to ask why Mumsnet is so cliquey and me, me, me

[Lkbbdg]

^That.
It's all cliques and people replying to a post and then being ignored.

No cliques on MN. Only quiches and naice ham. Oh and a bit of lemon drizzle.

More importantly, what happened to soupy? I was very fond of soupy.

There are some absolutely amazing people on here op,how long have you been a member ?

Maybe try looking through some of the topics ,there's a place for everyone .

Soupy is still around, saw her today I think.

Perhaps your mistake is trying to get noticed. Just post naturally and people will answer if your post resonates, or irritates them.

Can someone please explain quiches? Sorry, will try and keep up.

Disagree. I've been here a while under many usernames and never seen any cliques. There are just far too many members for that.
Sure, some posters will be more familiar with others especially when they are sticking to one board/subject (AIBU, pregnancy, relationships etc) as such but that's completely normal.
Sometimes a comment can be lost in a thread when others appear to be posting to each other around yours but it doesn't really matter. I don't expect a reply to every single comment I make.

@GobblersKnob

Not our fault you’re not good enough for the Mumsnet clic. We’re very fussy about who can join and have a very select group of only 30 000 members. I’m afraid we just don’t have room for any more.

Perhaps the posts you post as “me” are just something people aren’t interested in. Try posting on whether babies should have their ears pierced.

Are you the one who posted the other day then did a “shameless bump” two minutes later?

hobs You gave me a good laugh thanks for this - I think it takes a certain level of paranoia to think people are ignoring you on an anonymous Internet Forum

threads of established cliques

Which threads are you talking about?
Some people have started threads which become long, ongoing conversations. The problem with them is that they become home to in jokes and shorthand.
To the casual observer they can seem like cliques. However most of them are friendly if you want to join.

Take the Respo threads. They started because the original op got fed up with being ignored.

I’m neither old nor cool

@coconutty

So you think if you’d posted using your usual name, the millions of people on here would have recognised it and thought ‘I’m not responding to her’?
That is a whole new level of paranoia.

Can someone please explain quiches?

Egg and bacon flan.

There is definitely less waving than they used to be.

There op, you're in a clique. Does it feel warm and fuzzy?

Who knows...

As shown by this thread, you get responses...

If you mean the massive, trump, antenatal, wooly hugs, feminist, etc threads, that have a group, even the weight loss ones for that matter, unless you post regularly, you do get forgotten. Or by the very nature of the thread, it has moved on by the time you get back to it.

But it is not a clique, you simply need to post more and become part of the known people on the thread, that is your choice.

You have chosen to name change, fine, 99% of the time I don't recognise usernames, and I am sure many are similar.

In other words, you are coming at this from the wrong angle, post a banal thread, it won't get replies, post an insightful or inflammatory reply/thread and you will ;)

Waaaaahhhh WatcherOfTheNight happy days

I have been here along time with different usernames. I would recognise some posters and enjoy their posts, think they're really nice or they give great advice but I would never greet them, or expect a reply to a post on someones thread. If i started a thread yes but as a poster No.

"Can someone please explain quiches?". IIRC, MrsLucas, someone once used the word quiche when they meant clique - it became a bit of a running joke!

Can someone please explain quiches?

Egg and bacon flan.

There’s no piggy in my quiches!

Some long running threads build up their own codes and ways of expressing things but the advice on any Internet forum (and I have been using them since the days of usenet newsgroups 20+ years ago) is always to lurk for a while before jumping in. Some parts of Mumsnet can be hostile, bizarrely, Higher Education is a place for lecturers to go if they want to be told they know nothing about universities, but in general I find mostly everyone is welcome to chip in. I’ve never been in the Feminism boards, I believe it’s quite scary there.

Need Hugs ? ((((Hugs))) you Lkbbdg

I thought we were so cliquey and me,me,me so the MRAs could bitch about us on Twitter . . .
If anything, I think MN is less cliquey than it was 'back in the day'. Their advertising strategy brings in lots of new people, then there are the gfs and cfs and MRAs who are drawn like moths to a flame.
It's not the sort of place where posts are acknowledged generally. Most old-timers were resistant to the tagging nonsense when it was introduced.