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Not want ex to leave a 15 and 17 year old alone for a week

217 replies

5fivestar · 29/12/2018 11:07

When the 15 year old has been hospitalised with anxiety.
SS aren’t interested, he left them for 3 days. They didn’t care. Am
Banging my head against a brick wall

OP posts:
MrsChollySawcutt · 29/12/2018 21:00

Your story has more holes than a Swiss cheese. If you genuinely want help, outline the facts properly and tell consistent story.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 29/12/2018 21:40

You’ve just said the sisters are now best of mates so I don’t see any problem. So confusing.

KittensAndChristmasCake · 29/12/2018 21:59

KittensAndChristmasCake - what else would they do with her ?

I don't know, maybe tell her to go home with her family and tell her Mother to parent her children?

sweeneytoddsrazor · 29/12/2018 23:14

This is absolute garbage. Firstly she stormed off in a huff. Then she was assaulted by her sister SS told you to choose and you chose the bully because it would have been catastrophic for all the other children if you didn't. Then she went to her dads because she was in hospital and refused to leave if she had to come back to you. Make your mind up.

CJsGoldfish · 30/12/2018 02:01

OP, you sound so toxic that I can imagine your children having problems for years to come. You wrap up your obsession with your ex in faux concern for your teens. This is all about your ex, that couldn't be clearer.

You use your older child to keep you informed without caring about the toll that will eventually take. You assign no blame to yourself, you find the responses 'hysterical' and they amuse you greatly.

I can assure you that noone else is amused by what you are prepared to put your children through in order to stick it to the ex.

Notacluethisxmas · 30/12/2018 08:02

Looking at ops other threads, this is what she does. Starts a thread, drip feeds when people don't agree and Then gets arsey when people still don't agree.

Juells · 30/12/2018 10:39

I have t described anything so your imagination is running away with you. They are best of friends now.

If you haven't seen your daughter since August, and the daughter who got 'a bit heavy-handed' doesn't share the same father so presumably isn't visiting there, how are they the best of friends? Nothing hangs together in this tale. Perhaps you're changing ages and sex of children to stop it being outing? Perhaps you had to choose the 16-year-old at the time as she had nowhere else to go, whereas the 11-year-old had her father? I'd be prepared to believe either of those scenarios, but at the moment it's all blame blame blame and vindictiveness that's coming across.

NoWittyNamesAvailable · 30/12/2018 11:19

I have a headache trying to make sense of all the back tracking

Augusta2012 · 30/12/2018 12:15

the absolute worst you could level at my parenting is being too upset by court proceedings and other goings on to nip teenagers nonsense in the bud.

But that’s awful even if you think it’s acceptable. Plenty of women manage to go through custody cases at court without becoming so distraught they can no longer do basic parenting. What you’re basically saying is that you were too busy wallowing in self pity to make sure your children were safe and well.

You don’t seem to have any capacity to put your children’s needs and feelings over your own everything is “me, me, me”.

Just leave the 15 yo alone. She’s made it very clear she does not want to live with you.

DanielRicciardosSmile · 30/12/2018 17:12

I think we need this starting from scratch. What with the drip feed, the contradictory posts and the ignoring of pertinent questions I don't think anyone has the faintest idea what the hell is going on.

NotTheFordType · 31/12/2018 08:22

@DanielRicciardosSmile

Don't even bother, seriously. I just realised I've wasted far too much of my time and emotional energy on OPs previous posts (which are usually in Chat or 30 days, presumably so there's no "evidence".

I tried to post something sympathetic yesterday, OP jumped down my throat. Tells me all I need to know.

GimmeGimmeHellYeah · 31/12/2018 09:18

Am I the only one who recognises this postet/story, or does anyone else?

Notacluethisxmas · 31/12/2018 09:20

GimmeGimmeHellYeah no, it's definitely been posted before. Probably on the boards where stuff disappears.

KittensAndChristmasCake · 31/12/2018 12:13

Poor bloody kids, that's all I can say Sad

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 31/12/2018 12:26

Don't even bother, seriously. I just realised I've wasted far too much of my time and emotional energy on OPs previous posts (which are usually in Chat or 30 days, presumably so there's no "evidence".

Well in one of the other threads OP says she is a childminder ShockShock

MrsChollySawcutt · 31/12/2018 12:54

I saw that thread - not sure she is a CM yet, but definitely planning to be one very soon!

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 31/12/2018 14:06

Well how ridiculous Shock
Would SS/the council allow someone whose child has been removed, albeit to the DH's care, to become a CM?

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