To think vodka shots at home are unacceptable?

[lilliem]

Me and my friends think so! DH thinks it's fine... both DDs have bought shot glasses and 40% vodka!!! Planning on having shots tonight, isn't that something you really don't do at home?

You'll all be happy to hear the eldest is back in bed, feeling unwell. Of course they can do what they like, but it is disappointing.

disappointing...

Christmas is actually all about you, your priorities, your timetable, your idea of how things should be, in your house isn't it, or has been for the last 20 years?

My god OP, I'm glad you're not my mum. She was actually pretty cool with the fact that I rolled in just as dinner was being served one year, I think I was about 20.

Honestly OP do you want them there?

Everything you’re saying sounds like they’re just a massive annoyance to you.

They’re not little children who will be up at the crack of dawn.

Bet the atmosphere in that house is delightful.

OP simmering with resentment and disapproval - not really surprising that one of them has gone back to bed!

You daughter has gone to bed to get away from your cat's bum gob

That is what Christmas with young adult children is like. They'll calm down again in a few years but for now you either roll with it or alienate them so they don't want to spend Christmas with you.

My DH is asleep on the sofa...your DD probably felt that she couldn't do that without judgement so went back to bed. If you can't relax in your own house at Christmas when can you?

Carry on like you have been doing in this thread and you won't have to worry about them getting pissed at home next Christmas, OP.

"it is disappointing."

Why though? I'm genuinely curious.

They're at home! Make the most of it while you still have them there for a family Christmas

Loosen and lighten up OP. Maybe you should have done some shots and let your hair down!

She needs another shot, hair of the dog!

I’m a few hours behind the uk, it’s just coming up to 8am. I’ll be having a coffee then a glass of champers to start the day 😁

Ok it seems like you don't want to accept it's a change if Xmas. Calling them at 9am after you know they've been drinking. What are you thinking?

When they get up offer them a hair of the dog!

My aunt's trying to get us ratarsed. She's bought us Baileys, Cockburns and Irish coffees that you microwave.

You can get just as drunk on wine or gin and tonic or whatever, and do so in a bar, a restaurant or wherever. I don't understand why specifically drinking vodka in your own house would be any more weird or unacceptable than drinking lots of any kind of alcohol in any location.

at the poster who said drinking alcohol is as bad as taking heroin. Ha! I know the general consensus on MN is that having half a glass of baileys makes you an alcoholic but fuck me this little nugget of lunacy is stuff of legends!

At that age we would play drinking games with board games at Christmas so yes to the vodka shots

Not so much now I’m older!

If I wasn't the youngest child in my family I would think you were my mum OP. Do you also passive aggressively hoover at 6.30am because they haven't got up yet and the worst character trait you could possibly have is being someone who likes a lie-in?

Blum

Oops pressed send to soon.

Op I hate to jump on the bandwagon but you sound horribly uptight. I hope you had a good day in spite of your children 'spoiling' it for you

I've just walked round to my friend's house. I was greeted with a tequila....and there are children present!! Oh the horror!! Lol

I can see it's not ideal to be so hungover on Christmas Day that you end up back in bed, but I do think family traditions have to adapt as kids grow up.

Yes, everyone may have been up early for years because the kids were little but they aren't now, so letting everyone have a lovely lie in seems a good option. We've switched our Christmas dinner to the evening now, and have a brunch and then an early dinner. No rushing round prepping turkeys in the morning, time for a walk etc, no need to hurry to get up in the morning. Traditions can change without it being an issue.

(I've also played drinking games with family, and in fact had to peel my own mother off the walls when she got really hammered, so everyone gives as good as they get here!)

@lilliem fucksake your a wet blanket!!
Must be a koy to be your other half!!

Lillie,

I am in your side here!

Either they are adults (as people keep saying) and should enjoy their drink but soldier on through Christmas Day, helping, joining in and being cheerful. Or, they are children and should be limited in what they drink.

I don’t buy adult children having all the rights but none of the responsibilities of an adult.

Responses on this type of thread are so different when it is a husband and not an adult child.

Well done on you for having high expectations of them and, contrary to what many have said, it is probably the fact that you act as a parent and not a mate that makes them stay at home rather than partying out.