Am I the only one who thinks this assault is not ok

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I am absolutely fuming.

DS 17 was on a night out and returned with a bruise on his face, when I questioned it he said he was messing around with his friends and he went to bed.

I have since had a phone call from his girlfriends mother who informed me that her daughter is pregnant and her husband punched my DS and she told me that he's lucky thats all he got

I woke DS up and he told me that everything's ok and I have to stay out of it.

I am obviously shocked if his gf is pregnant but i'm more worried about the assault that has occurred

What should I do

Call the police. It's assault

Call the police and get charges for assault brought against her father.
Then try and speak to the childs mum about getting this young girl a termination. You do not want your son tied to a family that see nothing of physical violence.

Not a lot. The girl's father was criminally out of order, however your son is big enough to become a father and big enough to deal with it himself. Let him decide.
The real issue is the pregnancy.

Oh god, poor kid. That's not ok. His GF's dad is obviously one of those neanderthals who think their little princess is their property and that your DS has somehow disrespected him by having a (presumably totally consensual and age appropriate) sex life with her. He clearly doesn't believe that she's equally responsible for the situation, bet he hasn't punched her in the face.

I wouldn't report it yet if he has asked you not to, but you do need to have a proper talk about it tomorrow and empower him to stand up to this dick, especially if he's likely to be in his life for the next XX years.

Can I as a third party report the assault?

I get that he was big enough to get into this situation but to be fair I am more concerned about whats happened to him he may be an adult but hes still my child in my eyes

Oh fuck.

I think you need to talk to the family.

Ok, he got punched, but that's all you know right? I wouldn't call the police in these circumstances.

How olds the girl?

Good luck op, looks like you're in for a bumpy ride.

(Ps... I wouldn't insist on termination as per pp suggestion, that's not your call to make)

The pregnancy is what needs addressing here. How old is the girl?

I’d be calling the police too I’m afraid. I can’t imagine a grown man thinking it’s ok to punch anyone a 17yr old kid. I’d also be worried that if you don’t involve the police now, he’s going to think he has carte blanche to knock seven shades of shit out of your son any time he disagrees with him (which is likely to be frequent if GF continues pregnancy).

I wouldn’t report it unless your son wants it to be... it’s going to be a difficult enough situation to navigate without pressing charges against his girlfriends father

You can report it, but does your son want to go down that road? Once you let the dog off the leash, it can be hard to put back on again.
Speak to your son.

Already the whole thing is a mess.

Leave everyone to cool down for the night. Speak to your DS tomorrow morning, and ask to speak to his gf/her family tomorrow.

You may well be tied to these people for a long time, so tread carefully.

It’s up to your son, should he choose to report the assault.

his gf is 17 also

That is one fucked up situation.
I can see why you’re angry that DS was punched, I’d be furious, but surely the main issue here is that his gf is pregnant?
Sounds like there is a need for lots of conversation with all parties.
Is DS still at school?
How old is gf?

How old is the pregnant girlfriend ?

Sorry x post.
So they are both 17yo.
Really not ideal is it. As I said , lots of talking is needed

You're more worried that your son was hit by his pregnant girlfriends father than you are that your 17 year old has got his girlfriend pregnant??

The pregnancy has much longer term consequences than a bruise. What has your son to say about his girlfriend? Do they have a plan?
As your son is still legally a child, ( as is his girlfriend?) you can't just ' stay out of it'.
Wait till the morning when you've had a chance to calm down and then time for a serious talk. Don't let him get away with minimising this.
If he won't tell you then I'd b e calling up her parents to find out what's going on. If she decides to keep the baby, this will have long term consequences for you all so don't start getting involved in arguments but work out with your son how he can best face up to his responsibilities.

Then try and speak to the childs mum about getting this young girl a termination.

It's nobody's business but the girlfriend's what she decides to do about the pregnancy. Your son knew what he was doing.

Im surprised you are more concerned about the punch tbh

yeah my son knew what he was doing but does that deserve him to be assaulted?

You're more worried that your son was hit by his pregnant girlfriends father than you are that your 17 year old has got his girlfriend pregnant??
Fuck that! Both participants are over the legal age of consent - just because a pregnancy has occurred doesn't give the woman's dad the right to start smashing people all over the shop. Why does your son get a punch and not this man's precious daughter?!
What a damn shame the pregnancy is now out in the open - I suspect that will make it a hundred times more difficult for the two of them to make a decision together without being mithered to fuck by their respective parents.

You're focused on the bruise and not the bigger picture. Your son is potentially going to have a relationship with these people for the rest of his life.

I don't know what you should do. I think you have bigger things to worry about. If you call the police you could make the situation worse. Talk to him and see how he is feeling, what do they plan to do? What does he want to do? How well do you know the girlfriends parents, could you call and ask them to come over and talk about how to support the kids through the situation? Calling the police will probably just get your family left out of the situation, and to be honest I would to do the same if someone got my daughter pregnant at 17.