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Dilemma - do I hurt DD's feelings or endure the pong

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YankeeCandlePong · 26/12/2018 11:24

Lovely DD(13) is very proud of herself because this year she has used her own pocket money to buy gifts for DH and me. Problem is she has bought me a huge Yankee Candle (amaretto apple). I've not even lit it yet and the smell is nauseating me.

Do I tell her I appreciate the thought but could we please change it? Or do I endure the stink for the next year? And it will last a year as the bloody thing is huge!

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Pollypopit · 26/12/2018 11:27

I would ask if you could pick a new flavour - but emphasis how much you love the actual thought and candle idea!

Jaxtellerswife · 26/12/2018 11:27

I would endure and love it (or pretend) if she's very proudGrin

NewYorkDoll3 · 26/12/2018 11:27

I would ask her if you can swap it if she has the receipt. I am sure she won't mind.

Shiklah · 26/12/2018 11:27

I would get it lit now and over and done with! I'd then be sure to find a candle I do like and make a big song and dance about how lovely it is before next Xmas in case she gets the same 2 years running!

HairyDogsFeet · 26/12/2018 11:28

Just burn it.

madcatladyforever · 26/12/2018 11:29

Endure it, or she will be very hurt. Leve it to birn for hours on end in the shed.

OyOy · 26/12/2018 11:29

Ooooh, difficult!

To spare her is how you get the same candle for the next 30 years!

But I can just picture her going out, sniffing each one - thinking "this is it! This is the one Mum would love! And waiting in line, having to do the transaction. Paying for it with her own cash, smuggling it home, wrapping it up. Excitedly watching you as you unwrap..."

So on balance - you've gots to keep it and hope for noseblindness?

TruckLoadOfSubtleGlitter · 26/12/2018 11:30

I wouldn't be able to endure it. But smells and noises send me mad.

I would compliment her choice hugely and just nicely ask if I could exchange it for another.

Thing is, Yankee candles are really expensive as well so it's a lot of money to waste just to endure it and never light it.

SnuggyBuggy · 26/12/2018 11:30

It might smell better lot (clutching at straws)

StorminaBcup · 26/12/2018 11:30

Swap it but I'd say I'm allergic to one of the ingredients in that particular scent and you've only just realised. She'll want to light it and it will hurt her feelings more if you keep stalling in the future.

Firstbornunicorn · 26/12/2018 11:31

Burn it while you're cooking??
Or maybe for a few days solid when you have a horrible cold?
They burn down a lot more quickly than you'd think, considering how expensive they are.

NotAnotherJaffaCake · 26/12/2018 11:32

Endure endure endure. She’ll be super upset if you tell her, and it’s really sweet that she’s made such an effort.

QueenCarrot · 26/12/2018 11:33

Smell is one of the things you get used to very quickly. I bet you won’t even notice it in a few days time. I wouldn’t tell her, though I probably would find one I did like and point it out to her in case of a repeat next time.

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YankeeCandlePong · 26/12/2018 11:33

Thanks for replies. It's huge and I honestly think it will take months to kill the thing?

I'd then be sure to find a candle I do like and make a big song and dance about how lovely it is before next Xmas in case she gets the same 2 years running!

I'd then be sure to find a candle I do like and make a big song and dance about how lovely it is before next Xmas in case she gets the same 2 years running!

Grin Good point!

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BrutusMcDogface · 26/12/2018 11:33

Ah I think it would really upset her if you changed it. Difficult one! Are you home in the day while she’s at school? Burn it in the garden/shed or something so she can see you’ve used it.

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YankeeCandlePong · 26/12/2018 11:34

It was such a good point I pasted it twice Blush

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TheProvincialLady · 26/12/2018 11:35

Light it a few times now and once she is out/back at school keep it permanently lit in the garden or garage until it is finished

formerbabe · 26/12/2018 11:36

Bless her...I wouldn't say anything. Put up and shut up!

2cats2many · 26/12/2018 11:36

Endure it. I was given a whole bunch of Body Shop strawberry smellies by my DD which she bought and chose herself. As far as she is aware, I'm as thrilled with them and I am with the Jo Malone stuff my DH gave to me.

MissCharleyP · 26/12/2018 11:38

Some of them smell better when lit, in fact they hardly smell at all. Could you put it in kitchen/dining room to take away food smell? Or somewhere prominent but neutral like hallway/landing? That way it’s there, being used but not in the same room as you? Next time I’d drop heavy hints about the fragrance you like - “I wasn’t round at Janes the other day and she had the Cherry one, it was gorgeous!” or similar.

Ggirl27 · 26/12/2018 11:39

For me I'd light it indoors once and tell her that it's so lovely you are going to save it for the summer and use it as a garden candle. No smell to endure inside then...

Cauliflowersqueeze · 26/12/2018 11:40

Saying you’re allergic to one of the ingredients is best. That way nobody’s feelings are hurt.

Witchend · 26/12/2018 11:40

I wouldn't swap it. She's probably considered very carefully. Either my dds would be hurt if I then said I wanted to swap it.

What I would do is ask lots of questions about Yankee candles and make comments along the lines of "oh wow! Lots of scents. I wonder how different they smell. Maybe I'll try a different scent another time" etc.

DanglyBangly · 26/12/2018 11:41

I would endure it and light it as much as possible, leaving it outside or somewhere, when she’s not home.

tinytreefrog · 26/12/2018 11:42

Suck it up and breath through your mouth. You don't want to upset her at Christmas.

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