Daughter kicked off bus aibu

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Just wondered what everyone’s thoughts on this was? 17 year old daughter dropped off at the bus stop at 6.44 this morning, she had lost her lanyard with her bus pass on, so was going into college to get a temporary pass, we knew it was at home somewhere. Got on, sat down, the bus driver then asked to see everyone’s pass.. Doesn’t do this every day- specific bus only for her college.( 1st stop in the morning, last stop at night). obviously she didn’t have it, explained and he told her to get off the bus, she asked if she could just go to college and get a temporary pass. ( I know this is true as her friend told her mother the same ).

She then had to walk over a mile in the dark and rain, We had all left for work. also she has a broken arm, so had to carry bags as well. We have asked for an explanation from both the bus company and college, no reply from coach, but college have said the driver was correct!
I feel the coach company had a duty of care to make sure she was safe. What is everyone’s thoughts please?
Maybe a while getting back to everyone, going to the cinema now😊

*Bruffin

Also in a rural area so not sure if the term 'street crime' is really relevant.

If its a dedicated bus, then the contract will run from the beginning of the term, and dds very rarely come out first of the month.
Lets change it to stranger danger, teen boys are more vulnerable than girls
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Good grief this has escalated! It was a bit churlish if the driver, but within his right to refuse her. This whole episode should be an excellent learning opportunity for the girl who is 17, not 7. Taking responsibility for herself, life isn't fair, walking home won't kill you etc. I suspect the reaction by mum will undermine that completely though, and the girl will learn nothing but to moan about a man doing his job. Shame. Yabvu. Legal age for sexual intercourse and joining the military is younger than your daughter, she needs to grow up.

bruffin I would find it equally mean if the driver had dumped a 17-year-old boy off the bus for the reasons he did and in the same circumstances. The rape thing has been over-discussed. It is really just the general meanness of attitude of the bus driver to a regular passenger with a recently broken arm using a special bus service which is also the only way she can get to college. He didn’t need to do that. He could have got her in and let her go to the college office to grt a temporary pass, shown some sympathy and general kindness.

The lengths people have gone to on here to defend him and take pleasure in his treatment of the dd are extraordinary. I hope you don’t treat your own kids with the same attitude.

Littledoglaughed
We werent there, even op wasn't there so its difficult to know what exactly happened. What the conversation between the driver and the dd was etc.
There are so many variables, its very difficult to know what the situation really was

bruffin the OP said that the driver had used the dd as an 'example' to the other passengers, i.e. 'this is what happens if you forget your lanyard.' But as he rarely checks the passes, it seemed a bit harsh in itself. A warning and a talk to the college would have been enough of a reprimand. It just seems mean to me for anybody to leave a very young woman alone in the dark and rain with bags and a broken arm over something that could have been rectified in a much kinder way. I would be very upset if someone had treated dd like this.

But as he rarely checks the passes, it seemed a bit harsh in itself.

The OP also said that she usually had it attached to her bag. I don't think it's a leap to say is it's attached then it's on display (otherwise shouldn't she have said "in" her bag?) The driver usually sees the pass as she boards while not explicitly asking to see it.

Well really if it's all about making sure the students have paid for their journey the driver should be checking passes every single day and then presumably the OP's DD would have told him as she got on and the OP would have waited to see his response (although as I've said pages ago, the driver of my DD's bus is in such a hurry that he barely gives them time to sit down let alone time to show a pass every morning).

But no no no no no I musn't get drawn back in...….

GySgtHartman so why did he wait until she was sitting down before going round and asking to see the passes? OP waited to see she was sitting down before she drove off.

Again, the lengths people are going to to justify what was just mean behaviour on his part. I don't get the logic. He knows the girl! Making her get off the bus was unnecessary in the situation and circumstances they were in at that time.