to ask why Mumsnet is so cliquey and me, me, me

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^That.
It's all cliques and people replying to a post and then being ignored.

I’m sorry, I’d answer but Mumsnet told us not to speak to you

No it's not?

What cliques are there? I haven’t experienced that personally, do you have any examples?

I'm nit sure if this is yet another 'you're all bitches' threads.

If it's not, then the answer is literally at your fingertips. Post in the way you think is right, dealing with issues n the thread in which they arise. When you have better or kinder advice, post it there for the OP who might appreciate it. Much better than starting a vague TAAT-tyoe thread that won't really change anything

It's just people that you don't know on the internet. Don't worry about it.

I've been on here for years and years, and I completely disagree.

I don’t agree. I just read the posts and don’t really look at or keep track of who is posting. I reckon most people are the same.

If someone says something interesting in an engaging way, people reply to them.

The first rule of the MN clique is: you don’t talk about the MN clique.

Anyway, enough about you, let’s get back to me, me, me...

I’ve been here under various names for sodding years.
I’ve yet to notice a ‘clique’.

There are some threads where groups of people who like to discuss a topic go, like the sweary threads, but they aren’t really cliques.

Thank god for the hide option.

I don't think it's cliquey at all.

It's just people chatting, offering insight and the occasional erm 'difference' of opinions.

Perhaps you could explain your point, OP in more detail?

It's not something I've noticed.

Who dis?

I don't really see this, there is 16 million users on here. Sure you get some weirdos that stalk you or whatever but I've never seen cliques. If there is no one responding to one of your posts it's simply because no one is interested enough to do so. I don't get thr me me me thing at all.

There used to be a clique of a sorts who then became the Moldies iirc and they left the site. I think some might be back, but I haven't seen Cod or Riven on here foe years now.

It's the nature of MN that you don't know how your post has been received most times.

Wait until you posted a suggestion, then someone else posts the same thing 100 posts down the thread and someone says the later post is genius.

And many pps don't RTFT or even the OP.
Watch threads when the issue has been sorted and people still offer irrelevant solutions, which has led to the often used expression "cancel the cheque".

Don't sweat it.

Well an Advanced Search would suggest that you only joined MN today, so I'm wondering what you're basing your observations on?

Ooh we haven’t had one of these threads for ages
Goady fucker alert

It's not like sitting in a pub or a cafe. It's not the same kind of conversation. People rarely reply to my posts, and even if they do I might miss the reply because I'm off doing something else and by the time I come back to the thread the discussion has moved on so I might not reply to the reply. Don't take it personally if people don't reply to a post - it doesn't really work like that.

There are one or two people on here who are known for being particularly snappy or grumpy (and you get to know who they are). But no cliques as such. It's hard to be cliquey when we live all over the country, and in different countries as well!

I've been on here for some time and don't understand what you mean about cliques, can you enlarge on this a little.

Me, me, me is pretty much par for the course with any social media isn't it?

I dont feel this way either. If I can be kind and helpful to someone who asks for advice I provide it. If not i do, as they say, " read and run". I have had helpful replies and kind words when I have asked also. I never feel I am unable to respond to a thread because its too 'cliquey'. I am sorry that you feel you have

Have you just joined today?

I don’t think it is. In fact I’ve had some very helpful replies. often if you start a thread and don’t get many responses it’s because it’s in a category with less traffic or the subject has been done to death.

but since joining I’ve had help and info/suggestions for running, skincare, hair, support with a family issue... the list is endless really.

Well an Advanced Search would suggest that you only joined MN today, so I'm wondering what you're basing your observations on? hmm

Name changed!