Dilemma - do I hurt DD's feelings or endure the pong

[YankeeCandlePong]

Lovely DD(13) is very proud of herself because this year she has used her own pocket money to buy gifts for DH and me. Problem is she has bought me a huge Yankee Candle (amaretto apple). I've not even lit it yet and the smell is nauseating me.

Do I tell her I appreciate the thought but could we please change it? Or do I endure the stink for the next year? And it will last a year as the bloody thing is huge!

YankeeCandlePong I knew you weren't being ungrateful and that you appreciate the gift from your lovely DD, sorry if my post suggested otherwise.

Light it 5 mins before you know she's going out then once she's gone leave it burning in the shed. Repeat until it's gone.

Rave about a scent you like all year. Fingers crossed for next Christmas 🤞🏼

Can you buy a second (nicer) one and swap any labels etc?? Not bring it out for a bit so the original pong smell might be forgotten ?

Absolutely you’ll have to keep it. Maybe you could coat it in clear varnish to seal it in and then not light it because “you love it so much”.

Alternatively, try just putting it outside when she’s not at home and hope the smell diminishes as it ages.

I quite like that one, we got a little one for DS teacher . I wouldn’t say anything - just burn it near an open window 🙈. Agree with the PP who suggested you make a big deal about one you do like over the next year so you don’t keep getting it.

@Bloomini - I've sent you a PM.

The thing is, DD is incredibly resilient so I think she'd be pragmatic about it. However, having read your replies there's no way in hell I'm going to risk that!

We're going to have tea then watch a film in the front room with the candle burning. Will report back!

Do you need us on standby to call someone if you all pass out from the pong? (Worried)

Good idea - if I've not posted by 6pm - alert the emergency services!

Could you accidentally knock it off the shelf??

Buy another Yankee candle that’s a similar colour but has nicer scent and then peel label off of offensive one and put onto nicer one.

Whisky that's a lovely idea your mum had to frame it and put it beside her bed. It showed she was obviously pleased by the thought that went into the gift. I was so excited when I bought the ring for my mum. I still remember her showing my aunt over the dinner table and them exchanging a look discussing how lovely it was. Only now so I realise they were being insincere 😂

How was the pong YankeeCandle?

Oh god, I know exactly how you feel! My DS bought me Yankee candles very Christmas, birthday and Mother's Day for about 4 years in a row! In the end I said to him that, I was very grateful, but for some reason they had started to give me headaches.

I had a slight reprieve! DD announced she was going to have a bath and a "pamper session" So I graciously offered her my new candle to enhance the experience.

My DS bought me Yankee candles very Christmas, birthday and Mother's Day for about 4 years in a row!

This is my fear. As it's my birthday and Mother's Day in March, I've decided that early February, I'm going to develop an allergy to Yankee Candles and subtly guide her towards other non-smelly gift ideas. From now til then I will just have to endure the bloody thing!

How's it smell now it's been lit?

Not to my liking but DD loved it so I'll let it reside in her bedroom!

Love the gift she gave you. Don’t hurt her.

Tell her or you run the risk of her thinking it’s your favourite. Alternatively, go shopping and mention you particularly love this one and this one is your favourite - repeat several times over just to ensure she gets the hint!

That’s a great outcome! Say smells are unique and it seems she likes this one more than you so she can have it and you’ll go shopping with her to pick another one.

There really is no dilemma. Your kid picked the scent SHE liked. Explain you love Yankee candles (and the expense) but scent is too strong, nauseating, irritated your nose, WHATEVER., And let's go together and select a different one and see what else they have. Good time to learn concept of gift exchange etc. Why suffer with something you hate. She can leave more about what you love. Also a good chance to learn about what you honestly like. NEVER EVER suffer in silence.

Candles burning are designed to smell lovely when burned, which means if you sniff an unlit one you can be disappointed. Give it a go!

ah how nice of her but id definitrely ask if she doesnt mind if you pick a scent yoruself-everyone has different tastes explain its like picking aperfume

Why would it upset her? There are literally hundreds of candle scents. The child didn't create the scent personally. Time for a grown-up in training (she's 13yo) to learn to get things people not just like (a Yankee candle) but can APPRECIATE (A Favorite scent). Don't lie to her that's just more creepy

sorry i see ytouve already lit-maybe go in the shop next time sniff a few point out which ones u like