to ask why Mumsnet is so cliquey and me, me, me

[Lkbbdg]

^That.
It's all cliques and people replying to a post and then being ignored.

I don't understand what you mean. Do you mean that you feel everyone who posts on a thread you've started should be personally replying to you? Or do you mean it diverts into a conversation between a few posters and you then feel excluded? Or both? I don't think this is the place for asking for individual attention unless you've asked something very specific which may not be a very AIBU question and better answered on another board.

Proud hussy,that’s a flattering moniker. Cheers I’ll take that
I’m the proud hussy that’s had both your sons, all ways.
think about that as you regale me with the search for the perfect gravy boat

I don't even recognise my real life friends on here due to namechanges and short attention span. Sometimes a reply might ring a bell and I ask if it's them, but I rarely notice the name of a poster.
Sometimes I even fail to recognise myself on really old threads after a fee namechanges.

OP.... I've been here 12 years, with the same name for years and years, and I get ignored, it's quite normal!

I post something and no one comments. 20 minutes later and someone says the same thing and comments pour in!

I don't take it personally, it's the nature of the beast.

It even happens occasionally on the Trump threads and I've been on them continually since the beginning (think we're on our 89th or some such number now!)

What onlylonely said

Do you mean that you feel everyone who posts on a thread you've started should be personally replying to you? Or do you mean it diverts into a conversation between a few posters and you then feel excluded? Or both?

second one. i expect nobody will reply so i don't think they should.

I’ve been here about 13 years- never name changed, yet nobody is punching my arm .

I’m so contrarythtat if I had the metaphorical mn arm punch I’d think piss off don’t do that

Ditto shockers !!

I start threads and don't get one reply! The thing is... I don't care a fig.

When I first joined (could even be 14 years ago, can't remember) it was soooooo cliquey, far more than now. You were in or you were out, end of. All I know now is some posters buggered off to Reddit or something but I don't even know the details of that.
And that's because I come here to be amused, to be informed, to laugh hysterically and not to get angsty or fight.

I have been here about 7 years and more likely to get a punch in the face than the arm on here these days.

can't imagine that sparkling brook unless you claim john taylor as yours

Sparkling

There’s no piggy in my quiches!

Not even in the middle?

I think you're maybe reading more into what a forum is than is real.

This isn't a group of people chatting, and someone trying to join the convo. It's simply a bunch of posts. If you Post something someone agrees with, or disagrees with or finds interesting they will comment on it. If you post something that catches no ones interest they don't.

It's all about rhe post. It's not about the person. It's not a group of friends.

I’m kidding of course- I’m regularly beaten by my good chums on here. Proper popular, me.

I’ll be your friend if you keep the blows nice and gentle, Roussette.

I don't even want him any more Lkbbdg.

I got told off for 'banging on' about him on here.

Godowneasy, not a single streak!

They'll be barely a tap shockers

Thing is... this forum is huge. I think people forget that. It's not some cosy little crochet for beginners forum. It's Mums, there's a lot of us! I read somewhere that MN average 40,000 posts a day! I'm sure if it's that number no one's gonna take much notice of little old me

Mn is what you make it,what you seek from it,what time and emotional energy you put in
Mn for me is chatting to interesting folk,a different POV and experience,laughing and being challenged
It’s not personal,it’s online one need to retain online savvy.i don’t overpersonalise mn

I am not a quiche fan. It's just a soggy omelette in pastry.

BoreOfWhabylon
My first one, THANKYOU.

I've had lots of great advice and replies on MN. It's really helped. I often name change too and still had fab replies. I steer clear of AIBU. People give you very honest replies here which you often don't get in RL.

I don’t know of any cliques. Now I feel excluded from the being excluded from cliques I don’t know about clique. FFS.

It’s less ‘talking to yourself’ than Twitter but less BS syrup than FB or those threads where you have to do a newsletter greeting to everyone on the thread (was on a couple when TTC) and there is a feisty sweary lively vibe. No one will reply generally if you’re not saying something controversial, hilariously funny or someth8ng that the OP or others find interesting/annoying.

I have a thread on Health about glaucoma, no replies. I will just keep reading it until the text disappears from my vision 😭😭😭😭😭🙈

Some of the best threads for if you want to feel part of things are the TV ones. Where everybody is watching the same show and commenting on it.