to ask why Mumsnet is so cliquey and me, me, me

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^That.
It's all cliques and people replying to a post and then being ignored.

It was a lot more cliquey years back, The place is huge now, I have no idea who anyone is anymore.

I find TA threads hard to follow. But then I find TA hard to follow even though I’ve been listening for the last 30 years.

@coconutty I have a weird mental image of @sparklingbrook snogging her Duran boy in the middle of a giant omelette 😂

I don't think that it's cliquey,but I think there is a bit of a 'herd mentality' sometimes. By that,I mean a post can be chugging along nicely,then one poster will make a snidey/critical comment,and everyone else piles in after them,being nasty,like they've suddenly been given permission.

Boop, thankyou

With a couple of name changes over the years I've been on here forever and compared to some other sites I post on there really isn't a clique on here. It's too big and there are too many members for me to even notice. However that could also be because don't look at the name of the poster - I just reply to the post.

If you think about it OP, you've responded to about 1 in 30 of the posts in your thread. That's completely fine! But think about why you've not responded to all of them. Some irrelevant? People saying something similar to a poster you already replied to? People going off topic and chatting about other things? All of that is normal, as is your response to it. No one is taking it personally as they know that too.

Honey, you are over thinking this. I’ve been here for a long time. I recognise a few posters, mostly because I enjoy their posting style.
I reply to threads and move on. I do love it if someone name checks me but that isn’t something that generally happens. At least nobody here is posting for karma.

I wouldn’t want to join any clique that would have me as a member anyway

@bluesheep

You posted a shameless bump by mistake

I wouldn’t say there are cliques. There are some long running threads, so people do get to know others but they are welcoming when I’ve posted.

I agree that telly addicts is friendly, though again people know each other (E.g. having followed previous series of the show).

Otherwise it is pot luck whether something you raise gets picked up. Thread moved on and your brilliant idea was repeated and then seen as someone else’s. You start a thread but things are so busy it gets lost.
If you want help or have a particular interest the specific boards (E.g. education, health, SEN) have lots of supportive and knowledgeable posters.

@chemenger you may touch the hem of my cloak and bd part of the BOOP clique

@BitOutOfPractice
Please can I join... kneels and finds can’t get up again (bloody unhealed ankle!)

I don’t give a fuck about cliques. Tbh I don’t often go back to a thread I have posted on and I hardly ever get a DM. I just don’t care. 😆

@Bagadverts you may. But please don't expect me to get down there with you. Not with these knees

I think you might be a little over sensitive Op,I've been here a long time with this Nightwatch name & a hell of a lot longer before that .
I still go unnoticed don't get replied to much & It's just one of those things.

Apart from for NightWatch ,I use the app on my phone & mostly scan active ,it's difficult to keep up with individual posters & you can't see any of the posts or names when writing a reply :(

It doesn't mean you are being ignored.

I have a brain like a sieve most days tbh, and as lots of others have already said, you tend not to remember usernames much unless they’ve called you a twat

Don’t think cliquey at all really, the site’s too vast, varied, fast paced and downright crazy for cliques to form - which is what I love about it

If I had to recall the names of people who’ve insulted me on mn id need a biiiig book
Fortunately I don’t retain grudges or gripes and it’s an online spat.not RL

I can only remember one poster’s name in a negative light. That must’ve been 10 years ago, but she was hugely judgemental.

The rest of it is swings and roundabouts.

Hugely judgemental LOL that’s 90% of MN
Unmarried women are told they’re giving the milk away and no wonder there’s no ring
If you work you’ve abandoned your kids with strangers,they’ll suffer attachment issues
If you can’t stretch a chicken to make 18 dinners,soup and risotto you’re a slattern
If you don’t rinse and cleanse your recycling you’re a planet killing Bastard

Her judgment was reserved for me alone on that thread lipstick. As a fairly new adopter of a child with an avoidable, life affecting disability, I was struggling enormously. Thankfully, there were much kinder posters on that thread who understood my inner conflict!

I see, clearly had an impact
If it’s not too intrusive is the child ok?

I don't think it is and what do you expect it to be? All about you you you?

Take the Respo threads. They started because the original op got fed up with being ignored.

OMG I’m famous! For the record, I started the first thread as a joke and had no idea how it would escalate.

Also for the record, RespoDad was never a real person.

Anyway, enough of him, it’s all about me, me, me.... 😉