Not want ex to leave a 15 and 17 year old alone for a week

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When the 15 year old has been hospitalised with anxiety.
SS aren’t interested, he left them for 3 days. They didn’t care. Am
Banging my head against a brick wall

Is this the ex you seem to have said on other posts is getting married? Is this his honeymoon?

Well, presumably the older daughter won't be there this time, so it will probably be fine. Your older daughter is what, about 20? Unless she has some sort of disability, I'd tell her she needs to move, and get your younger daughters back with you. If that's what they want.

PostcodeJack - I honestly don’t know, not interested.
I think you’re missing the point steff, older one hasn’t done anything worthy of being asked to move out. It was orchestrated by ex

I just wonder if that's the reason for your sudden concern about your child whom you rejected after another one of her siblings bullied and hit her, your child you haven't spoken to since August and your child who seems to be cracking on without you?

PostcodeJack - not really cracking on at all though, she’s being hospitalised for anxiety - hardly thriving is it ?

Apologies if I've got the wrong end of the stick, but, even if it's not his honeymoon, YABU. If he's that awful then she'll see it at some point and may come home. But frankly, since you're not exactly covering yourself in glory on this thread, I doubt it

You do realise that you rejecting is probably a huge factor in her anxiety, don't you?

And that’s my major concern, she’s already seeing it, so if she ends up on the streets because she’s been told she shouldn’t live with me and he’s a moron. And I did nothing. Brilliant

Notacluethisxmas - I did not reject her.

I think you’re missing the point steff, older one hasn’t done anything worthy of being asked to move out.

But didn’t you say in another post that you bought your eldest a house? So she is moving out anyway (although I still think being heavy handed with a much younger sibling is worthy of asking them to move out to protect the younger).

GloryforGloves - we are all currently living in that house right now whilst the other is renovated and it’s 200 miles from the ex

She was 16 GloryforGloves, she would have been in a homeless shelter, so no I wasn’t going to kick her out.

Oh and not only that, they are all best friends now. As is perfectly normal with sibling relationships they fall out and make up, happens a lot quicker if your father doesn’t take you down the police station

The police and SS do not get involved in normal sisterly spats.

They do however get involved when 16 year olds assault 11 year olds. And rightly so.

Nicknacky - and they didn’t .... they told him to get lost

SS didn’t tell him to “get lost”

I really can’t follow this

I want him to not go away for a week and leave his kids

So this is basically what it’s about. It’s about control and trying to ruin your partner’s trip. I don’t think you give a flying fig about the 15 yo’s welfare, you didn’t care when she was assaulted did you? You’re using your children as pawns to get to your ex. Absolutely disgraceful behaviour.

He did however spend years telling her I was awful

I think your ex has made a correct assessment of you.

My mistake was playing into his hands and that day in the hospital when I was told you give permission for him to take her or she goes into care because she won’t go with you, I look back and wonder if she’d gone into care if she’d be back home by now. Who in earth wants that for their child though.

No, your mistake was being such a shit mother your child would rather go into care than live under the same roof as you.

It is hilarious the replies, I realise it is my fault you don’t know the ins and outs I’m choosing not to share them but you’d have a very different view

I don’t think it’s funny at all. You sound like a deeply selfish and narcissistic woman who is incapable of empathy or seeing her children as anything other than tools for your games. I just think it’s tragic that those poor children will all have been horrendously damaged by your so called ‘mothering’. Nothing hilarious about it at all.

Nicknacky - yes they did, the only reason I had to “choose” between them was because little one wouldn’t come home with big one there. SS were perfectly happy for the other three children to live together. As the PO said, if had that much concern about what was happening under my roof why did he leave the other two kids there ?

Augusta2012 - we having been through court twice, every professional we met disagrees with you

I have no idea why.

Ok op, I will just agree with you. He’s a shit dad. You, on the other hand are an absolute perfect parent and she is lucky to have you.

Is that what you want to hear?

Nicknacky - I don’t need you to agree. Page 1 a plan of action was devised I’ll be sticking with that

Page 1 of this thread? I don’t see any plan there.

Between the drip feeding and changing of the story, no one can give you advice.

You clearly want to hurt your head in the sand. Pretend you are great and he is dick. Crack on.

Okay, well forget the backstories all of the confusing dynamics at please here: there is nothing you can do.

Ex is the resident parent of DD 15. His judgment is that it is fine to go. Your 17 year old is happy to look after 15 year old. SS don’t care. Police don’t care. You aren’t in contact with 15 year old to do anything anyway; ergo you do nothing.