they can choose to ruin someone day. I don’t care how old she is, what they did was mean

Theres teens here who walk a mile home when its dark at 4.30 get a grip and stop babying her shes almost an adult!

You're not unreasonable, this was ridiculous particularly when she knows the bus driver - what if something had happened to her, would they feel themselves blameless. Yes, she's 17 but she's still your daughter and you're entitled to complain further because this shouldn't happen

A mile is what? 20 mins max? Unless you are going to spectacularly drip feed that it's actually a mile through the exact same gorge the wildebeest stampede Mufasa, I'm sure she will manage.

She walked a mile. Heavens above, poor child. It was dark. Anything could have happened. Don’t be ridiculous. She’ll be clubbing next year and is probably partying already.
She’s got another arm to carry her bag.
Let her grow up, for goodness sake.

It's one of those situations where technically yes, the bus driver was within his rights to kick her off the bus because she didn't have her pass and them's the rules. However, I wonder what most of us would do if we drove the same bus every day to the same college to drop off the same 4 pupils (I.e. we know them) and one of them turned up one day having lost her pass and asking if we could allow her to ride the bus as she does every single day, so that she can get a temporary pass from the office. I can say with certainty that I would not be turning the teenage girl away to walk alone, in the semi-darkness, with a broken arm. And yes, I realise a broken arm doesn't stop you walking but it could potentially make you a more attractive prospect for a mugger or worse.

‘Over a mile’

Despite living rurally you seem to think a mile is a long way to walk.
It’s not. Even with a cast/sling it’s a short distance.
Try not to worry.

So she missed a day of college because of this?

she has a broken arm, so had to carry bags as well

The same bags she was planni g on carrying around all day at college?

No pass, no ride.

You should of took her in.

YABVU she is 17 not 7

Oh and the driver was a jobsworthy prick to turf her off...but now you know.
A mile is still ok to walk though.