To think that there's a time and a place to approach celebs

[Lydiaatthebarre]

I've just been reading one of those threads where people talk about nice and not so nice celebs they've met.

While some celebrities have clearly been very rude, telling people to fuck off or giving them the two fingers or reducing staff to tears, there are lots of posts where I really would like to hear the celeb's version of events.

I have a friend who's quite a well known actress. She has been approached for selfies and photographs while queueing for the loo in a restaurant, waiting in a Drs waiting room with her fractious toddler and asleep on a long train journey (yes, actually woken up by a fan wanting a photograph}.

AIBU to think some selfie and autograph hunters probably bring any unfriendly reaction on themselves by their rudeness and that there are definitely times and situations where it is totally inappropriate or just thoughtless and inconsiderate to bother them?

I really don't see how you can compare walking past your friend queueing for the toilet and saying hello to doing the same with a celebrity? A celebrity is a complete stranger, a friend you have a shared relationship.

I don't see the similarity Valenta. There's no problem with someone smiling at a celeb they recognise in the queue for the loo. There is a problem with them demanding a selfie or an autograph.

God, is Screaming still at it?

Give it up eh?

If they 'demand' one, then yes, but I really don't agree that it's a terrible thing to be asked for an autograph while you're standing in a queue, or that it would justify a rude/unkind response.

DarlingNikita Replying to my posts is optional!

Yes, Screaming, as is you posting and posting and arguing and arguing more ridiculously by the minute.

DarlingNikita Well, what do you expect to happen on a discussion forum? Someone posts an opinion, everyone else posts once to say 'yes, I agree' and then the discussion ends?

I agree - there's a time and a place. My neighbour has a cousin whose "famous" would never dream of asking for a selfie even when he invited us to join the bbq. Respecting family time is important

Say hello or smile - fair enough; perfectly polite and not inappropriate.
Asking for an autograph or photo, and then not accepting being told no, especially when the celebrity or famous person is not in work mode and/or is with family = inappropriate
Blasting someone on social media for not agreeing to give you a photo or autograph, when they are not 'working' = inappropriate and out of order

I have a friend who, although she isn’t a ‘celebrity’, she is an expert in her field and is often called to be a voice of reason on various tv and radio programmes - think about the game level of the doctor that appears on This Morning sometimes. It’s ridiculous that people will come up to us if we’re having a meal out, or having a walk in the park with our kids. She’s a lovely woman but why in the name of fuck would you want her autograph?!

I always try to leave celebs alone when I see them l (which is rarely). I was at a National Trust property recently and Miles Jupp was feeding some geese with his kids. He saw me clock him and did a big sort of ‘oh ffs’ sigh so I deliberately manoeuvred my dc’s off the path so we didn’t interrupt him. We then got attacked by at least a thousand angry geese while I tried to act like I wasn’t bothered.

Do people still do the stage door thing??

The Hull Truck Theatre performed a play at the RAC in Stratford a couple of years ago and I wanted to go to the stage door to meet a couple of Hull actors to say Hello. However, Mark Addy (GoT) and Caroline Quentin were also in the cast so I gave it a miss otherwise they might have thought that I was waiting for them. Silly, isn’t it?

RSC..... silly phone!

Yes, I think hanging around the stage door is still quite common. Nothing wrong with that as long as there's no expectation that the stars will stand around for ages having selfies taken with dozens of people.

Yes, the stage door thing definitely happens. And the expectation is very much that stars will hang around for hours taking selfies and signing autographs. So it's no wonder that they sling off their costume and leg it before the audience make it round to stage door. Or they find another way out of the building.

I was on a train with Christine Bleakley, Frank Lampard and his 2 daughters. They obviously were trying to keep themselves to themselves.

A couple of people came up to them for photos and autographs and they were lovely to them. Short and sweet but lovely

The train staff though were an absolute nightmare, didn’t give them a minutes peace. They also must have tipped off staff at Euston who came onto the train and stopped them getting off so they could get selfies.

There’s a time and place and when a family is trying to get home isn’t one of them.

We used to know a minor sleb (TV comedy panel show type). He used to ask DH to go to Tesco with him or help walk the dogs because he used to get so much grief from the public. Sometimes people would threaten to punch him in the pub just for a pissed laugh with their mates.

I saw Tosh from the TV drama series Shetland yesterday in St Pancras station. I’ve also seen one of the Horrible History actors there. It’s only when they’ve passed that I actually realise who they are!

Too bad I don't save links to every interesting article I read, but there was a good piece about fandom getting out of hand and the entitlement of fans is shocking, to the point of abusive and threatening behaviour and sexual harassment. And it's not some random crazies, but seemingly normal people who think stars owe them their personal time and space.

Most famous people are regarded as celebrities now, even sports men and women

There is a huge difference between someone seeking fame through big brother type shows and those who have trained for years in an art or sport

Of course someone you recognize from the tv has the right to not be bothered in public that are not public property