MIL wants to cook when she comes to visit- AIBU

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MIL always wants to cook when she comes to stay with us. I always make sure that there is food cooked when she arrives but she seldom eats it- we are from different cultures so the food isn’t what she is used to, but she doesn’t even try it. She says that she wants to cook for her son and her grandchildren, but my point is there is food already made which they would eat. Also the last time she cooked she burnt my favourite pot and it’s ruined!!! I don’t want her cooking in my kitchen- a part of me feels like she is trying to mark her territory in my home, and I really dont like it. I have said to hubby that If she wants to cook why can’t she cook at her house and bring it with her, but apparently this is not possible. He doesn’t see an issue. I am a homely person and my kitchen is important to me. Aibu?

yanbu

I could not bear to have MIL cooking in my kitchen. Absolutely no way. It is boundary busting behaviour to me.

It doesn't really matter how we would all feel about,everyone is different. However, you don't want it to happen in your domain so that should be an end to it.

I dislike a lot of things about my MIL. I managed civil when we are together for any reason.
But she is my husband’s mother and he loves her, and I love him.
Cooking is her thing, it makes her happy, it defines her role to her. When she visits, I let her cook because it gives her pleasure and she’s less of a pita when slicing, dicing and making Yorkshires.
Yes, it’s a stressed for me, but I’m an adult and I can cope for a short period of time, and other people are happy.

KC225 idea of getting her to make a few freezer meals is brilliant. It would free up your time after she left to do other nice things with your family.